{"id":418158,"date":"2026-04-26T08:51:08","date_gmt":"2026-04-26T08:51:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/418158\/"},"modified":"2026-04-26T08:51:08","modified_gmt":"2026-04-26T08:51:08","slug":"woman-claims-ex-partner-is-using-daughter-to-get-at-or-get-back-with-his-boyfriend-the-irish-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/418158\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman claims ex-partner is \u2018using\u2019 daughter to \u2018get at, or get back with\u2019 his boyfriend \u2013 The Irish Times"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">A woman who claimed her ex-partner is threatening her and \u201cusing\u201d their daughter to \u201cget at, or get back with\u201d his ex-boyfriend got a protection order against him. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The woman told the emergency domestic violence court at Dolphin House in Dublin she had children with her ex during their long relationship, but it broke up when she found out he was having an affair with a man for most of the years they were together. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">She and her children subsequently got on well with his boyfriend but, since her ex and his boyfriend had broken up, a lot changed, she said. Her teenage daughter was very upset when told by her father his ex-boyfriend, with whom the girl had an \u201cexcellent\u201d relationship, no longer wished to see her but the ex-boyfriend denied he ever said that.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">She is concerned that her ex is using their daughter to try to \u201cget at, or get back with\u201d, his boyfriend, the woman told Judge Gerard Furlong. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Her daughter has made allegations against her own partner, the woman said. Her ex called her \u201cdisgusting\u201d names about that and had driven to her home, threatening \u201cto kill me and burn me out\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">He has \u201cnot left me alone\u201d and she had blocked his number several times since his relationship broke down, the woman said. Her hands \u201care tied\u201d until an investigation is completed into the allegations by her daughter, whom she has not seen in months and who is staying with her father. A custody hearing is pending, she added.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The judge told the woman he would grant a protection order. As her daughter\u2019s custodian, she could separately seek an order requiring her ex to produce the child in court, he added. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">In another ex parte (one side represented) application before the judge on Friday, a protection order was granted to a woman against her ex-partner. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">She said they have two children and had separated some years back. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">He phoned her one night this week when she had a visitor, and he was \u201cvery angry\u201d and told her he knew she was seeing someone, she said. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph b-it-article-body__interstitial-link\">[\u00a0<a aria-label=\"Open related story\" class=\"c-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/crime-law\/2025\/11\/16\/eight-in-10-protection-orders-about-one-in-three-barring-orders-granted\/\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Eight in 10 protection orders, about one in three barring orders, grantedOpens in new window<\/a>\u00a0]<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">He said he kept asking for that man\u2019s name and told her he had a friend watching her home and he knew she and the other man went upstairs to her bedroom. \u201cI feel sick knowing someone was watching me,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">There was a pattern of \u201ccontrolling behaviour\u201d by her ex during their relationship, she added. He had recently phoned her place of work, arranging an appointment there, and has reduced maintenance for their children which he was paying under a voluntary arrangement between her and him, she said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Another woman, who got an interim barring order earlier this month against her son over \u201cescalating physical and verbal abuse\u201d, including threatening and pushing her, damaging her home and personal belongings, said she was not pursuing a full barring order against him. She wanted to give him \u201ca last chance\u201d. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Her son does not have drink or drug issues but he is not happy in Ireland and wants to move to the US, she said. She had told him he would need qualifications to do so. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">When the judge asked was she pursuing an additional application for a safety order, she initially said she was not because she did not want her son, aged in his 20s, to have a criminal record.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The judge said her son would only have a criminal record if he breached the safety order. The woman, he noted, was granted a previous interim barring order late last year but had not pursued a full barring order and was back in court earlier this month for another interim barring order.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">After further exchanges, the woman said she would pursue her safety order application. It was a \u201cvery hard\u201d decision, she said. The judge granted a safety order for two years.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">In another case, a man sought a protection order against his partner.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Their relationship was \u201cdisturbing on many levels\u201d, is not improving and they are now living apart, he said. He only wanted to have communication with her about their children and access but, despite him blocking her, she was constantly ringing him and sending him \u201cmixed\u201d emails, some good and some abusive. She had come to his home last year, screaming and abusive and had also contacted his work manager.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The judge told the man he had provided enough evidence for a protection order to be granted.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A woman who claimed her ex-partner is threatening her and \u201cusing\u201d their daughter to \u201cget at, or get&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":418159,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[72,36527,61,60],"class_list":{"0":"post-418158","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-business","8":"tag-business","9":"tag-courts-service","10":"tag-ie","11":"tag-ireland"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/418158","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=418158"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/418158\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/418159"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=418158"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=418158"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=418158"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}