{"id":600094,"date":"2026-04-11T13:27:11","date_gmt":"2026-04-11T13:27:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/600094\/"},"modified":"2026-04-11T13:27:11","modified_gmt":"2026-04-11T13:27:11","slug":"musician-reveals-she-was-in-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship-with-huge-us-rock-star-i-couldnt-wear-certain-underwear-on-tour","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/600094\/","title":{"rendered":"Musician reveals she was in an emotionally ‘abusive’ relationship with huge US rock star: ‘I couldn’t wear certain underwear on tour’"},"content":{"rendered":"

The lead frontwoman of a popular Los Angeles<\/a> band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged ‘abusive’ relationship she had with a US rock star.<\/p>\n

Dorothy Martin, the lead singer of the rock band Dorothy, claims she was once trapped in a partnership with a ‘sadistic’ world-renowned musician from another popular band.<\/p>\n

The singer, 39, tells Daily Mail that while she legally can’t name her alleged abuser, she wishes to help other women by sharing her experiences.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Dorothy says that for the duration of this prior secret relationship, her life looked like a whirlwind of music, fame and freedom.<\/p>\n

But behind closed doors, she claims she was battling a deeply toxic relationship with a powerful man.<\/p>\n

‘He was… famous and successful. I won’t say his name because this isn’t about him,’ she says.<\/p>\n

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The lead frontwoman of a popular Los Angeles band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged ‘abusive’ relationship she had with a US rock star<\/p>\n

‘This is about giving survivors the strength to leave and recover from abuse,’ she adds.<\/p>\n

Dorothy says many assume her off-stage life is full of excess and excitement \u2013 but the truth couldn’t have been more different.<\/p>\n

Instead, she found herself trapped in a psychologically abusive relationship that left her emotionally shattered.<\/p>\n

She claims: ‘I knew things weren’t right because his actions and words wouldn’t line up. He would gaslight and lie to keep me off balance.<\/p>\n

‘He made promises of love and a future, but once he gained my trust he treated me with contempt and cruelty.<\/p>\n

‘The emotional and psychological abuse wrecked my nervous system.’\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

The singer says toxic partners often don’t show their true colours straight away.<\/p>\n

‘They mirror you, love-bomb you and get you hooked,’ she says.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Join the discussion<\/p>\n

Why do so many people miss early signs of emotional abuse in relationships, and how can we change this?<\/p>\n

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Dorothy Martin, 39, the lead singer of the rock band Dorothy, claims she was once trapped in a partnership with a ‘sadistic’ world-renowned musician from another popular band<\/p>\n

‘They gravitate towards empathetic people \u2013 people who shine \u2013 and then they drain them like vampires.’<\/p>\n

Looking back, Dorothy admits there were glaring red flags she wishes she had spotted sooner.<\/p>\n

‘My ex admitted to doing horrendous things in his previous marriage but always had an excuse,’ she claims.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘He also worked very hard to smear his ex, that was a major red flag that I didn’t take seriously enough.’<\/p>\n

She also warns that controlling behaviour can creep in slowly until it feels normal.<\/p>\n

Dorothy reveals her ex-partner would go so far as to control what undergarments she was allowed to wear while she left him at home to go away on tour with her band.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘In my case I was told I couldn’t have male friends. And I was even told I couldn’t wear certain underwear on tour,’ she says.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘That kind of control slowly becomes normalised.’<\/p>\n

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‘In my case I was told I couldn’t have male friends. And I was even told I couldn’t wear certain underwear on tour,’ she says\u00a0<\/p>\n

The turning point came in a chilling moment she says she will never forget.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘God kept revealing the truth in miraculous ways throughout this experience. I\u00a0recall<\/a>\u00a0the moment it was over for me,’ she says.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘I was on my knees in front of my suitcase on the floor crying, and he was smirking at me from the doorway.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘Seeing the sadistic way he seemed to enjoy hurting me was the final straw, and I knew that was my sign to leave. I called an\u00a0Uber<\/a>\u00a0and left.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘I had all my belongings moved out shortly after that.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘This man often used God and spirituality as a facade to manipulate me, but God actually intervened and protected His daughter. Faith gave me the strength to leave.’<\/p>\n

Dorothy claims the ordeal had a devastating impact on her mental health.<\/p>\n

‘My face got puffy from stress and cortisol and there were days I couldn’t get out of bed. The constant fight-or-flight of my nervous system completely drained me.’<\/p>\n

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Dorothy is best known by fans for her bluesy vocals, with acclaimed albums to her name such as ROCKISDEAD and Gifts From the Holy Ghost. Pictured with Dolly Parton<\/p>\n

After finally breaking free, she began the slow process of rebuilding her life.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘There was a grieving process. I grieved the person I thought he was and the future I thought we were going to have. Going no contact was imperative,’ she says.<\/p>\n

Now, Dorothy says she is determined to help other women do the same and break away from abusive relationships.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘Leaving an abuser is one of the hardest things and most important things you’ll do,’ she says.<\/p>\n

‘We often feel impaired, as abusers typically convince victims they are the problem. Be gentle with yourself and leave as safely and strategically as possible.<\/p>\n

‘Have an exit plan and don’t announce it. Trust the pattern, not their words.<\/p>\n

‘For those who believe in God, I believe one of the most powerful prayers is: “God if you didn’t send this person, remove them or remove me.”<\/p>\n

‘You don’t have to deal with leaving the relationship alone, even if it feels that way.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘Reach out to one person or service you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or a specialist support line, and work out your best exit plan.\u00a0<\/p>\n

‘Help is there for this exact situation, and asking for it can be the first real step toward leaving safely.’<\/p>\n

Dorothy adds: ‘My message to women is simple. You are loved. You are worthy. You deserve so much more. Do not be afraid to walk away.’\u00a0<\/p>\n

The Hungarian-born singer-songwriter is the frontwoman of LA-based rock band Dorothy, which formed in 2014.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Dorothy is best known by fans for her bluesy vocals and unapologetic rock style, with acclaimed albums to her name such as ROCKISDEAD and Gifts From the Holy Ghost.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you need someone to talk to about domestic violence, call 1800RESPECT or visit White Ribbon Australia’s website. In an emergency, call 000.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"The lead frontwoman of a popular Los Angeles band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged ‘abusive’…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":600095,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[64,63,100,134,481,2017,11523],"class_list":["post-600094","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-entertainment","tag-au","tag-australia","tag-dailymail","tag-entertainment","tag-los-angeles","tag-tvshowbiz","tag-uber"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/600094","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=600094"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/600094\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/600095"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=600094"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=600094"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=600094"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}