{"id":604692,"date":"2026-04-13T19:15:11","date_gmt":"2026-04-13T19:15:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/604692\/"},"modified":"2026-04-13T19:15:11","modified_gmt":"2026-04-13T19:15:11","slug":"college-student-reflects-on-mental-health-struggles-and-how-her-school-mom-and-school-dad-changed-her-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/604692\/","title":{"rendered":"College student reflects on mental health struggles and how her &#8220;school mom and school dad&#8221; changed her life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A college student at UCLA credits two of her former educators for changing the course of her life.<\/p>\n<p>When Caitlynn Hauw was in high school in San Diego she said she struggled with her mental health. Her mother, Vanessa Dang, was a single parent raising four kids and fighting breast cancer \u2013 so while Hauw worried about her mom, she kept her own struggles mostly to herself until she said she couldn&#8217;t anymore.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It got so bad to the point where I attempted suicide in my sophomore year of high school,&#8221; Hauw said. &#8220;I thought that everybody would just be better off without me in the world.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But Westview High School counselor Vanessa Ho and journalism teacher Jeff Wenger stepped in to help at the time Hauw needed it most.<\/p>\n<p>Wenger recalled Hauw would be absent from school for &#8220;a few days or stretches at a time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;When she was here, she was so locked in \u2026 and all in, and she was curious and engaged and interested in learning,&#8221; he said.<\/p>\n<p>At some point Ho said Hauw &#8220;fell off&#8221; and she &#8220;didn&#8217;t hear from her anymore,&#8221; which is when she started reaching out.<\/p>\n<p>Hauw&#8217;s mother emailed Ho and told her that her daughter was in the hospital following her December 2020 suicide attempt.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I think in those moments where you&#8217;re giving up on yourself and you feel like all hope is lost, they show you there&#8217;s humanity in the world and it gives you hope to just have a future,&#8221; Hauw said about how the two educators helped her.<\/p>\n<p>Hauw admitted she wasn&#8217;t going to apply to college until they encouraged her, &#8220;despite my very shoddy transcript and just my lack of hope and belief in myself,&#8221; she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She ended up being accepted into and attending UCLA.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Growing up, you know, it&#8217;s pretty daunting,&#8221; Wenger said. &#8220;The future, the uncertainty of everything, so anything we can do to just help encourage them and what Caitlynn really has going for her is that she has a heart.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Thank you for believing in me&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>CBS News shared Hauw&#8217;s words about how Ho and Wenger made an impact on her life with them and the three reunited.<\/p>\n<p>Once together, Hauw shared a letter she prepared for her &#8220;school mom and school dad.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She told Wenger that he instilled &#8220;feelings of confidence and competence&#8221; in her, while thanking Ho for providing stability in her life that &#8220;has meant the world.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You let me study under your table in your office. You let me cry laying down on the floor as other students side-eyed. When things got bad and I wouldn&#8217;t go to school, almost not graduating, you told me you would pick me up from my house if that&#8217;s what it took,&#8221; Hauw said to Ho.<\/p>\n<p>Hauw told Ho and Wegner how happy she is both in her academic and social lives, and that they changed her life &#8220;for the better.&#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I go to the gym consistently. I&#8217;m talking to a cute boy. I have therapy twice a week and a popping social life,&#8221; she said. &#8220;It&#8217;s funny because I almost didn&#8217;t graduate high school. I almost didn&#8217;t apply to colleges because I didn&#8217;t think I stood a chance. \u2026 I hope you know the impact you&#8217;ve had. Thank you for believing in me.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Hauw is now studying psychology in the hopes of helping others and says her mother is doing well.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you or someone you know is in emotional distress, get help from the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988. Trained crisis counselors are available 24 hours a day to talk about anything.<\/p>\n<p>In addition, help is available from the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nami.org\/findsupport\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">National Alliance on Mental Illness<\/a>, or NAMI. Call the NAMI Helpline at 800-950-6264. There are more than 600 local NAMI organizations and affiliates across the country, many of which offer free support and education programs.<\/p>\n<p>\n              Go deeper with The Free Press\n            <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A college student at UCLA credits two of her former educators for changing the course of her life.&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":604693,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[64,63,137,514,515],"class_list":{"0":"post-604692","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-health","8":"tag-au","9":"tag-australia","10":"tag-health","11":"tag-mental-health","12":"tag-mentalhealth"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/604692","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=604692"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/604692\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/604693"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=604692"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=604692"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=604692"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}