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Being the oldest sibling in a household where you carry parental responsibilities means making calls that don\u2019t always feel good but need to happen anyway.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re not the fun sister in those moments. You\u2019re the one enforcing rules.<\/p>\n
A 22-year-old woman who helps raise her two younger siblings<\/a> stepped in when her 16-year-old autistic brother was being cruel to their 10-year-old sibling while their parents were out.<\/p>\n She asked for his phone as a consequence, a punishment the family uses consistently.<\/p>\n When she told a friend what happened, the friend accused her of bullying her brother. And as Redditors dug into more details of the story, they started to wonder if her methods were more harmful than helpful.<\/p>\n Keep reading for the full story.<\/p>\n I (22F) am the older sister of two brothers (16M and 10M) for which I often serve as a third parent to.<\/p>\n My older brother is autistic which causes him to be preoccupied with his own thing which has a side effect of him being very impatient and nasty towards our younger brother, often just trying to get a rise or reaction out of him.<\/p>\n So the family has a familiar approach for dealing with this.<\/p>\n For which we often punish my older brother by taking away the things he loves. For him it\u2019s computer or phone access because that is where he is most sensitive.<\/p>\n And punishment is the primary way autistic people learn.<\/p>\n They\u2019ve been trying to find more ways to get him to branch out.<\/p>\n He has a friend in them that he communicates with every single day and we do it to have him learn that this is a treat and not a lifeline. If he is distressed, make more friends outside of the computer or find another hobby.<\/p>\n He claims he \u201cwants to code\u201d but I haven\u2019t seen him do it and it requires a computer so he loses that privilege when he misbehaves.<\/p>\n And also to keep him compliant and not so belligerent, he has been prescribed risperidone and Cymbalta, which is often given to unruly autistic kids by professionals.<\/p>\n So one day, there\u2019s discord between her brothers.<\/p>\n A couple of days ago my older brother was being nasty to my younger brother again while my parents were away, calling my younger brother a \u201cdemon\u201d for screeching at the top of his lungs.<\/p>\n For which I literally had to come out of the shower and ask why he was teasing his younger brother.<\/p>\n So the conflict continues to escalate.<\/p>\n He immediately fawned and said it was \u201cbecause he is stupid\u201d and \u201chis brother was in his room and not leaving and being a jerk\u201d and \u201che has it on camera.\u201d<\/p>\n I just said I didn\u2019t care. I asked for his phone, immediately. If he doesn\u2019t give it now, I won\u2019t give it back.<\/p>\n She continued to be tough with him.<\/p>\n He refused.<\/p>\n I went closer to him and asked again.<\/p>\n He refused, and I snatched it and went to my room.<\/p>\n He tried claiming \u201che bought it himself\u201d but I threatened to snap it in half and only then did he begrudgingly accept.<\/p>\n Since then my brother has not talked to me and is rather sullen about it as he nonetheless waits out his punishment.<\/p>\n Her inner circle starts to turn against her.<\/p>\n I told a friend about this but they immediately got on me for \u201cbullying my brother\u201d and taking away something he likes for \u201cstanding up for himself.\u201d<\/p>\n I tried explaining that rules are rules but they said to me, \u201cYou\u2019re going to ruin your relationship with him.\u201d<\/p>\n And I had to explain I often have to be his biggest advocate, but they wouldn\u2019t return my calls or texts after that.<\/p>\n My parents and younger brother think I did the right thing, but did I?<\/p>\n Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n AITA?<\/p>\n Sounds like things got out of control fast.<\/p>\n What did Reddit have to say?<\/p>\n This user is against her philosophy in the strongest possible terms.<\/p>\n This user calls out some troubling inconsistencies in this family dynamic.<\/p>\n This commenter also shares their disapproval.<\/p>\n A user with autism speaks up.<\/p>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a mom who wants her daughter to help pay for her own cell phone, but her daughter says she can\u2019t force her to get a job.<\/p>\n The young woman in this story claims that she\u2019s her brother\u2019s biggest advocate, and she probably believes that completely. But advocacy that only shows up when it\u2019s convenient and disappears the second he\u2019s difficult isn\u2019t advocacy.<\/p>\n Sure, it was wrong for her sibling to call his brother a \u201cdemon.\u201d But he\u2019s also 16, autistic, medicated for compliance, socially isolated to one friend he talks to through a screen, and living in a house where the person with authority over him didn\u2019t want to hear his side of the story.<\/p>\n She threatened to snap his phone in half. It\u2019s hard to see that as a productive intervention.<\/p>\n Enjoyed this story? Readers who liked this also read this story<\/a> about a student who did the math and figured out he was better off skipping school than serving detention if he forgot his ID. \t\t\t\t\t
Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture<\/p>\n Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.<\/p>\n As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.<\/p>\n When he isn\u2019t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.<\/p>\n Connect with Benjamin on Instagram<\/a> and read more of his essays on Substack<\/a>.<\/p>\n \n\t\tCategories: Family & Relationships<\/a>, Life & Drama<\/a>\t\t \t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
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