Getting candid.
Bachelor Nation first met Sarah Herron on Season 17 of “The Bachelor,” and she later returned for Seasons 1 and 3 of “Bachelor in Paradise.”
Sarah found love off-screen with her husband Dylan Brown, and the two welcomed twin daughters, Evy and Coco, in 2024. Since then, Sarah has kept followers updated on life as a family of four and what it’s like raising twins while navigating her limb difference.
This week, the Bachelor Nation star got candid and discussed setting respectful boundaries when talking to kids about disabilities.
In a new video, Sarah responded to a question she received asking if it’s okay for their child to ask a stranger about their disability.
“I get questions like this a lot,” she said. “I’m always happy to answer based on my lived experience. But I want to take a step back because it’s important to note that I am an elder millennial. I’m 39 years old. I grew up in a generation where disabilities were not included in books and media and cartoons. I grew up in a very small town, where I was the only kid with a visible disability from kindergarten until 12th grade. So I’m unpacking that.”
Sarah continued, sharing, “Now I’m a mom raising two very curious little humans. But here’s the thing. It happens all the time. Without fail, I will be at the grocery store or the park and a little kid will run up to me and say, ‘What happened to your arm? Where’s your arm? Where’d your arm go?’ Usually I’ll say, ‘Oh, I was born without my arm,’ and they’ll say, ‘Is it going to grow back?’”
The Bachelor Nation star noted that the child will usually keep asking questions while the parent stands there uncomfortably, not knowing what to do or say. Sarah reassured viewers that it’s fine for kids to be curious. However, “a few curious questions can quickly turn into a barrage of questions that I don’t know how to answer for your child,” she stated.
Sarah advised parents to help model respectful boundaries and how to carry “curiosity with care.”
“You don’t need to know all the answers about someone’s disability. You just need to say, ‘I see you have questions. I see you’re really curious. Mommy will be happy to answer all these questions for you when we get in the car. Or when we do bedtime tonight,’” Sarah suggested.
“What you’re modeling is respectful boundaries. Our kids are curious; we need to teach them how to carry their curiosity with care… Our kids are still learning how the world works. Curiosity is their gift. Our job is teaching them how to carry it with care.”
We love seeing Sarah share her experience with motherhood so candidly and appreciate her message. We know her honesty is helping so many others.