{"id":297445,"date":"2025-11-21T12:05:17","date_gmt":"2025-11-21T12:05:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/297445\/"},"modified":"2025-11-21T12:05:17","modified_gmt":"2025-11-21T12:05:17","slug":"the-story-of-peter-hujar-and-paul-theks-devastatingly-romantic-love-affair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/297445\/","title":{"rendered":"The Story of Peter Hujar and Paul Thek\u2019s Devastatingly Romantic Love Affair"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A new book traces the revered artists\u2019 compelling two-decade-long relationship through their photographs and intimate correspondenceNovember 20, 2025<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/tag\/peter-hujar\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Peter Hujar<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/art-photography\/16435\/paul-thek-thomas-dane-exhibition-kenny-schachter-jonathan-anderson-peter-hujar\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Paul Thek<\/a> first met on a road trip to Key West, Florida, in 1956, with Hujar taking the first of what would become many portraits of Thek. At the moment those pictures were taken, they were two young artists (aged just 22 and 23 respectively) who hadn\u2019t quite yet found their professional footing, still honing their crafts and both in relationships with other people. The following decade would see them become lovers and also take huge artistic strides \u2013 Thek becoming a critically acclaimed artist and Hujar establishing himself as a commercial photographer while taking many of the portraits that would cement his status in the canon of 20th-century photography, albeit posthumously. From today\u2019s vantage point \u2013 knowing that the pair were on the cusp of becoming embroiled in a romantic and creative relationship which would last two decades \u2013 it\u2019s impossible not to invest these early portraits with the kind of portentous meaning very few of us have the gift of intuiting as we move unwittingly through the momentous meetings of our own lives.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/art-photography\/gallery\/14436\/stay-away-from-nothing-by-peter-hujar-and-paul-thek\/0\" class=\"label gallery-link\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">18Stay Away From Nothing by Peter Hujar and Paul Thek<\/a><\/p>\n<p>From that initial encounter, their fluctuating relationship \u2013 part love affair, part friendship, part creative alliance \u2013 would endure until 1975, spanning travels across Europe and the US. Their compelling story is partially preserved in their photographs of one another and in a fitful but fevered correspondence (sadly, only Thek\u2019s letters have survived). Now, these precious relics have been gathered together in a new book, Stay Away From Nothing, published by Primary Information.<\/p>\n<p>The book\u2019s editor, Francis Schichtel, was immersed in the process of digitising The Peter Hujar Archive when he became fascinated by the pair. \u201cI went through every roll of film, beginning to end, and saw their relationship unfold in the negatives. I felt like I\u2019d seen all their travels and experiments \u2013 not just Peter photographing Paul and vice versa, but all the stories people told about them. Their artistic histories are so interesting, especially because Paul\u2019s most important work is gone, and Peter didn\u2019t become famous until after he died. And yet, people around them kept their story alive, even if nothing was ever totally clear,\u201d says Schichtel. \u201cIt all had this mythical, unclear quality, which drew me in.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/art-photography\/16800\/peter-hujar-paul-thek-stay-away-from-nothing-book-primary-information&amp;media=https:\/\/images-prod.anothermag.com\/621\/azure\/another-prod\/460\/7\/467172.jpeg&amp;description=Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1961\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"none\" data-social-share-source=\"Pinit\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,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\" alt=\"Pin It\"\/><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Stay Away From Nothing by Peter Hujar and Paul Thek\" class=\"img\" data-aspect-ratio=\"0.78\" data-aspect-ratio-type=\"portrait\" data-delay-load=\"immediate\" data-max-height=\"2399\" data-max-width=\"1863\" data-maxdevicepixelratio=\"3\" data-responsive-widths=\"200,320,355,480,544\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/467172.jpeg\"  style=\"width:544px;\"\/>Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1961Courtesy of Primary Information. \u00a9 Estate of Paul Thek, Peter Hujar Archive, and Primary Information<\/p>\n<p>While there\u2019s a discontinuity in the conversation \u2013 Thek didn\u2019t have a good track record for keeping hold of his belongings \u2013 reading one side of the exchange, it feels possible to imaginatively trace the contours of Hujar in the absence of his response. \u201cWhen I first found the letters in the archive, they were all out of order,\u201d recalls Schichtel. \u201cAs I organised them, I was worried it would be a problem that only Paul\u2019s letters survived, but, actually, it makes things more interesting. You fill in the blanks for yourself; you get on Peter\u2019s side \u2013 receiving the letters, wondering how he\u2019d feel reading them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For Schichtel, one of his favourite examples from the correspondence is a 1961 postcard from Long Island beach. Thek\u2019s circled one lone bather from among the crowds and scrawled on the back, \u201cA photograph of happy persons, except me, I am seen looking for you.\u201d Another particularly memorable section is Thek\u2019s first trip to Europe in 1962, before he meets Hujar in Italy. \u201cThe letters from that journey have such a sense of excitement and adventure. There are these bursts, these segments where Paul writes prolifically. That part always feels especially beautiful to me.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/art-photography\/16800\/peter-hujar-paul-thek-stay-away-from-nothing-book-primary-information&amp;media=https:\/\/images-prod.anothermag.com\/1000\/azure\/another-prod\/460\/7\/467162.jpeg&amp;description=Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1967\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"none\" data-social-share-source=\"Pinit\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACgAAAAUCAYAAAD\/Rn+7AAADU0lEQVR42s2WXUhTYRjHz0VEVPRFUGmtVEaFUZFhHxBhsotCU5JwBWEf1EWEEVHQx4UfFWYkFa2biPJiXbUta33OXFtuUXMzJ4bK3Nqay7m5NeZq6h\/tPQ+xU20zugjOxR\/+7\/O8539+5znnwMtNTExwJtMb3L\/fiLv3botCSmUjeCaejTOb39AiFothfHxcFIrHY8RksZjBsckJcOIRMfFsHD\/SsbExUYpnI8DR0dGUGjSb0byhEJp5Uqg5CTSzc2CQleJbMEj9\/ywBcGRkJEk9DQqouEVQT1sK444yWI9UonmTjGqauVLEIlHa9x8lAMbj8SSpp0rwKGMVvg8P46vbg0C7na8z8JsMcgHe7jlEa+edRhiLy8n\/TUMfu6EvLElk+U0WtGwrTrdfAGQf5J8iiK4LVzDU28t8JtMSocf8E+l68myaNFXm\/6rXslLK7ay5TOunuRvZWpJuvwAYjUaTpOIWoquuAZ219RTaxKYp9BbjycoN5FvL9qH9TBX5rvoGdJythvXYSTxdtRnWylO\/ZdqrLsGwszzhWQ593z2KlAwCYCQSSZJ6ehZ0W7bD9VBLgN0NCqr3qR7R2rBrL3pu3Sb\/7nDlz2uy6cG0OXk0GTbZXzNp8trsPAQdTj6frlWzN2DcXZGKQQAMh8NJ6rpyHe+PnkCr\/CAFdZyvpfpjuvkifLF9wIt1Wwlo0OHie1RvWrKa93RjzfzliTzPKz3ltB0\/Tevmwp14wGUgHAzSOoUEwFAolFaaBSuhnslPRkJexUJtZ6v5HtUeLswl33n1BgEY5fvhs9sJ3FAiT+QYyyvoAQJuD0KBAFRTJNAuz5\/s3gJgMBhMJwrVFRThM5tY5zUF\/A4X1f2fvQTRLCuBreoim0YmAbqNJryvPEXeeq46kaNdkQ\/1HCncbJKPs9ZSv2VHGfWsZ2hfkhKAfr8\/pdxWKx4wwD69PmVfNSOL+lr2w+gYqHpWDtXt1xQ8AMlWU0e1lqLd\/APRHoP8AJqWrQG9gYxcPMsvSJUvAA4MDKTUJ7MZLaVy8v+qT21tcDx\/OemePr0RTkNrur4A6PP5xCgBsL+\/X4wiQDpuuVxOeL1eMYmYeDY6sOp0z+B0OuHxeEQhxkJMFosJiSO\/UinOI\/8Pc+l7KKArAT8AAAAASUVORK5CYII=\" alt=\"Pin It\"\/><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Stay Away From Nothing by Peter Hujar and Paul Thek\" class=\"img\" data-aspect-ratio=\"1.48\" data-aspect-ratio-type=\"landscape\" data-delay-load=\"immediate\" data-max-height=\"1621\" data-max-width=\"2398\" data-maxdevicepixelratio=\"3\" data-responsive-widths=\"200,320,355,480,640,786,900,1036\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/467162.jpeg\"  style=\"width:1036px;\"\/>Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1967Courtesy of Primary Information. \u00a9 Estate of Paul Thek, Peter Hujar Archive, and Primary Information<\/p>\n<p>Reading the letters and postcards in Thek\u2019s own handwriting with doodles and annotations feels far more intimate and alive than reading a transcription. \u201cI understood Thek\u2019s work better after these letters,\u201d Schichtel continues. \u201cAcademic writing makes him seem so untouchable, but in the letters he\u2019s funny, self-aware, and doesn\u2019t take himself seriously.\u201d This private correspondence shows the artist to be charming, spontaneous, irreverent, and not a little demanding. \u201cPaul is always asking Peter for things!\u201d Schichtel says, \u201cEvery letter, he\u2019s got a request. I sometimes wondered if Peter was annoyed!\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>What insights can we gain from Hujar\u2019s photography over the course of his relationship with Thek? \u201cYou can see him get more serious and figure out what he wanted his work to mean, and it tracks with how he photographed Paul, too \u2013 it becomes more experimental, more intimate,\u201d says Schichtel. Yet, while Hujar\u2019s technique becomes more refined, more distinctive, his vision is remarkably lucid from the beginning. \u201cThere\u2019s an early photo where Paul is sitting on a couch, his head resting against the wall. It\u2019s beautifully composed, but when you compare it to the later works, that signature style becomes clear. Peter wasn\u2019t reinventing the wheel, but the work feels so him \u2013 especially the final photos in the book from the 1970s.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=https:\/\/www.anothermag.com\/art-photography\/16800\/peter-hujar-paul-thek-stay-away-from-nothing-book-primary-information&amp;media=https:\/\/images-prod.anothermag.com\/1000\/azure\/another-prod\/460\/7\/467160.jpeg&amp;description=Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1966\" data-pin-do=\"buttonPin\" data-pin-config=\"none\" data-social-share-source=\"Pinit\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,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\" alt=\"Pin It\"\/><\/a><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Stay Away From Nothing by Peter Hujar and Paul Thek\" class=\"img\" data-aspect-ratio=\"1.50\" data-aspect-ratio-type=\"landscape\" data-delay-load=\"immediate\" data-max-height=\"1602\" data-max-width=\"2398\" data-maxdevicepixelratio=\"3\" data-responsive-widths=\"200,320,355,480,640,786,900,1048\"  src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/467160.jpeg\"  style=\"width:1048px;\"\/>Photograph by Peter Hujar, 1966Courtesy of Primary Information. \u00a9 Estate of Paul Thek, Peter Hujar Archive, and Primary Information<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, their bond soured around 1975, but the success of a relationship should never be defined purely by its ability to sustain itself forever. Stay Away From Nothing allows us a treasured insight into a significant two-decade-long alliance which enabled both men to push and inspire one another. Thek continually ran ideas past Hujar, and Hujar found a new kind of freedom in shooting Thek, who starred in some of his early nudes and masturbation shots. Their trip to the Palermo catacombs in 1963 would form the basis for Hujar\u2019s deeply personal series, Portraits in Life and Death \u2013 the only book he published in his lifetime. And, for Thek, seeing the corpses \u201cused to decorate a room, like flowers\u201d prefigured his \u201cmeat\u201d artworks, which would propel him to art world fame.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOne of the questions people keep asking me is, \u2018What did they like about each other?\u2019 Well, they were both stunningly beautiful, which shouldn\u2018t go without mentioning,\u201d Schichtel points out. Aside from everything else, Stay Away From Nothing is an enthralling and glamorous romance. Thek\u2019s letters at the peak of their passion are disarming, captivating, lustful. Like all good romances, it doesn\u2019t end happily, but that\u2019s not the point. \u201cIt becomes sad towards the end,\u201d says Schichtel, \u201cbut they\u2019re so romantic. That\u2019s the underlying feeling of the book. There\u2019s such a deep love there.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/primaryinformation.org\/product\/paul-thek-and-peter-hujar\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Stay Away From Nothing<\/a> is published by Primary Information and is out now.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A new book traces the revered artists\u2019 compelling two-decade-long relationship through their photographs and intimate correspondenceNovember 20, 2025&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":297446,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31],"tags":[76,354,355,49,48,356,75],"class_list":{"0":"post-297445","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-arts-and-design","8":"tag-arts","9":"tag-arts-and-design","10":"tag-artsanddesign","11":"tag-ca","12":"tag-canada","13":"tag-design","14":"tag-entertainment"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297445","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=297445"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297445\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/297446"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=297445"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=297445"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=297445"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}