{"id":243719,"date":"2026-01-14T06:49:10","date_gmt":"2026-01-14T06:49:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/243719\/"},"modified":"2026-01-14T06:49:10","modified_gmt":"2026-01-14T06:49:10","slug":"frugal-people-share-16-things-they-never-buy-to-save-money","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/243719\/","title":{"rendered":"Frugal people share 16 things they never buy to save money"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s not always easy to maintain<\/a> close friendships<\/a> as an adult<\/a>. Everyone’s busy and to some degree exhausted, and free time is scarce. So how do we maximize our friend time? And how do we reach out without looking too pushy? A regular person offered a suggestion: asking one thoughtful post-hangout question that’s made their friendships “so much stronger.”<\/p>\n

It’s pretty simple: “When’s the next time I’ll see you?” <\/p>\n

Here’s their logic: “You’re showing enthusiasm for seeing your friend again, reassuring them you had a good time, and planning the next time you’ll see each other all in one go,” they wrote on Reddit<\/a>. “Obviously this requires the friend to reciprocate, but it’s such a simple and effective way to show love that has had consistent, lasting effects on my friendships. I don’t typically say this to new friends; it’s for people that I’m confident I want consistently in my life.”<\/p>\n

– YouTube www.youtube.com<\/a> <\/p>\n

Their trending post earned hundreds of replies, as people weighed in with their perspectives. <\/p>\n

One person appeared to echo the OP’s sentiment, talking about the importance of having a “chooser” in friendships\u2014someone who will take on the role of making plans. “‘Be a chooser’ is the best advice I ever received,” they wrote. “People want to hang out, but very few want to make the decision to hang out and organize it. Be the chooser\u2026people will follow.” <\/p>\n

In reply, someone added, “I’m the planner and the calendar friend. For a long time, I took it so personal that no one else really planned things. But actually, people appreciate this. If they didn’t, they’d make excuses to not hang out or would just say no instead of enthusiastically agree.” <\/p>\n

Here are more interesting comments, including some with a different perspective:<\/p>\n

“This works because it removes guesswork”<\/p>\n

“I have a group of girlfriends from college that get together every month for brunch, and most of them are also in a book club with me. At the end of each hang, whether it’s brunch or book club, we get our calendars out and plan the next one. Occasionally we skip a month if there’s a ton of conflicts, and not every person makes every single hang, but they happen very regularly and have been happening regularly for about 2 1\/2 years now. We’re all late 30s-mid 40s with careers and (in their cases,) spouses and families. 10\/10 everyone should do this!”<\/p>\n

“It rules that this works for you! I have to say, if someone asks me this, unless we’re super duper bestest friends I’m just gonna say, ‘hopefully soon- let’s talk!” and not much will change. Seeing friends is more of a time issue than a desire issue IMO. Even if we want to plan things, we’re busy a lot.”<\/p>\n

\"friendship, Two friends hugging. Photo credit: Canva<\/a>, mododeolhar from Pexels<\/p>\n

“I see the usefulness of this, but also I think this would low-key give me a panic attack if I just got done hanging out with someone and they wanted to plan the next one. I’m fully prepared to believe this is a ‘me’ thing”<\/p>\n

“Agree with you in spirit but phrasing it that way puts a lot of pressure on them to figure out a date in advance, and some people don’t like to plan far in advance.”<\/p>\n

“Instead I usually go with something like ‘what’s our next thing?’ Easier for another person to figure out what something is than when on the spot”<\/p>\n

“I love this because it shows intention without being clingy. So many friendships fade just because no one makes the next step explicit. This feels simple, warm, and very human.”<\/p>\n

“If this isn’t your speed, you can also text them the next day. This works well for anxious people because it also sends them an affirmation\/aftercare if they are worried about the hangout.”<\/p>\n

“This works because it removes guesswork. Clear interest plus a next step keeps friendships from fading by accident.”<\/p>\n

– YouTube www.youtube.com<\/a> <\/p>\n

“Focus on the reception” <\/p>\n

While some people felt the question could come off as pushy, the OP clarified their stance with a few key points: they don’t ask it every time they see someone, particularly people they see often, and they always make sure to read the room. They continued, “You do NOT do this after an exhausting event, or with people who do not like planning. Sometimes it’s a conversation opener; others it’s a time to pull out the calendar. This works well for busy people who also like consistent quality time. If that is not you, that’s okay.”<\/p>\n

While every friend dynamic is unique, it’s natural to feel like you’re constantly initiating hangout plans. <\/p>\n

Friendship coach Danielle Jackson<\/a> explored this idea in a 2021 YouTube video<\/a>, explaining that there are three key things you can do if you feel like the “giver” in a relationship: give the other person the “opportunity to initiate,” reframe how you view their contributions, and “focus on the reception” rather than the initiative. “At the end of the day,” Jackson says, “it’s less about who’s asking and more about who’s saying yes.”<\/p>\n

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