{"id":860197,"date":"2026-08-19T00:20:20","date_gmt":"2026-08-19T00:20:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/860197\/"},"modified":"2026-08-19T00:20:20","modified_gmt":"2026-08-19T00:20:20","slug":"dr-kirstin-fergusons-got-a-minute-everyone-in-my-office-gets-free-lunch-except-me-how-is-that-fair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/860197\/","title":{"rendered":"Dr Kirstin Ferguson\u2019s Got a Minute: Everyone in my office gets free lunch, except me. How is that fair?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Each week Dr Kirstin Ferguson tackles questions about workplace, career and leadership in her advice column Got a Minute?<\/a> This week: a gluten-free nightmare, a nosy desk-neighbour and regret over a missed promotion.<\/p>\n

\"AA loaf of gluten-free bread costs very little compared with the message it sends to staff.Dionne Gain<\/p>\n

I started a new role in a small company which has numerous team lunches. I am gluten intolerant and advised them of this at my interview. I attended my first team lunch last week, which was a BBQ, and was informed that since I was the only staff member with \u201cfood issues\u201d I had to bring my own bread, sausage and anything else I wanted to eat, as the company was not going to wear the cost of buying food items for just one staff member. Sometimes the staff team lunch is pizza or Subway, but I will have to bring my gluten-free lunch in while everyone else gets a free meal. It has become a really awkward issue that I am so angry about. I want to walk out.<\/p>\n

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I can completely understand your frustration. This isn\u2019t really about the cost of a loaf of gluten-free bread; it\u2019s about whether you feel included. It is a seemingly small issue that has a big impact. Employers don\u2019t have to provide free lunches, but once they choose to do so, excluding one employee because of a dietary restriction is poor practice and, depending on the circumstances, may raise discrimination issues.<\/p>\n

Rather than walking out, have a calm conversation with your manager. Explain that you\u2019re not asking for expensive alternatives, only to be included on the same basis as everyone else. A loaf of gluten-free bread costs very little compared with the message it sends you, and any future employees with food intolerances, when left to fend for themselves.<\/p>\n

I started a new job in a small office. A lady in a more junior role, who has been there for a few years, sits directly behind me and literally watches what I do all day and comments. She asks me what I am working on, when will I finish this or that, asks me when I am having lunch, and even if I am trying to find a folder on the server. This goes on all day from 9am to 5pm, and I am over it. Is this a form of workplace bullying? My boss cannot move me as there is no room. The lady listens in to all of my calls to and comments or talks over me advising me what to say or to pass the phone to her. She listens in to my personal calls too and asks me questions. I want to go on stress leave before I have a nervous breakdown.<\/p>\n

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It sounds like you need to try and set some clear boundaries with your coworker. I can understand why you feel exhausted, and I suspect I would have lost my cool by the end of the first week, if not the first day of this kind of micromanaging busybody.<\/p>\n

The next time she interrupts or questions what you\u2019re doing, politely say, \u201cI need to concentrate on this, so I\u2019ll let you know if I need your help.\u201d Repeat it consistently. If she comments on personal calls, tell her you\u2019d prefer to keep those conversations private. Be calm, respectful but direct. Let her know that what she thinks might be helpful and friendly is making it hard for you to work.<\/p>\n

If the behaviour continues, document every example and discuss the issue with your manager. Regardless of whether it meets the legal definition of bullying, constant interruptions and unwanted monitoring can make it impossible to do your job effectively. That\u2019s the issue your manager needs to solve.<\/p>\n

A few months ago, I considered applying for a senior role in my organisation but for a number of reasons I didn\u2019t. I am now regretting this decision and keep ruminating over it. The role has since been filled, and similar opportunities are scarce in my industry so it could be quite some time before another position becomes available. I\u2019ve let a few colleagues know that I\u2019m interested in new opportunities. What else can I do to position myself for when they eventually arise?<\/p>\n

Rather than replaying the decision, ask yourself what stopped you applying. Was it confidence, timing, competing priorities or something else? You may learn much from that for the future.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve already done one of the smartest things by letting colleagues know you\u2019re interested in future opportunities. Next is to build the experience you\u2019ll need when the next role appears. Seek out projects that increase your visibility, develop any skills the role would require and expand your network.<\/p>\n

While that specific opportunity has gone, your ambition hasn\u2019t. The preparation you do now means you will be ready and willing to jump at the chance the next time the door opens.<\/p>\n

To submit a question about work, careers or leadership, visit kirstinferguson.com\/ask<\/a>. You will not be asked to provide your name or any identifying information. Letters may be edited.<\/p>\n

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\"KirstinDr Kirstin Ferguson<\/a> AM is the author of Blindspotting: How to See What Others Miss and Head & Heart: The Art of Modern Leadership. Kirstin is ranked in the world\u2019s Thinkers50 list and holds a PhD in leadership and culture. www.kirstinferguson.com.Connect via X<\/a>, Facebook<\/a> or email<\/a>.From our partners<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"August 19, 2026 \u2014 5:00am Save You have reached your maximum number of saved items. Remove items from…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":860198,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[36],"tags":[64,63,137,532],"class_list":["post-860197","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-nutrition","tag-au","tag-australia","tag-health","tag-nutrition"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860197","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=860197"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860197\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/860198"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=860197"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=860197"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=860197"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}