{"id":134497,"date":"2025-11-11T19:21:08","date_gmt":"2025-11-11T19:21:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/134497\/"},"modified":"2025-11-11T19:21:08","modified_gmt":"2025-11-11T19:21:08","slug":"perrins-that-vogue-article-is-peak-toxic-feminism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/134497\/","title":{"rendered":"PERRINS: That Vogue article is peak toxic feminism"},"content":{"rendered":"

Remember feminism? It\u2019s that haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy. A few weeks ago Fintan O\u2019Toole\u00a0expressed<\/a>\u00a0shock that the housewives of Ye Old Terrible Catholic Ireland once said they were happy. He wasn\u2019t too happy at the idea of their happiness.<\/p>\n

Last week, in a similar vein,\u00a0Vogue\u00a0decided to run the\u00a0piece<\/a>,\u00a0Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? As this is 2025 it exploded all over the internet, especially with the youth. BBC Radio 4 even dedicated their entire programme Anti\u2013Social to the piece<\/a>\u00a0asking\u00a0Are women better off single?<\/p>\n

This is what goes viral today \u2013 trashing heterosexual relationships. The media have for a long time attacked marriage and children, now they are coming for the boyfriend.<\/p>\n

The media have demonised children and promoted the childfree. The\u00a0Economist<\/a>\u00a0is calling anyone who supports pro \u2013 natalist policies (that\u2019s things like child benefit and childcare to you and me) \u2018fertility fanatics.\u2019<\/p>\n

Marriage has long been the bogey man of the left\u2013wing media. It is patriarchal, oppressive and bad for women. So don\u2019t be surprised that both the marriage and fertility rates are on a downward slide. It would be one thing if the youth were just having a great old time between the sheets instead but they are not. Shagging<\/a>\u00a0is\u00a0down<\/a>\u00a0as everyone on their smartphone. (I have a landline. Just saying.) Human connection is out, scrolling is in.<\/p>\n

Enter a one Chant\u00e9 Joseph who certainly put the work in for her editors at Vogue. Ms Joseph writes:<\/p>\n

\u201cIf someone so much as says \u201cmy boyf\u2013\u201d on social media, they\u2019re muted. There\u2019s nothing I hate more than following someone for fun, only for their content to become \u201cmy boyfriend\u201d-ified suddenly. This is probably because, for so long, it felt like we were living in what one of my favorite Substackers calls Boyfriend Land: a world where women\u2019s online identities centered around the lives of their partners, a situation rarely seen reversed. Women were rewarded for their ability to find and keep a man, with elevated social status and praise. It became even more suffocating when this could be leveraged on social media for engagement and, if you were serious enough, financial gain.<\/p>\n

However, more recently, there\u2019s been a pronounced shift in the way people showcase their relationships online: far from fully hard-launching romantic partners, straight women are opting for subtler signs\u2014a hand on a steering wheel, clinking glasses at dinner, or the back of someone\u2019s head.\u201d<\/p>\n

She reckons that because these boyfriends were not taking centre stage in the social media feeds then perhaps even having a boyfriend was becoming unfashionable.<\/p>\n

Ms. Joseph explained some young women were simply superstitious \u2013 giving a prominent \u00a0place to the boyfriend might curse the relationship. Others didn\u2019t want to be stuck with boyfriend photos in their socials should they break \u2013 up.<\/p>\n

Ms. Joseph also said, \u201cBut there was an overwhelming sense, from single and partnered women alike, that regardless of the relationship, being with a man was an almost guilty thing to do. On the Delusional Diaries podcast, fronted by two New York-based influencers, Halley and Jaz, they discuss whether having a boyfriend is \u201clame\u201d now. \u201cWhy does having a boyfriend feel Republican?\u201d read a top comment. \u201cBoyfriends are out of style. They won\u2019t come back in until they start acting right,\u201d read another with thousands of likes. In essence, \u201chaving a boyfriend typically takes hits on a woman\u2019s aura,\u201d as one commenter claimed.\u201d<\/p>\n

What is wrong with these women? I warned you before that left \u2013 wing women are a problem, now they think \u201chaving a boyfriend feels Republican.\u201d Sure, having a boyfriend probably is Republican now, as no man actually wants to be a boyfriend of a Democrat voting woman as they are often unhinged. When left\u2013wing women are not celebrating the death of a man shot down in cold blood they are taking unnecessary medication in pregnancy to \u2018stick it to Trump.\u2019<\/p>\n

The author finishes with the following line \u201cwhere being single was once a cautionary tale (you\u2019ll end up a \u201cspinster\u201d with loads of cats), it is now becoming a desirable and coveted status\u2014another nail in the coffin of a centuries-old heterosexual fairytale that never really benefited women to begin with.\u201d<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think so. Being single is not a coveted status no matter what the media woman in\u00a0Vogue\u00a0try to say. But some young women can be influenced by this nonsense. In fact keeping young men and women single and hostile towards each other is, I believe, a multimillion dollar industry. The more miserable single women there are out there, devoid of love and sex from a boyfriend, the more time they have to read dross like this and then talk about it on social media.<\/p>\n

It is disordered that the media are now trying to normalise an attachment disorder, namely attachment avoidant. You can learn more about this\u00a0here<\/a>. (All of that podcast is amazing.)<\/p>\n

Humans seek attachment \u2013 that\u2019s the norm. Infants seek to attach to their mothers but if the attachment is insecure this can cause problems later in life. A little one that is insecurely attached can grow up looking perfectly fine but is attachment avoidant. These could be the kind of people who say, having a boyfriend is embarrassing.<\/p>\n

There are loads of people out there like this, it happens more in\u00a0men<\/a>\u00a0than women, but now the feminist mothers in the media are trying to spread this disorder and normalise it. Women can waste\u00a0years<\/a>\u00a0of their life pursuing attachment avoidant men. You can end up marrying them but should that happen it is a case of congratulations! You have won yourself an emotionally distant spouse who spends more time at work\/hobbies or with friends than\u00a0you<\/a>.<\/p>\n

To say being single \u2013\u00a0long term\u00a0\u2013 is desirable is\u00a0anti\u2013human, feminist propaganda. Humans pair bond, that is the normal thing securely attached adults seek. If they try to avoid a secure attachment this is sad and not something to be\u00a0celebrated. A society that seeks to do so is totally disordered.<\/p>\n

I have a theory as to what happened here. Many of the editors of these magazines are boomer feminists who dumped their children in nurseries too early and too long. These daughters grew up to be insecurely attached and can barely hold down a relationship. In order to excuse this and to normalise it, these editors now commission pieces from millennials pushing the idea that being insecurely attached is just fine. It\u2019s a clever strategy, it\u2019s also cold hearted.<\/p>\n

The feminists in the media have issues with love and in particular with heterosexual love. Ms Joseph again, \u201cAnd as long as we\u2019re openly rethinking and criticizing heteronormativity, \u201chaving a boyfriend\u201d will remain a somewhat fragile, or even contentious, concept within public life.\u201d<\/p>\n

Not to normal people it won\u2019t. Wanting to be in a relationship, get married and have children is normal. Loving your boyfriend or husband and children is what it is to be human. What St Paul said 2000 years ago is true. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains,\u00a0but do not have love, I am nothing.<\/p>\n

You can be editor of a fashion magazine, partner at a solicitors firm, a Hollywood actor or a multi million pound footballer. You can have power and all knowledge but if you do not have love, you have nothing.<\/p>\n

Women in the media such as\u00a0Vogue\u00a0magazine want to make having a boyfriend a\u00a0contentious issue in public life\u00a0because they are lonely, miserable women. The rest of us normal people who love our boyfriends, spouses and children don\u2019t believe this.<\/p>\n

Older feminist women are constantly trying to recruit the Rising Generation into their club. After all, misery loves company.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Remember feminism? It\u2019s that haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy. A few weeks ago Fintan O\u2019Toole\u00a0expressed\u00a0shock…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":134498,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[269,8744,93,31937,61,60,22134,2006,78099],"class_list":{"0":"post-134497","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-entertainment","8":"tag-culture","9":"tag-dating","10":"tag-entertainment","11":"tag-feminism","12":"tag-ie","13":"tag-ireland","14":"tag-laura-perrins","15":"tag-relationships","16":"tag-vogue"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134497","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=134497"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134497\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/134498"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=134497"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=134497"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=134497"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}