{"id":572425,"date":"2026-03-31T07:38:09","date_gmt":"2026-03-31T07:38:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/572425\/"},"modified":"2026-03-31T07:38:09","modified_gmt":"2026-03-31T07:38:09","slug":"if-your-teens-talking-about-gooning-therapists-want-you-to-ask-them-what-it-means","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/572425\/","title":{"rendered":"If Your Teen&#8217;s Talking About &#8216;Gooning&#8217;, Therapists Want You To Ask Them What It Means"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img alt=\"&lt;span class=&quot;copyright&quot;&gt;mgstudyo via Getty Images&lt;\/span&gt;\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"630\" height=\"354\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/a6cd0cbab847a06344ef9f3ad620231e.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>mgstudyo via Getty Images<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Kids chat about a lot of pretty odd stuff (remember <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.co.uk\/entry\/ballerina-cappuccina-explained-parents_uk_6819d150e4b085c2f858212e\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Ballerina Cappuccina;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;Ballerina Cappuccina&quot;}\" class=\"link \">Ballerina Cappuccina<\/a>?) \u2013 however if you\u2019ve heard them mention \u2018gooning\u2019 in conversation with their mates, or during gaming, it\u2019s certainly worth pulling them up on it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">While you might consider \u2018gooning\u2019 as messing around or even goofing about (that\u2019s what first came to my mind), <a href=\"https:\/\/mashable.com\/article\/what-is-gooning\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:per Mashable;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;per Mashable&quot;}\" class=\"link \">per Mashable<\/a>, it actually means \u201cmasturbating for a prolonged period of time, usually hours, without ever climaxing\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">In online spaces, it can also refer to zoning out as a result of intense ****** arousal, which <a href=\"https:\/\/gabb.com\/blog\/what-does-gooning-mean\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Gabb;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;Gabb&quot;}\" class=\"link \">Gabb<\/a>\u00a0(a company providing child-safe phones and tech)\u00a0notes is \u201cmost often in the context of ***********\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">The issue is, if tweens and teens are using this terminology, chances are they are coming across *********** or inappropriate content online.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">It\u2019s not uncommon \u2013 over one-quarter (27%) of kids have come across *********** by age 11, according to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk\/blog\/growing-up-with-***********-advice-for-parents-and-schools\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:survey by the Children\u2019s Commissioner;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;survey by the Children\u2019s Commissioner&quot;}\" class=\"link \">survey by the Children\u2019s Commissioner<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">While children shouldn\u2019t be easily coming across **** due to <a href=\"https:\/\/learning.nspcc.org.uk\/news\/2023\/november\/what-online-safety-act-means-children-professionals\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:stricter regulation as part of the Online Safety Act;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;stricter regulation as part of the Online Safety Act&quot;}\" class=\"link \">stricter regulation as part of the Online Safety Act<\/a>, they may still find ways to access it. <\/p>\n<p>When talking about \u2018gooning\u2019 is a red flag<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">If your tween or teen is talking about gooning, even if it\u2019s just joking with friends, it\u2019s definitely worth asking them about it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">If they are getting involved in this activity,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/fionayassin.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Fiona Yassin;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;Fiona Yassin&quot;}\" class=\"link \">Fiona Yassin<\/a>, a family psychotherapist, told HuffPost UK:\u00a0\u201cThere\u2019s a real neurodevelopmental risk here. During adolescence, the brain is still under construction \u2013 very much a work in progress \u2013 and when it\u2019s repeatedly flooded with high-intensity ****** content, it drives spikes in dopamine that can create a pathway towards compulsive cycles.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cOver time, young people <a href=\"https:\/\/www.priorygroup.com\/addiction-treatment\/****-addiction\/****-addiction-symptoms\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:may need more and more intensity to achieve the same effect;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;may need more and more intensity to achieve the same effect&quot;}\" class=\"link \">may need more and more intensity to achieve the same effect<\/a>, which mirrors the mechanisms we see in other forms of addiction. That\u2019s particularly concerning in a developing brain.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Yassin, who is the founder and clinical director of\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/thewaveclinic.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:The Wave Clinic,;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;The Wave Clinic,&quot;}\" class=\"link \">The Wave Clinic,<\/a> also warned that it can impact social development (zoning out in front of a screen might increase isolation, anxiety and low mood) and attachment, particularly as far as ****** relationships are concerned.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cThis can disrupt the development of healthy attachment, increasing impulsivity, risk-taking, and a disregard for personal and relational safety,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Teens who are exposed to this kind of content can also begin to develop unrealistic expectations of themselves and others, particularly as far as *** and relationships are concerned.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cIt can encourage objectification, a sense of disposability in relationships, and a reduced capacity for genuine intimacy \u2013 building, sustaining, and nurturing connection,\u201d said Yassin.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Ultimately, she warned, \u201cit can shift how young people see others, which can lead to the oversexualisation of what would otherwise be non-****** interactions\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cThat has wide-reaching implications for how they relate, connect, and develop into adulthood.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Talk to your kids if they mention gooning<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Some children might use the word without fully understanding where it comes from and the potential impact on others. So, the key here is to be curious about where they\u2019ve heard the term and what they think it means \u2013 which can help steer your conversations going forward.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cRather than reacting with frustration or alarm, the most effective starting point for parents is to stay calm and curious,\u201d said Yassin.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cParents may ask: \u2018What does this word mean to you?\u2019 or \u2018What do you think someone else might hear or feel when that word is used?\u2019. Like many aspects of child and adolescent mental health, this situation offers a valuable teaching and learning opportunity.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">If they do know the full meaning, the therapist urges parents to seize the opportunity for age-appropriate honesty. \u201cTeens, in particular, are more likely to engage when they feel respected, rather than lectured,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cParents can gently widen the conversation to the bigger picture, which might include the consequences of the word, how *********** can shape expectations, impact mental health, and, in some cases, lead to more compulsive patterns of behaviour.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Action for Children has a few helpful pointers for talking to kids about ****, but ultimately it\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/parents.actionforchildren.org.uk\/home-family-life\/technology\/how-to-talk-to-your-child-about-***********\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:advises parents to reassure kids it\u2019s OK to feel curious about ***;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;advises parents to reassure kids it\u2019s OK to feel curious about ***&quot;}\" class=\"link \">advises parents to reassure kids it\u2019s OK to feel curious about ***<\/a>, while also explaining that \u201c**** is unrealistic\u201d and it \u201ccan be harmful for them to watch it\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Related&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"mgstudyo via Getty Images Kids chat about a lot of pretty odd stuff (remember Ballerina Cappuccina?) \u2013 however&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":572426,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[49,48,220084,220085,61],"class_list":{"0":"post-572425","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-technology","8":"tag-ca","9":"tag-canada","10":"tag-childrens-commissioner","11":"tag-fiona-yassin","12":"tag-technology"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/572425","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=572425"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/572425\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/572426"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=572425"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=572425"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=572425"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}