{"id":809862,"date":"2026-07-18T10:12:12","date_gmt":"2026-07-18T10:12:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/809862\/"},"modified":"2026-07-18T10:12:12","modified_gmt":"2026-07-18T10:12:12","slug":"why-torontonians-are-putting-off-having-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ca\/809862\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Torontonians are putting off having kids"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Rachel Cairns had always wanted to have a family.<\/p>\n<p>An only child, she loved taking care of her dolls when she was little, and nurtured a cast of imaginary friends.\u00a0The main character was a boy she called \u201cbrother.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Her husband, Will Stefancic, was on the same page about kids. But the timing never felt right financially.<\/p>\n<p>As they inched toward 40, the couple knew their biological window was closing. But\u00a0the prospect of adding a baby to their\u00a0already tight budget was daunting.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>While they\u2019d heard of people who\u2019d raised children in Toronto in one-bedroom apartments\u00a0like theirs, with the parents sleeping in the living room for years, the prospect was unappealing.\u00a0They wanted a bigger apartment, but in a city with famously unaffordable housing, they couldn\u2019t find it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe\u2019re people who, spiritually, existentially, wanted parenthood as part of our life,\u201d said Cairns, 38.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe were just really trying to actively work to change our circumstances.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As of 2024, Canada reached a fertility rate of 1.25 children per woman. This puts the country on par with\u00a0places like Japan\u00a0and Finland, and well below the replacement rate of 2.1 needed to sustain the population without mass immigration,\u00a0said\u00a0Kate H. Choi, professor and acting associate dean of research in the Department of Sociology at Western University.<\/p>\n<p>While Canada\u2019s rate is already considered \u201cultra low,\u201d Toronto\u2019s fertility rate is even lower, at just 1.11 children per woman, according to data provided to the Star by Statistics Canada, down from 1.26 in 2021.<\/p>\n<p>In contrast, the global rate, according to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.un.org\/development\/desa\/pd\/sites\/www.un.org.development.desa.pd\/files\/undesa_pd_2025_wfr_2024_final.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">United Nations,<\/a> is 2.2, down from around five in the 1960s.<\/p>\n<p>The low birth rate across developed countries has become a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.npr.org\/2019\/08\/06\/747571497\/less-sex-fewer-babies-blame-the-internet-and-career-priorities\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">much-discussed phenomenon,<\/a>\u00a0with everything from dating apps, parenting styles, and in the words of U.S. Vice-President J.D. Vance, \u201cchildless cat ladies,\u201d at fault, with much of the discourse placing the blame on the shoulders of women.<\/p>\n<p>But there\u2019s a growing body of evidence that suggests housing costs, and rising costs in general, are a big part of the picture. In Toronto, housing prices and rents have dropped from pandemic peaks, but\u00a0they both soared over the last couple of decades with home ownership still out of reach for many.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHousing prices and cost of living are at the heart of what we are seeing in recent years in terms of the fertility decline,\u201d said Choi.<\/p>\n<p>The solution is not as simple as telling young people to move to the suburbs\u00a0if they want to have kids,\u00a0as with such a low birth rate, Toronto risks aging faster than other parts of the country \u2014 without enough working people to support the city.<\/p>\n<p>And experts warn ignoring that\u00a0housing costs are\u00a0a\u00a0crucial piece of the puzzle will only make the problem worse.<\/p>\n<p>Data ties high housing costs to fewer babies<\/p>\n<p>There is evidence from outside of Canada that suggests high home\u00a0prices and a rapid rise in housing costs are linked with declines in fertility, Choi said.<\/p>\n<p>One study from <a href=\"https:\/\/papers.ssrn.com\/sol3\/papers.cfm?abstract_id=5046571\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Brazil<\/a>\u00a0on\u00a0a random housing lottery\u00a0found winning increased the probability of having children for people aged 20 to 25 by 32 per cent, and the probability of having more children by\u00a033 per cent.<\/p>\n<p>                    <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thestar.com\/real-estate\/these-toronto-condo-multiplexes-are-seeing-an-hst-rebate-bump-will-it-last\/article_1c07e280-2c44-4ad4-9c74-d1271895bc95.html\" class=\"tnt-asset-link\" aria-label=\"Prices are dropping for these niche Toronto homes in family-friendly neighbourhoods. Will it last?\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><\/p>\n<p>                &#13;<br \/>\n                        <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAQAAAADCAQAAAAe\/WZNAAAAEElEQVR42mM8U88ABowYDABAxQPltt5zqAAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\" alt=\"Prices are dropping for these niche Toronto homes in family-friendly neighbourhoods. Will it last?\" class=\"img-responsive lazyload full white\" width=\"1763\" height=\"1175\" data- data-\/><br \/>\n                <\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"tnt-summary\">These \u2018missing middle\u2019 units are benefiting from the HST rebate, but experts say builders are up <\/p>\n<p>Another study found <a href=\"https:\/\/academic.oup.com\/restud\/article-abstract\/91\/1\/229\/7069639?redirectedFrom=fulltext\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">mortgage rates<\/a> impacted fertility in the U.S. and U.K., with lower interest rates associated with slightly more children.<\/p>\n<p>And in this country,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.statcan.gc.ca\/o1\/en\/plus\/3113-are-canadians-changing-their-fertility-plans\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">a 2022 survey<\/a> from Statistics Canada found 37 per cent of people aged 15 to 49 did not believe they could afford to have a child in the next three years, while\u00a031 per cent believed they would not have access to the housing they needed.<\/p>\n<p>Benjamin K. Couillard, who recently completed a PhD in the University of Toronto\u2019s Department of Economics, said it can be hard to untangle the cost of housing from other factors. But he\u00a0recently created a mathematical model using U.S. Census Bureau data that\u00a0found that, controlling for other factors, rising costs, including housing costs, since 1990 are responsible for 11 per cent fewer children. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cLooking at data in the United States, we have this big decrease in fertility just in the last two decades,\u201d\u00a0said Couillard, who detailed his findings in a recent paper, titled \u201cBuild Baby Build,\u201d which he plans to submit to a peer-reviewed journal in the next year. \u201cWhat I find is that if we didn\u2019t have rising housing costs during this period, then that decline in fertility would have been half as large.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Housing costs, along with economic insecurity, and prolonged time spent in school, can force people into delaying having children, Choi said, something she refers to as \u201csocial infertility.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In 2024, the average age of Canadian mothers at the birth of their child reached an all-time high of 31.8 years,\u00a0according to Statistics Canada.<\/p>\n<p>The same data was not available for fathers, but <a href=\"https:\/\/www.statcan.gc.ca\/o1\/en\/plus\/3866-fathers-day-statistical-sketch-typical-hard-working-canadian-dad\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">data from 2021<\/a> shows dads were on average 33.6 years old\u00a0at the birth of their child,\u00a0and the share of dads 35 and older has nearly doubled in 30 years, from 20.2 per cent in 1991 to 39.5 in 2021.<\/p>\n<p>Dads from B.C. and Ontario, two provinces with notoriously high housing costs, were the oldest,\u00a0at 34.4 and 34 respectively.<\/p>\n<p>The older people get, the harder it is to have biological kids, Choi noted, which can lead to inequality on \u201cwho has children and when they have children.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>                        <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAQAAAADCAQAAAAe\/WZNAAAAEElEQVR42mM8U88ABowYDABAxQPltt5zqAAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\" alt=\"Second\" class=\"img-responsive lazyload full white\" width=\"1187\" height=\"1744\" data- data-\/><\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe kind of felt like you got to pull the trigger,\u201d said Rachel Cairns, who became pregnant with Henry in 2025.<\/p>\n<p>                                    Sophie Bouquillon\/Toronto Star<\/p>\n<p>The tick of the biological clock was something that Cairns was keenly aware of.<\/p>\n<p>At 31, she had an abortion after an unplanned pregnancy. Her financial and living situation were a huge part of why.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBefore I peed on the stick, it was like, I know what I\u2019ll be doing,\u201d she recalled. \u201cThe circumstances were so not right.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The experience made her re-evaluate what it would take to become a mom. If she couldn\u2019t make it work at 31, something needed to change.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt was a bit of a wake-up call,\u201d\u00a0she remembered.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>As a freelance actress and writer, she wouldn\u2019t be eligible for a traditional maternity leave, and her husband\u2019s work didn\u2019t offer paternity leave. As the years ticked by, they were\u00a0still in their one-bedroom apartment. But they knew time was running out to make a decision.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe kind of felt like you got to pull the trigger,\u201d she said. \u201cOtherwise you\u2019re just risking too much.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Low fertility puts the city at risk<\/p>\n<p>The risks, if this urban baby bust continues, go far beyond the fate of individual families.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>                    <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thestar.com\/business\/personal-finance\/more-toronto-parents-are-backing-their-childrens-mortgages-the-hidden-risks-of-co-signing-for-your-kids\/article_5d01dd2f-9533-4a5b-99fc-e74a40a23167.html\" class=\"tnt-asset-link\" aria-label=\"More Toronto parents are backing their children&#x2019;s mortgages. The hidden risks of co-signing for your kids\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><\/p>\n<p>                &#13;<br \/>\n                        <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAQAAAADCAQAAAAe\/WZNAAAAEElEQVR42mM8U88ABowYDABAxQPltt5zqAAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\" alt=\"More Toronto parents are backing their children&#x2019;s mortgages. The hidden risks of co-signing for your kids\" class=\"img-responsive lazyload full white\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" data- data-\/><br \/>\n                <\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"tnt-summary\">From taxes to credit implications, key considerations before signing.<\/p>\n<p>Low birth rates contribute to the aging of the population, and create a future where fewer workers are\u00a0supporting a large number of seniors, said Choi.<\/p>\n<p>That will impact economic productivity, and\u00a0put\u00a0pensions and social security at risk because fewer\u00a0workers pay into them, she added.<\/p>\n<p>Regionally, cities like Toronto and Vancouver will age at a much faster rate, she said.<\/p>\n<p>A large population of seniors that need help \u201ccreates traffic congestion, and a shortage of caregivers,\u201d said Karen Chapple, director of the School of Cities at the University of Toronto.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAbsolutely, we want families in the city,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n<p>Mike Moffatt, founding director of think tank the Missing Middle Initiative, said not having a range of people across age groups hurts the whole economy.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou can\u2019t have all the seniors living in Toronto, and all the nurses and physical therapists living in North Bay,\u201d he said.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Choi, along with colleagues at the University of Toronto, is looking into potential solutions, including housing policy.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI think it\u2019s extremely important to study this in a super systematic way,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>Ensuring\u00a0people have access to family-size housing units is \u201ccertainly an important\u201d factor, Choi added. But so are economic\u00a0opportunities for young people, things like making sure they can have the careers they want to afford housing.<\/p>\n<p>In Toronto, home prices are now coming down after years of dizzying heights \u2014 the average GTA sales price <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thestar.com\/real-estate\/toronto-area-homes-prices-dip-almost-5-per-cent-in-may-despite-market-tightening\/article_fad7cd3f-ebab-4cab-8fc7-bad45da15413.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">has dropped by almost 20 per cent<\/a> since the peak in 2022, according to the Toronto Regional Real Estate Board \u2014 but they are still much higher than many families can afford.<\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, the city\u2019s condo sector specifically\u00a0is flooded with an oversupply of tiny units built for investors who have fled the market, and\u00a0those units\u00a0are hard to make work with kids.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFamilies generally don\u2019t want to have a baby on the 56th floor\u00a0in\u00a0a one-bedroom apartment,\u201d said\u00a0Moffatt.<\/p>\n<p>Building more family-size units would increase the number of families who can stay in the city, he said, making it easier for them to have a child\u00a0earlier, and maybe a second child if they want one.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>But as home prices have become slightly more affordable, grocery bills and gas prices have soared and inflation means everything from car seats to summer camp is more expensive.<\/p>\n<p>Making it work financially \u2014\u00a0with help<\/p>\n<p>In 2024, Cairns and her husband told themselves the next year they\u2019d try for a baby. But they only got to that point because they had help.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Her husband was able to pay off some credit card debt with help from his parents, which left the couple in a better financial situation.\u00a0They also found\u00a0an affordable three-bedroom rental in a home in Cabbagetown through a realtor friend, and her mom helped her buy a car.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>                        <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAQAAAADCAQAAAAe\/WZNAAAAEElEQVR42mM8U88ABowYDABAxQPltt5zqAAAAABJRU5ErkJggg==\" alt=\"fourth\" class=\"img-responsive lazyload full white\" width=\"1763\" height=\"1175\" data- data-\/><\/p>\n<p>Cairns says they want to have another child and will be able to \u201cmake it work\u201d financially with family help. The couple hopes to buy a house with her mother and all live there together.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>                                    Sophie Bouquillon\/Toronto Star<\/p>\n<p>Eventually, they plan to buy a house with her mom and all live there\u00a0together.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>This past April, her son Henry was born.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019d often heard horror stories about the hard stuff\u00a0\u2014 the lack of sleep, the drain on bank accounts. But so far motherhood has exceeded her expectations.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe wonderful things are more mercurial to explain,\u201d she said, \u201clike the feeling you have when you see your baby smile for the first time.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Cairns has already decided she wants to have another child, and although it will be a stretch, she feels they can \u201cmake it work\u201d financially.<\/p>\n<p>But she knows they\u2019re very lucky to have family help, a decent place to live, and cars that are paid off.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf people don\u2019t have that, it\u2019s a really hard situation to be in,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Rachel Cairns had always wanted to have a family. 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