Iron Mike. Oh, man.

A part of every football fan just died with “Da Coach” himself.

Myself, I can’t believe he’s gone. Mike Ditka died Friday at 86.

Somehow the guy seemed immortal, like an Easter Island statue, like a high rift in the granite mantle of the Earth itself.

Every Chicagoan is diminished in some way with Mike Ditka not here anymore.

Was the guy perfect? Ha! Not even close.

But, brother, was he a competitor, a character, a warm, caring, nasty, walking, talking whirlwind of ferocity, tenderness and crazy contradictions. Kind of like this city itself, the Chicago he adopted despite his roots in Aliquippa, Pennsylvania.

I mean, Ditka didn’t just wear his heart on his sleeve. The dude wore it on a banner he carried high above him, daring anyone to say he was wrong about anything, to challenge him, to show they had more passion for his beloved game of football and winning and stomping the earth than he did.

A decade ago, I asked him about life moving so fast — days long, maybe, but years flying by. He grinned that slight, somewhat impish grin he had, behind that mustache he kept even when mustaches weren’t cool, the bristle brush that became part of his logo, in that face of his that truly resembled a bear’s. He’d thought about the ending.

“I’m coming around third in this life,” he said, “going for home with a headfirst slide.”

Is that not perfect?

Bears Hall of Fame tight end Mike Ditka during training camp at St. Joseph’s College in Rensselaer, Indiana, Aug. 5, 1963.

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Chicago Bears tight end Mike Ditka (No. 89) snares a pass and is hit by Los Angeles Rams defensive back Carver Shannon during the second quarter of a game at Wrigley Field Nov. 10, 1963.

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Mike Ditka hauls in a pass from quarterback Bill Wade for touchdown in the second quarter of a game at Wrigley Field Aug. 8, 1964.

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Chicago Bears quarterback Rudy Bukich ( No. 10) flips a 3-yard touchdown pass to tight end Mike Ditka (No. 89) during a game at Wrigley Field Oct. 24, 1965.

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Chicago Bears tight end Mike Ditka (No. 89) catches a pass from quarterback Rudy Bukich in the first quarter of a game at Wrigley Field Nov. 8, 1965.

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Chicago Bears tight end Mike Ditka (No. 89) snares a throw from quarterback Rudy Bukich during the second quarter of a game against the Los Angeles Rams at Wrigley Field Dec. 10, 1965.

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Mike Ditka, new head coach of the Chicago Bears, demonstrates a running drill for his players at the opening of the Bears’ training camp at Lake Forest College July 26, 1982.

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Bears coach Mike Ditka shows off a head stand during a workout in Lake Forest Aug. 11, 1982.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka introduces the team’s first round draft pick Wilber Marshall to the media May 1, 1984.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka talks with players at training camp July 30, 1985.

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Chicago Bears coach Mike Ditka chats with Dallas Cowboys coach Tom Landry before a game starts at Texas Stadium Nov. 17, 1985.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka speaks with quarterback Jim McMahon during a timeout against the Tampa Bay Buccaneers at Solder Field Sept. 8, 1985.

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Mike Ditka stops William Perry when he tries to enter the game during the third quarter against the Atlanta Falcons at Soldier Field Nov. 24, 1985.

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Chicago Bears defensive end Richard Dent hugs coach Mike Ditka after the victory over New England in Super Bowl XX Jan. 26, 1986.

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Chiago Bears coach Mike Ditka is carried off the field by defensive linemen William Perry and Steve McMichael after the Bears defeated the New England Patriots 46-10 in Super Bowl XX Jan. 26, 1986.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka is carried off the field by Steve McMichael (from left) and William Perry after the Bears win Super Bowl XX in New Orleans, defeating the New England Patriots 46-10. Also shown are Willie Gault (No. 83 ) and Maury Buford (No. 8)

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Chicago Bear head coach Mike Ditka talks to President Ronald Reagan after Super Bowl XX in New Orleans Jan. 27, 1986.

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Chicago Bears coach Mike Ditka stands up in a limo to wave to fans during the Super Bowl victory parade on LaSalle Street in the Loop Jan. 27, 1986.

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Fans hold a “Ditka for Mayor sign” at the Washington Redskins vs. Chicago Bears playoff football game at Soldier Field, Jan. 10, 1987.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka stands on the sidelines during the Washington Redskins playoff game at Soldier Field Jan. 10, 1987.

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Mike Ditka (from left), Ken Harrelson, Michael Jordan and Jim McMahon on the golf course during the Pro Celebrity Skins Game for charity at Butler National Golf Course in Oak Brook July 28, 1987

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka takes a swing during the Pro Celebrity Skins Game for charity at Butler National Golf Course in Oak Brook July 28, 1987.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka and the Bulls’ Michael Jordan chat during the Pro Celebrity Skins Game for charity at Butler National Golf Course in Oak Brook July 28, 1987.

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Chicago Bears football coach Mike Ditka gestures as talk show host Johnny Carson listens during a taping of “The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson” in Burbank, Calif., Jan. 20, 1987. Ditka said he would reevaluate his situation with the Bears at the end of next season.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka talks to quarterback Mike Tomczak during a preseason game against the Miami Dolphins in August 1987.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka talks to quarterback Mike Tomczak during a preseason game agains the Miami Dolphins in August 1987.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka pushes Emery Moorehead into the game on a 3rd-down play against the Minnesota Vikings at Soldier Field Oct. 11, 1987.

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Class of 1988 Pro Football Hall of Fame inductees Fred Biletnikoff (from left), Mike Ditka, Jack Ham and Alan Page stand before their friends, family and fans at the conclusion of the 26th Annual Enshrinement Ceremony in Canton, Ohio July 30, 1988.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka watches practice from his customized golf cart July 23, 1988.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka instructs quarterback Jim McMahon during the Bears 24-6 victory over the Green Bay Packers at Lambeau Field in Green Bay, Wisconsin, Sept. 25, 1988.

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Head coach Mike Ditka of the Chicago Bears instructs quarterback Mike Tomczak during the Bears 24-6 victory over the Green Bay Packers at Lambeau Field in Green Bay, Wisconsin Sept. 25, 1988.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka stands on the sidelines during a game against the Detroit Lions at Soldier Field Dec. 11, 1988.

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Mike Ditka gives the charge sign to his pro partner, Jim Benepe, during a Pro-Celebrity Skins Game for charity at Butler National Golf Course June 27, 1989.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka watches Bears players during a summer camp workout at the University of Wisconsin-Platteville in July 1989. Onlookers sit on the lawn by the field in the background.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka works with a player during the summer camp workout at the University of Wisconsin-Platteville in August 1989.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka watches Bears players during a summer camp workout at the University of Wisconsin-Platteville in August 1989.

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Chicago Bears coach Mike Ditka is restrained from going after the referee by defensive end Richard Dent (No. 95) after a disputed call on a pass play in the first half of a game against the Minnesota Vikings Dec. 3, 1989, in Minneapolis. The call against the Bears forced them to punt.

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Mike Ditka, at the Marshall Field’s on State Street June 15, 1990, signed autographs for people who bought his new cologne, Iron Mike, sold exclusively in the Chicago area.

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The Chicago Bears football team, including coach Mike Ditka, arrive for their first practice at the McBubble, the Bears’ new indoor practice facility at 3550 Amhurst Parkway in Waukegan, Nov. 21, 1990.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka stands on the sidelines before a preseason game against the Las Vegas Raiders at Soldier Field Aug. 23, 1990.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka stands on the sidelines during a game in 1991.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka stands on the sidelines Sept. 21, 1992, at Soldier Field as the Bears lose to the New York Giants, 27-14.

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Chicago Bears coach Mike Ditka has a few words for quarterback Jim Harbaugh after an interception in the fourth quarter of the Bears game against the Vikings in Minneapolis Oct. 5, 1992.

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Chicago Bears coach Mike Ditka argues with a reporter during a day-after-game news conference at Halas Hall in Lake Forest, Oct. 20, 1992.

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Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka talks with reporters after being fired by team president Michael McCaskey (background), in Lake Forest, Ill., Jan. 5, 1993. Ditka was fired after 11 years as head coach of the Bears.

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Mike Ditka talks to reporters at Halas Hall in Lake Forest after being fired by the Chicago Bears, Jan. 5, 1993.

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Former Chicago Bears running back Walter Payton (left) greets his former coach, Mike Ditka, now the coach of the New Orleans Saints, during pregame warm-ups before the Saints-Bears game at Soldier Field Aug. 22, 1997.

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New Orleans Saints head coach Mike Ditka watches his team play against his former team, the Chicago Bears, during the first half at Soldier Field Oct. 3, 1999.

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New Orleans Saints coach Mike Ditka leaves the field after the Saints’ 45-13 loss to the Carolina Panthers at Ericsson Stadium in Charlotte, N.C., Jan. 2, 2000. Ditka was fired as coach of the Saints three days later.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka throws out the first pitch before the Chicago Cubs game against the Los Angeles Dodgers at Wrigley Field Aug. 25, 2000.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka acknowledges the crowd’s applause after throwing out the first pitch before the Chicago Cubs game against the Los Angeles Dodgers at Wrigley Field Aug. 25, 2000.

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Chicago Rush co-owner Mike Ditka talks briefly with the players after practice at the Chicago Rush arena football team practice facility in Hoffman Estates Jan. 12, 2005.

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Mike Ditka talks with Chicago Sun-Times reporter Lacy Banks after introducing “Grabowski,” the new mascot for the Chicago Rush arena football team at Ditka’s restaurant Sept. 27, 2005.

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Mike Ditka and actor Will Ferrell in the 2005 movie “Kicking and Screaming”

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During a congressional hearing on the National Football League’s system for compensating retired players, Hall of Fame tight end and head coach Mike Ditka listens to testimony June 26, 2007, in Washington, DC. Former players and coaches, including Ditka, Harry Carson and Curt Marsh were scheduled to testify before a subcommittee of the House Judiciary Committee.

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Mike Ditka blows out candles to celebrate his 71st birthday Oct. 14, 2010, during a radiocast show with “Waddle & Silvy” at Ditka’s restaurant in Chicago.

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Former Chicago Bears head football coach Mike Ditka presents President Barack Obama with a jersey as the Bears Super Bowl-winning football team is honored on the South Lawn of the White House Oct. 7, 2011.

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Former Bears defensive coordinator Buddy Ryan (foreground) gestures as he walks in with former head coach Mike Ditka and President Barack Obama, during an event honoring the 1985 Super Bowl XX Champion Chicago Bears team on the South Lawn of the White House Oct. 7, 2011.

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Mike Ditka grills his new one-third pound Ditka Sausages during his outdoor Monster Sausage Cookout outside the Vienna Beef Factory Store and Cafe Oct. 8, 2013.

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Former Chicago Bears player and coach Mike Ditka speaks as his No. 89 is retired during a halftime ceremony of an NFL football game Dec. 9, 2013.

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Former Chicago Bears player and coach Mike Ditka speaks as his No. 89 is retired during a halftime ceremony of an NFL football game Dec. 9, 2013.

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Mike Ditka speaks during a City Club of Chicago panel discussion on concussions in the NFL at Maggiano’s Banquets in River North Sept. 12, 2016.

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Former NFL coach Mike Ditka stands with Chicago Cubs manager Joe Maddon during the national anthem before a game against the Colorado Rockies at Wrigley Field June 8, 2017.

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Mike Ditka takes the stage during the Chicago Bears convention at the Donald E. Stephens Convention Center in Rosemont June 7, 2019.

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Chicago Bears legend Mike Ditka walks the Orange Carpet during the Chicago Bears convention at the Donald E. Stephens Convention Center in Rosemont June 7, 2019.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka speaks during a ceremony for the unveiling of statues of Hall of Famers Walter Payton and George Halas outside Gate 0 at Soldier Field Sept. 3, 2019.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka speaks during a ceremony for the unveiling of statues of Hall of Famers Walter Payton and George Halas outside Gate 0 at Soldier Field Sept. 3, 2019.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka signs autographs before a ceremony for the unveiling of statues of Hall of Famers Walter Payton and George Halas outside Gate 0 at Soldier Field Sept. 3, 2019.

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Former Chicago Bears head coach Mike Ditka signs autographs before a ceremony for the unveiling of statues of Hall of Famers Walter Payton and George Halas outside Gate 0 at Soldier Field Sept. 3, 2019.

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Everything Ditka did — be it playing football, coaching, selling products, yakking on TV, golfing, dealing cards for gin rummy, pontificating on anything under the sun — he did headfirst. That’s the only way he knew to move forward.

Don’t forget he was a very good baseball player, too — and if he’d been as passionate about hitting a ball as he was about hitting safeties, it’s possible he could have gone far in that sport. Ponder this: You’re a catcher, and a full-tilt Ditka, sans helmet, is coming at you from third base, headfirst, flat-topped noggin looking like a blacksmith’s anvil.

Help!

I mean, here’s where we stop and laugh the good laugh. Which is what Ditka would want us all to do.

Because he had a sense of humor. And he was self-deprecating and able to make fun of his flaws and juvenile rages and petty grievances. When he broke his right hand after punching a locker after a tough Bears loss and then the next week told his players pregame, “Win one for Lefty,” that’s good stuff.

It’s why Chicago loved him. We love winners. We love guys who lay it all on the line. But we don’t like phonies or stuck-up snobs or cocky rich athletes who don’t appreciate hard work and the meaning of giving your all.

Sometimes Ditka went from one side of the fence to the other, and maybe even back again, depending on his mood. His dad was a steel mill union laborer in Aliquippa, but Mike continued to coach the Bears even when scab players crossed the picket line in 1987. Then he defended the union and all retired players when the head trauma issues came to the fore and too many ex-players faced physical and financial ruin.

He blamed himself often for his impetuousness. After he retaliated against the Lions in 1985 for a perceived slight in an earlier game by having Dave Duerson take out Detroit kicker Eddie Murray on a legal but unneeded hit, he felt guilty.

“I was younger and madder than they were,” he told me years later of the Lions coaches.

But anger isn’t his lasting legacy.

Genuineness is. And passion. And winning. (That Super Bowl XX championship team recedes like a vapor, doesn’t it?)

But above all, Ditka, oddly, reminds us of love. He had so much of it sometimes, for so many things, he nearly exploded.

What a lovely man he was.