Dating assistant apps like Rizz say users’ experiences are improved by AI because it helps lead to better conversations, confidence, and more matches.<\/p>\n
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AI is helping people flirt and land dates. But is it ethical?<\/p>\n
Some people are using artificial intelligence to help them with flirty online banter. But what are the ethics behind presenting an enhanced \u2014 or even alternate \u2014 form of your personality when dating?<\/p>\n
Richard Lachman says AI dating assistants can help address surface level needs but are ultimately unfulfilling.\u00a0<\/p>\n
“I think of AI in these contexts as a combination of self-help books and astrology. There may be some good advice there but you’re projecting a lot,” said Lachman, who researches AI ethics at TMU.<\/p>\n
Despite how AIs communicate, Lachman says they don’t truly understand the people involved.<\/p>\n
“Unlike a good friend, they have no memory of me, no larger context. They’re really statistical engines doing math,” Lachman said.<\/p>\n
Kristina Dukoski felt that first hand. She said her ex-partner used AI to communicate with her. She said her partner sent the exact same message every morning and used the same phrases over text during their conversations throughout the day.<\/p>\n
“There was no nuance to the way he spoke, like you’d expect a person to have,” Dukoski said.<\/p>\n
She called it “suspicious” and “upsetting.” When confronted, she says he admitted to using AI at times out of convenience.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Lachman warns against relying on AI advice because they’re “sycophantic.”<\/p>\n
“They try to reflect back what they think you want to hear because they’ve been trained through positive reinforcement to make people happy,” Lachman said.\u00a0<\/p>\n
The benefits of AI dating assistance\u00a0<\/p>\n
Lachman says there are benefits to using AI. One of its strengths is its ability to pull from several sources like books, advice columns, and Reddit threads.\u00a0<\/p>\n
He says another advantage\u00a0is that it’s almost always available.\u00a0<\/p>\n
“You never have to feel awkward at asking a question that might make you feel dumb,” Lachman said.<\/p>\n
Cohen says she’s also seen clients use AI to process their thoughts and feelings in between sessions instead of journaling.<\/p>\n
“If we’re just using it for psychoeducational purposes, to process our own feelings, to understand what we’re looking for in partnerships, that can actually be a wonderful tool and make us more adept at entering healthy relationships,” Cohen says.\u00a0<\/p>\n
She says where people draw the line of what’s too much AI in their dating life varies but says completely relying on it is problematic.<\/p>\n
“It’s really hard to gauge where it starts to interfere with a person’s presentation of their authentic selves,” Cohen said.<\/p>\n
Dating ethically with AI<\/p>\n
Olivia Gambelin says AI is a response to the fear of rejection\u00a0and inability to connect that young people experience in modern dating culture.<\/p>\n
“I see it a bit as potentially adding to the problem that’s already there,”\u00a0said,Gambelin,\u00a0an AI ethicist and author of Responsible AI: Implement an Ethical Approach in Your Organization.<\/p>\n
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AI ethicist Olivia Gambelin says some people use AI dating assistance to deal with their frustrations with modern dating, but says people’s focus should be to connect with another person. (Submitted by Olivia Gambelin)<\/p>\n
Instead, Gambelin says dealing with challenging situations can be healthy for people and helps them grow.\u00a0<\/p>\n
She says it’s important to communicate with potential partners how you’re using AI.<\/p>\n
She also suggests that before you start using AI in dating, reflect\u00a0on your relationship goals.<\/p>\n
“Understand why you want to engage in dating then work backwards from there,” Gambelin said. “Does AI actually help you better align with your intentions for engaging in dating?”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Day 6People looking for that perfect match are leaning on AI to pick and win over a partner…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":60917,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[62,276,277,49,48,61],"class_list":["post-60916","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-artificial-intelligence","tag-ai","tag-artificial-intelligence","tag-artificialintelligence","tag-ca","tag-canada","tag-technology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/60916","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=60916"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/60916\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/60917"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=60916"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=60916"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=60916"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}