{"id":120886,"date":"2025-09-05T14:36:12","date_gmt":"2025-09-05T14:36:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/120886\/"},"modified":"2025-09-05T14:36:12","modified_gmt":"2025-09-05T14:36:12","slug":"dear-abby-im-hurt-by-what-my-son-asked-us-to-do-with-his-inheritance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/120886\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Abby: I\u2019m hurt by what my son asked us to do with his inheritance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"PWAKNEWHHZDG3HFKX4FXAST2M4\">I am an 80-year-old man who is recently retired and in relatively good health. My wife is about the same. We recently received a request from our son, who is 50, for his share of the inheritance now rather than later. It came as a shock. He is selling his company, which is valued at $7 million to $8 million. He tells me he is cash poor, which affects the leverage of his sale.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"OJIOM57CAZA4NCF2G55FHUE2BQ\">While we have the money, we would have to empty our savings and cash in some investments. We are not destitute by any means and can probably manage this, but I\u2019m wondering if I should be offended by the question of an advance inheritance. I\u2019ve never dealt with this before and wonder if you have any thoughts about the propriety. Should I involve my other children? It affects them, too.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"CXD7BRBTTJDQJL7RQVQLQP22J4\">\u2014Taken Aback in Texas<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"3CJUIMFPTRDWVAWQTNSV6SRKFU\">Dear Taken Aback: The people you should involve in this decision are your lawyer, your CPA, and your financial adviser. I hesitate to advise you to involve your other children at this point for fear it will start World War III.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"MROWHWMDJNC2LA23GM545QVYFM\">My wife constantly disrespects me. She\u2019s controlling and puts our son and his children ahead of me. She refuses counseling, while I go to counseling often. She doesn\u2019t want to cook for me or do anything that will make my life easier. All she does is complain, argue, and pick fights.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"K7QICLUODVA6XLFYSLIUGANQ5Q\">She has now allowed our son (who is a drug addict and alcoholic) and his two small children to live with us. I have no peace in my home, and I have remained faithful despite getting no affection. I have sacrificed 25 years to be with her, only to be constantly rejected. She hadn\u2019t healed from a toxic relationship before we were married, but I didn\u2019t know it was this bad. I need someone to love me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"UJMZYHBDHNA4RAB2EW4JFA7VFQ\">\u2014Alone in Michigan<\/p>\n<p>If you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation. By using this site, you consent to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.advancelocal.com\/advancelocalUserAgreement\/user-agreement.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">User Agreement<\/a> and agree that your clicks, interactions, and personal information may be collected, recorded, and\/or stored by us and social media and other third-party partners in accordance with our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.advancelocal.com\/advancelocalUserAgreement\/privacy-policy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">Privacy Policy.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am an 80-year-old man who is recently retired and in relatively good health. 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