In a new interview with Playboy<\/a>, the actress, 55, said she\u2019s found peace in redefining what family looks like with her exes.<\/p>\n \u201cI have had beautiful relationships with both of my children\u2019s fathers,” Long said of NBA coach Ime Udoka<\/a> (with whom she shares son Kez<\/a>, 14) and actor Massai Z. Dorsey<\/a> (with whom she shares son Massai<\/a>, 25).<\/p>\n She went on to note that while their romantic relationships didn\u2019t last, the love and respect didn\u2019t disappear.<\/p>\n “It didn\u2019t work out. It doesn\u2019t mean I don\u2019t love \u2019em. It doesn\u2019t mean we\u2019re not cool. It doesn\u2019t mean we\u2019re not friends. It doesn\u2019t mean that we still can\u2019t have family time together,” she said. “It only means that we don\u2019t have to be romantically involved with each other, but we can still celebrate our children.\u201d<\/p>\n Nia Long with sons Kez and Massai That mindset has shaped what she describes as a thriving co-parenting situation.<\/p>\n \u201cI love my co-parenting situation. We have the best: We go on holidays. We go on vacation. Sometimes we carve out space to go to dinner,\u201d Long shared. \u201cWe went to dinner the other night, and we had a really good time. And then it\u2019s like, \u2018OK, bye. Have fun. Talk to you later.\u2019 \u201d<\/p>\n Even with clear boundaries, Long said there\u2019s still “a sense of community” between everyone. “I can call them if [our sons] need something or they can call me,\u201d she said. \u201cThere\u2019s obviously boundaries there, but we can still be a family.\u201d<\/p>\n Nia Long, for ‘Playboy’ Long added that while the dynamic is collaborative, she\u2019s clear about who keeps things running smoothly.<\/p>\n \u201cAnd it works. We make it work. Really, I make it work. I\u2019m not giving anyone else the credit,\u201d she said, before emphasizing the role mothers often play. \u201cWe are the designers. We are the architects. We are the ones who can visualize what we want to see for our children, and make them the priority.\u201d<\/p>\n Elsewhere in her Playboy feature, Long opened up about her romantic life today, sharing that she’s not rushing into anything new.<\/p>\n \u201cAm I \u2018dating?\u2019 I don\u2019t like that word,\u201d she said, explaining that she\u2019s currently prioritizing other things in life. \u201cI\u2019m really focused on my kids, my work, and my girlfriends, and going out and having a good time. I like to get up and do what I want to do when I want to do it.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s not that I don\u2019t want to have a partner, but I was in a relationship for a very long time and I\u2019m enjoying getting to know myself without feeling the need to be of service to a relationship,\u201d she added. \u201cI want to be of service to myself, to my children and to my career.\u201d<\/p>\n Nia Long, in a photo for ‘Playboy’![\"Nia](\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/6e3dbc39ede817d586fdd0128da37c22.jpeg\"\/)
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