{"id":938124,"date":"2026-10-23T12:52:11","date_gmt":"2026-10-23T12:52:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/938124\/"},"modified":"2026-10-23T12:52:11","modified_gmt":"2026-10-23T12:52:11","slug":"why-notes-app-cheating-is-happening-and-what-it-says-about-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/938124\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Notes App Cheating Is Happening\u2014and What It Says About Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cheating is an awfully selfish act<\/a>. It requires putting your own instant gratification, ego, and pleasure above the feelings and safety\u2014both emotional and sexual\u2014of the partner you agreed to make a commitment to.<\/p>\n

Now, I don\u2019t think cheating automatically makes you a bad person\u2014some good people do bad, stupid things sometimes. But I do think that if you\u2019re taking elaborate steps to be sneaky and unfaithful to someone, it says a lot about your character. For example, I think using your Notes app\u2014yes, your Notes app\u2014to cheat says a lot about who you are. And, yes, people are doing this now.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen some ridiculous ways people have been sneaky about being involved with someone outside of their partner: Saving someone\u2019s number as \u201cPizza Hut,\u201d changing a contact to one of those 5-digit numbers so it looks like the bank is texting you, and even keeping secret messaging apps. But when I saw that people were adding people as collaborators on a Shared Note in the Notes app<\/a>\u2014just to send hidden messages their partners wouldn\u2019t suspect or think to check\u2014I realized that some people will pull out every absurd, manipulative stop to cheat on someone when they could just end things.<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s that all about?<\/p>\n

Why Do People Go to Extreme Lengths to Cheat?<\/p>\n

\u201cMany people cheat rather than deal with issues in the relationship, because it can feel easier,\u201d Debra Feinberg, LCSW<\/a> tells Cosmopolitan. Some people have a difficult time expressing themselves or even acknowledging that something is wrong in the first place. So instead of being vulnerable with their partner and telling them when something is wrong, they feel justified in going to \u201cfill the gaps\u201d in the relationship themselves\u2014usually with another person.<\/p>\n

OK, I get that talking about your feelings can be hard, but nothing feels like more of a difficult task than trying to communicate with someone on your Notes app. It\u2019s just a lot of effort. Additionally, it\u2019s not always people who are unhappy in their relationships that cheat. Sometimes, people love and adore their partner and still will go out and make emotional and sexual connections with people behind their partner\u2019s back. So what gives?<\/p>\n

Psychotherapist Amy Lewis Bear<\/a> explains that some people cheat because they want the best of both worlds.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey want the comfort of coming home to someone who loves them, the emotional and financial security of a committed relationship, and the stability of a shared life,\u201d she says. \u201cBut they also crave the excitement of someone new, the thrill of being desired, and the adrenaline rush of doing something forbidden.<\/p>\n

It could also just be that they\u2019re not very empathetic people. Bear says that there are people who have strong narcissistic traits. For them, cheating may have less to do with dissatisfaction in the relationship and more to do with a belief that they’re entitled to whatever they want. They view their own desire as far more important than anything else\u2014including their partner\u2019s feelings. They\u2019ll often tell themselves that they just deserve more attention, sexual fulfillment, and excitement than one person (their partner) can give them. And yet, instead of having a conversation about opening a relationship, they\u2019ll resort to keeping secrets and going to extreme lengths to cheat (AKA send hidden messages to a fling via Notes app).<\/p>\n

For some people, this is because they actually enjoy the excessive manipulation it takes to cheat. \u201cThe secrecy, planning, and getting away with it can actually heighten the experience,\u201d marriage counselor Mary McLaughlin, LCSW<\/a> says. \u201cThe hoops they have to jump through can be part of the high.\u201d<\/p>\n

Feinberg works with couples who try to rebuild their relationship after infidelity. She explains that most of the time, the cheating partner does not want their relationship to end. \u201cThey just can’t give up how the cheating makes them feel: someone admires me, gives me attention, makes me feel good about myself,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n

But eventually, the cheating catches up to them too. The high only lasts for so long. And as sneaky as someone is, someone in your relationship is going to pick up on your changed behavior. Sure, they might not know that you\u2019re using your Notes app to send secret messages to someone else\u2014but they might notice how much time you\u2019ve spent on your phone. They might notice how often you feel disconnected or when your stories start to sound inconsistent. They might even notice how much you use your Notes app.<\/p>\n

Whatever your reason for cheating may be, it\u2019s important to understand the effect it would have on the person you made a commitment too. Sure, there\u2019s a rush in keeping secrets and sneaking around\u2014but it\u2019s not going to feel good forever.<\/p>\n

\u201dLiving a double life takes a toll on the person cheating, too,\u201d Feinberg says.<\/p>\n

This is why it\u2019s important to be self aware and check in with yourself when you\u2019re in a relationship. Are you happy? Are you fulfilled? Are you committed? And most of all, if you find yourself going as far as to use your Notes app\u2014a place meant for drafts of breakup texts, grocery lists, and random words we can\u2019t remember why we wrote down\u2014to betray your partner, you are too far down the rabbit hole my friend. It may be time to just break up.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Cheating is an awfully selfish act. It requires putting your own instant gratification, ego, and pleasure above the…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":938125,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[64,63,504019,3769,504304,430,308081,2387,203,267130,504303,366213,105],"class_list":["post-938124","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-mobile","tag-au","tag-australia","tag-collection-dating-and-relationship-advice","tag-content-type-how-to-service","tag-contentid-ad0e35d4-1c96-44e0-b89a-fd5a75fa6583","tag-displaytype-standard-article","tag-issyndicated-false","tag-locale-us","tag-mobile","tag-read_time-4","tag-shorttitle-messy-people-are-cheating-in-their-notes-apps","tag-sponsored-false","tag-technology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/938124","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=938124"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/938124\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/938125"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=938124"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=938124"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=938124"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}