Fawning <\/p>\n
Author: Ingrid Clayton <\/p>\n
ISBN-13: 978-1785123023<\/p>\n
Publisher: Leap<\/p>\n
Guideline Price: \u00a320<\/p>\n
This isn\u2019t a self-help book; it\u2019s a hard-hitting recovery manual for those of us who have learned to survive in this world by being overly agreeable, overly accommodating and people-pleasing. <\/p>\n
In Fawning, Ingrid Clayton, a clinical psychologist, makes a recently identified psychological phenomenon called \u201cfawning\u201d known to a non-specialist audience; she does this in a disarmingly honest, accessible and pragmatic way. <\/p>\n
Many of us will have heard of the \u201cflight, fright, freeze\u201d response when we are confronted with a threatening situation. In the psychology business, we call those three Fs a \u201ctrauma response\u201d. They are unconscious responses that seek to ensure our survival in the face of threats. <\/p>\n
According to Clayton, we have overlooked the fourth F: fawning. Fawning describes our overly agreeable, overly accommodating and excessively people-pleasing behaviour. Clayton claims fawning might actually be the most common trauma response and one that has received very little attention in the research and clinical worlds.<\/p>\n
Fawning, according to Clayton, is by its very nature difficult to grasp and describe because fawning is about psychological shape-shifting in order to accommodate other people. This shape-shifting results from \u201cconstantly assessing people\u2019s moods, scanning surroundings for potential threats. We notice subtle cues and facial expressions. We see things coming from a mile away.\u201d<\/p>\n
There is a depth of common humanity and a tenderness embedded in Clayton\u2019s writing, one that emerges out of her personal and professional life. With inherent forgiveness, she writes: \u201cWithout the safety of our fawn response, we are convinced something terrible is certain to happen and we have no protection against it. Thus we fawn again.\u201d<\/p>\n
Despite the elusive, shape-shifting nature of fawning, Clayton makes a persuasive case for fawning as making up an essential piece of the trauma puzzle and for rigorous research to advance our understanding of this nascent psychological phenomenon. <\/p>\n
Clayton, a self-confessed fawner, does not mince her words. Her self-disclosures are disarming and, at times, startling and will likely linger long after the book is closed.<\/p>\n
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