{"id":44293,"date":"2025-08-05T02:47:11","date_gmt":"2025-08-05T02:47:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/44293\/"},"modified":"2025-08-05T02:47:11","modified_gmt":"2025-08-05T02:47:11","slug":"my-social-life-fell-apart-when-i-ditched-my-smartphone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/44293\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018My social life fell apart when I ditched my smartphone\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cI&#8217;d wake up in the morning, I&#8217;d be on my phone, I jump on the bus to uni, I&#8217;d be on my phone. I&#8217;d be in my class, I&#8217;d sneak a look at my phone. And then I&#8217;d come back from uni, be on my phone.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Adam de Jong, 22, swapped his smartphone for a \u2018dumb phone\u2019 for two-and-a-half-years to fight his phone dependency.  <\/p>\n<p>It worked but it also made him a \u201csocial liability\u201d, he says. <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tvnz.co.nz\/news\/news-clips-str-30nxkhqbwrl5acti2flonttqhuu-1754295055110\/why-quitting-my-smartphone-for-2-years-made-me-a-social-liability-in-depth\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Watch the full video on TVNZ+<\/a><\/p>\n<p>More than half of 18 to 24 year-olds-in New Zealand feel addicted to their smartphones, according to research from Victoria University of Wellington lecturer Alex Beattie.  <\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s made dumb phones a popular choice for people wanting to lower their screentime.  <\/p>\n<p>The phones, also called \u2018feature phones\u2019, only have basic functions like calling and texting.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"text-greyDarkFaded\">The morning&#8217;s headlines in 90 seconds, including the West Auckland builder sentenced over massive meth haul, fire on a commuter train, and how Bluey could teach kids about resilience. (Source: 1News)<\/p>\n<p>When Adam decided to switch to a dumb phone, he was going through one of his hardest semesters of university and considered dropping out.  <\/p>\n<p>\u201cMan, I felt like my phone was consuming my life,\u201d he says.  <\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnd I just had these visions, these fantasies of going to a bridge and throwing my phone off as far as I could.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Adam was studying a visual arts degree and says his smartphone kept taking his eyes downwards when he should have been looking out at nature.  <\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/adam-de-jong-PAO3KEOZC5B5DMKW7IARCNOOII.jpg\" alt=\"Adam de Jong.\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"ImageMetadata__MetadataParagraph-sc-hi5x8q-0 iSFjhz image-metadata\">Adam de Jong. (Source: Re: News)<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat I really liked about my dumb phone is that it took a lot of effort to do anything. And when I was out, I couldn&#8217;t just pull out my phone and start scrolling.\u201d  <\/p>\n<p>He says the most important lesson he learned from using a dumb phone was that he didn&#8217;t need to be online and accessible to people all the time, adding that these \u201cweird social expectations\u201d don\u2019t match up with our \u201csocial reality\u201d.  <\/p>\n<p>End of the experiment<\/p>\n<p>However, Adam says he eventually switched back to a smartphone \u201cmostly because I felt like my social life was falling apart\u201d.  <\/p>\n<p>He realised there were many tasks he couldn\u2019t do without a smartphone, including:  <\/p>\n<p>Doing a bank transferUsing Google MapsCarrying e-ticketsReceiving event invites<\/p>\n<p>Texting became a pain, he says, so anytime he received a text he would have to weigh up if responding was worth the effort of typing the message out on a dumb phone keyboard.  <\/p>\n<p>\u201cBefore I got a dumb phone, I thought I was an excellent communicator, and then I got a dumb phone and I kind of stopped caring,\u201d Adam says. <\/p>\n<p>Learning to disconnect is a skill <\/p>\n<p>Beattie, at Victoria University, researches ways in which people manage their screentime and says more than half of 18- to 24-year-old New Zealanders really struggle to disconnect from the internet.  <\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/brick-is-a-device-that-can-temporarily-lock-someone-out-of-s-2LGOXA5W5BA7DKC6SOUHVESLCI.jpg\" alt=\"Brick is a device that can temporarily lock someone out of specific apps.\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"ImageMetadata__MetadataParagraph-sc-hi5x8q-0 iSFjhz image-metadata\">Brick is a device that can temporarily lock someone out of specific apps. (Source: Re: News)<\/p>\n<p>He says the biggest barrier to giving up a smartphone is experiencing FOMO \u2013 the fear of missing out \u2013 but there are tools like Brick which can temporarily lock you out of apps that are distracting you.  <\/p>\n<p>Beattie says older people who blame younger people for being addicted to their phones don\u2019t realise how different the world was when they were growing up.  <\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/alex-beattie-is-a-lecturer-at-victoria-university-of-welling-5SSN6XYCQBBEBFUDCSGPLMQLVI.jpg\" alt=\"Alex Beattie is a lecturer at Victoria University of Wellington.\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/p>\n<p class=\"ImageMetadata__MetadataParagraph-sc-hi5x8q-0 iSFjhz image-metadata\">Alex Beattie is a lecturer at Victoria University of Wellington. (Source: Re: News)<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey would go to pubs. Things were cheaper or free. It&#8217;s just completely different now. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe thing about social media is it&#8217;s one of the only free things young people have. Of course they&#8217;re going to be on it all the time.\u201d  <\/p>\n<p>Watch the full video <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tvnz.co.nz\/news\/news-clips-str-30nxkhqbwrl5acti2flonttqhuu-1754295055110\/why-quitting-my-smartphone-for-2-years-made-me-a-social-liability-in-depth\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">on TVNZ+<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u201cI&#8217;d wake up in the morning, I&#8217;d be on my phone, I jump on the bus to uni,&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":44294,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[38747,64,63,203,38746,509,105],"class_list":["post-44293","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-mobile","tag-1news-recommends","tag-au","tag-australia","tag-mobile","tag-re-news","tag-social-issues","tag-technology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44293","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44293"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44293\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44294"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}