DEAR ABBY: I have a friend, \u201cChris,\u201d from our teenage days. We\u2019ve been performing music together for decades. We live in different cities but get together every few years. Over the last 20 years, Chris has turned toward a fundamentalist viewpoint on religion. I found it too much to handle and have distanced myself. <\/p>\n
\tRecently, Chris contacted me to inform me that his mother had died. I felt sincere about being supportive and helping him get through the loss, so we started performing music together again. It was going well, and he wanted to record one of my songs. When I mentioned I had a demo of it, he asked me for it. I realized too late that the name on the file — \u201cPagan Christmas\u201d — might be an issue. <\/p>\n
\tI received this message back from him a week later: \u201cI like the chord progression but was a bit put off by the title. People I care about also found the title offensive. I\u2019ll do my best to purge it from my memory in the hope that you can present it later with a more inclusive and marketable moniker. I cannot contribute to anything that could be perceived as having anti-Christian bias.\u201d <\/p>\n
\tAbby, I\u2019m going back and forth between trying to ignore his message and being angry. Can you advise me on how to handle this situation? — CONTENT CREATOR IN WASHINGTON<\/p>\n
\tDEAR CREATOR: Nursing anger is a waste of your time. Apologize to Chris for the oversight. Tell him you didn\u2019t realize the title of the piece might offend him until after you had already hit the \u201csend\u201d button, and then see what kind of a title you can agree upon. <\/p>\n
If you are unable to reach a compromise, tell him you would prefer that he not use the song.<\/p>\n
DEAR ABBY: I am a single, 52-year-old woman, never married with no kids. I suffer from depression as well as a number of severe health issues and live alone with three cats. Lately, I\u2019ve been feeling lost and confused about my life. I don\u2019t know how to live my life since I got sick. I miss being active with family and friends like I used to be. I\u2019m confined to my house almost all the time. Please give me some advice on how to be less depressed, and how I can be more active in my life again and not dwell so much on my health issues. — CAT LADY IN MASSACHUSETTS<\/p>\n
\tDEAR CAT LADY: People become depressed for many reasons. Because your depression is ongoing, it\u2019s important that you discuss it with your physician. A psychologist and medication could help you to cope more effectively with your challenges.<\/p>\n
\tAs to how to become more active in your social life, because I don\u2019t know how restricted your health issues have made you, I advise you to go online and contact a support group or foundation for those who have the same medical conditions you do. You may be able to find suggestions and community there. Being able to talk with others who are in the same situation can often be productive.<\/p>\n
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