{"id":795617,"date":"2026-07-12T14:13:23","date_gmt":"2026-07-12T14:13:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/795617\/"},"modified":"2026-07-12T14:13:23","modified_gmt":"2026-07-12T14:13:23","slug":"told-me-that-i-should-not-show-up-woman-reveals-bizarre-reason-friend-told-her-not-to-attend-wedding-ceremony","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/795617\/","title":{"rendered":"‘Told me that I should not show up’: Woman reveals bizarre reason friend told her not to attend wedding ceremony"},"content":{"rendered":"

A woman has revealed the unusual reason her friend told her not to attend her wedding, sparking an online debate over whether the bride\u2019s request went too far.<\/p>\n

The 21-year-old woman shared that she was invited to a friend’s wedding, and the dress code was black tie.<\/p>\n

“I got invited to an acquaintance’s wedding. We aren’t close by any means. And we aren’t related. But it’s a wedding with a long guest list, so I wasn’t really surprised to be invited,” the woman wrote.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“On the card, it said that the wedding was a black-tie ceremony.”<\/p>\n

She added that she was a student and could not afford an expensive dress, but went out and bought a black dress for the occasion.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“So I bought a simple black dress specifically for the wedding, nothing extravagant, but I’m a broke student, and existing is a strain on my wallet.”<\/p>\n

She said she contacted the bride directly to make sure the gown fit the black-tie dress code.<\/p>\n

“But just to make sure, I sent a DM to the bride and asked if the dress was okay. And she said that it’s not, I should wear something pastel,” she wrote.<\/p>\n

The woman explained that after telling the bride she didn’t have any other options, she was told to “not show up” unless the dress was pastel.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“The bride wanted the pictures to look nice. I then told her that I didn’t really have anything good in pastel because I moved and left behind a lot of my stuff,” she added.<\/p>\n

“She told me that I should not show up unless I buy something in pastel to fit the actual dress code. Rude but okay.”<\/p>\n

“I didn’t want the hassle of buying something else. So, I politely told her then that I probably can’t make it to the wedding. And that was the end of that conversation.”<\/p>\n

She added that she later found out other guests were also uninvited because the bride thought their outfits did not fall under the black-tie dress code.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“Today, I heard a rumour that the couple broke up because the bride was uninviting all of the groom’s female friends for one reason or another,” she wrote.<\/p>\n

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“I don’t really know what happened behind the scenes. But there must have been some drama. So, I told my friend about the dress thing, and she thinks the bride is in the right.<\/p>\n

“She had a dress code, and none of us was following it, so the female friends\/acquaintances of the groom are the rude ones.<\/p>\n

“But I don’t feel like I’m being rude. The invite had black tie written on it. I don’t really know. What do you guys think?”<\/p>\n

Commenters rallied behind the woman, saying that it was the bride’s fault for not specifying pastel on her wedding invite.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“She should have specified pastels for women in the dress code if it was that important,” one person wrote.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“I would not expect to go to a black-tie event and be surrounded by women in pastel garden party dresses,” another person wrote.<\/p>\n

“Also, if the dress code was pastels, then the invitation should have specified pastels, not just black tie.”<\/p>\n

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“If you hadn\u2019t texted the bride, you wouldn\u2019t have even known about the pastel dress code because it wasn\u2019t shared anywhere,” a third commented.<\/p>\n

A fourth commented: “If she wanted pastel, she should\u2019ve specified that. Even then, it\u2019s ridiculous to police people\u2019s clothing. Pastel isn\u2019t flattering to everyone.”<\/p>\n

Other commenters said the bride obviously did not know what a “black tie” dress code meant.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“The bride has no idea what the terminology even means,” one person commented.<\/p>\n

“She sounds exhausting. Also, black tie is evening wear, and pastels are day wear,” wrote another.<\/p>\n

“So she\u2019s also wrong about that in the first place, on top of everything else.”<\/p>\n

Another commenter said no bride should be able to dictate what colour their guests wear to the wedding.<\/p>\n

“You do not get to dictate what your guests wear outside of choosing a dress code (black tie, formal, cocktail, etc.),” they wrote.<\/p>\n

“That is the limit of what you are allowed to demand of your guests. Please, for the love of God, make it stop.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A woman has revealed the unusual reason her friend told her not to attend her wedding, sparking an…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":795618,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[64,63,99,374080,2579,313],"class_list":["post-795617","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-business","tag-au","tag-australia","tag-business","tag-friends-wedding","tag-reddit","tag-trending"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/795617","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=795617"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/795617\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/795618"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=795617"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=795617"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=795617"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}