{"id":900809,"date":"2026-09-22T03:06:13","date_gmt":"2026-09-22T03:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/900809\/"},"modified":"2026-09-22T03:06:13","modified_gmt":"2026-09-22T03:06:13","slug":"sylvia-plath-stole-my-boyfriend-the-95-year-old-who-has-turned-her-romance-with-ted-hughes-into-a-play-australian-theatre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/900809\/","title":{"rendered":"Sylvia Plath Stole My Boyfriend: the 95-year-old who has turned her romance with Ted Hughes into a play | Australian theatre"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Liz Hicklin had missed the ferry that could change her life. Pelting rain had made the drive to the Sorrento terminal perilous. Sitting in the car park, watching the boat glide off, she chastised herself. Go home. Don\u2019t be ridiculous. You\u2019re 92.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">She got on the next ferry. <\/p>\n<p>This decision would prove to be a sliding doors moment. As Hicklin, now 95, says: \u201cI really should be knitting\u201d \u2013 but instead she debuts her first play at Melbourne fringe festival this October: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.melbournefringe.com.au\/whats-on\/events\/sylvia-plath-stole-my-boyfriend\" data-link-name=\"in body link\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Sylvia Plath Stole My Boyfriend<\/a>, about her romantic relationship with a young Ted Hughes.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">By getting to the Queenscliffe literary festival that day, Hicklin managed to track down the ABC radio presenter Jacinta Parsons. The pair had met fleetingly months before at Clunes Booktown festival, where Parsons, author of A Question of Age <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/commentisfree\/2023\/dec\/12\/wisdom-has-not-been-a-concept-used-for-the-ageing-woman-its-time-this-changed\" data-link-name=\"in body link\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">and A Wisdom of Age<\/a>, hosted a panel about ageing. Hicklin was a spirited audience member (later that day she won a poetry slam) and the two women started talking. Upon being reunited in Queenscliffe, Parsons eventually became Hicklin\u2019s manager.<\/p>\n<p>Hicklin and Hughes read poetry and wrote feverish letters to each other<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">When the three of us meet, we\u2019re surrounded by art and books in Hicklin\u2019s apartment in a residential care home on the Mornington Peninsula. Parsons buzzes in and out, making phone calls. In private, Hicklin says: \u201cJacinta\u2019s changed my life completely. I\u2019m living life again.\u201d Whenever Parsons sits down, the dynamic switches into a double act.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">\u201cI\u2019m going to talk about you while I\u2019m looking at your face,\u201d Parsons tells her, cupping Hicklin\u2019s cheek. \u201cLook \u2013 you\u2019re so anxious that you\u2019re turning on me like a dog.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">\u201cYou\u2019re an academic and I\u2019m so run of the mill,\u201d Hicklin protests. It\u2019s a recurring theme, as if being self-educated later in life disqualifies her from being taken seriously.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">While Parsons, as co-director, used Hicklin\u2019s wealth of writing to populate the play, Hicklin is \u201cused to being in control\u201d and worries that there\u2019s too much Plath. \u201cWho\u2019s the drawcard here, Sylvia or me?\u201d she wonders.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Hicklin never met Plath, her romantic rival. There\u2019s a hefty compendium of Plath\u2019s poetry sitting on her side table but she doesn\u2019t particularly rate it. She met Hughes, who served as the British poet laureate for 14 years, when studying nursing in Cambridge. They read poetry to each other in local pubs, writing feverish letters whenever apart.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">\u201cIt was like I was blossoming, she says. \u201cI\u2019d get on the bus to Hebden Bridge and immediately feel different, as though they felt things more deeply in Yorkshire. It was his magic touch \u2013 that he touched many women with, as we learned.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Amid their romance Hicklin took the opportunity to travel (\u201ca woman\u2019s got to keep her options open\u201d) first to Canada, then Australia. \u201cI went around the world trying to recreate Ted Hugheses but they didn\u2019t match up,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">The pair kept writing to each other, with Hughes describing his own travels. \u201cHis whole life was trying to conjure up a living that would give him time to write,\u201d Hicklin says. \u201cOne idea was to run a boarding house. His uncle Walt ran a trouser factory, so there was that idea \u2026 and another was to be a mink farmer.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Eventually, the letters dried up. When Hicklin sent Hughes a Christmas card from Melbourne she received a reply from his mother: \u201cI don\u2019t think you know, dear, that Ted married <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/sylviaplath\" data-link-name=\"in body link\" data-component=\"auto-linked-tag\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Sylvia Plath<\/a>, a Fulbright Scholar.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Hicklin took to her bed and cried for three days.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">After Plath\u2019s suicide in 1963, Hicklin was visiting her parents when Hughes and his new partner, Assia Wevill, arranged to visit. \u201cAll these years I dreamt of meeting Ted again, I\u2019d hoped I\u2019d be willowy thin,\u201d she says. \u201cHe rang the doorbell with Assia, and she was very London literary, shabby chic. I felt very colonial in my eight-months pregnant state, my arms covered in flour.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>It was the last time she saw Hughes but she kept his letters and postcards, and two of his unpublished poems, eventually selling the originals to the British Library. Hughes may have called both Hicklin and Plath \u201cBunny\u201d but it\u2019s possible that only Hicklin got the nickname \u201cWinklepumpkin\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Hicklin and Parsons at Carlton\u2019s Trades Hall, where the sold-out show will be staged in October. Photograph: Penny Stephens\/The Guardian<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">\u201cIt was only a short time in my life \u2013 of course I\u2019ve milked it,\u201d she says drily. \u201cI\u2019m certainly not like these comedians that seem to talk about nothing. How do they get away with it? But they do.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Sylvia Plath Stole My Boyfriend is an upbeat 50-minute show with a gameshow theme. There\u2019s a voiceover from the Sale of the Century host Pete Smith (now 87 himself) that serves as Hicklin\u2019s inner critic; Plath (played by a co-director, Sarah Sutherland) is the gift-shop showgirl.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">The play includes other eras of Hicklin\u2019s life, such as raising a family in Melbourne. \u201cWe jogged along but I did have an affair,\u201d she says of her marriage. \u201cIt was like Mad Men. Our friends were my husband\u2019s work partners, so they weren\u2019t my choice. Our husbands were in advertising, so they were members of clubs, out until midnight. You kept their dinner warm over a pan of hot water. There was nothing to stimulate you on the radio, which was your only companion.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Tragedy also stalked Hicklin, including the suicides of her two daughters. The play asks if we can ever truly make sense of life, even with the wisdom of age.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">Parsons has taken time off from the ABC to work on a documentary in which Hicklin\u2019s story \u201cbecomes the micro in a macro look at ageing\u201d. She\u2019s already made trips to Hicklin and Hughes\u2019 old haunts, even persuading the current resident of The Beacon, Hughes\u2019 former home in West Yorkshire, to let her in. \u201cIt\u2019s been pretty fucking surreal, in a way,\u201d Parsons says. \u201cJust walking in someone\u2019s shoes and connecting those pieces of their lives.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">For Hicklin, who vividly recalls her walks with Hughes on the Yorkshire Moors \u2013 when he would mimic an animal in distress so that owls, stoats and rabbits gathered around him \u2013 the videos Parson sent back to her in Melbourne reignited the romance.<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\">\u201cI even recognised the window that I\u2019d look through at the shivering sheep,\u201d she says. \u201cIt was magical for me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\"> In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 14. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted on freephone 116 123. Other international helplines can be found at befrienders.org<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-1s160rg\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.melbournefringe.com.au\/whats-on\/events\/sylvia-plath-stole-my-boyfriend\" data-link-name=\"in body link\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Sylvia Plath Stole My Boyfriend<\/a> is at Trades Hall in Carlton as part of the Melbourne fringe, 15-18 October<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Liz Hicklin had missed the ferry that could change her life. 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