{"id":583692,"date":"2026-08-05T06:36:22","date_gmt":"2026-08-05T06:36:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/583692\/"},"modified":"2026-08-05T06:36:22","modified_gmt":"2026-08-05T06:36:22","slug":"im-a-therapist-for-tech-workers-in-silicon-valley-theres-a-specific-type-of-person-who-burns-out-heres-how-i-treat-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/583692\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m a therapist for tech workers in Silicon Valley. There&#8217;s a specific type of person who burns out \u2014 here&#8217;s how I treat them."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        I would say 99% of my clients cite burnout as one of their biggest problems.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I see a caseload of about 18 to 20 clients a week, most of whom are very <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ai-power-list\" id=\"c82e8cab-5d4f-40fa-9079-6115e11f82fc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">high-performing individuals in Silicon Valley<\/a>, such as business owners, executives, founders, and people in management within tech.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ai-founders-workers-break-from-hardcore-grind-2026-7\" id=\"9cb1ebc9-cecc-4ea4-8391-5b3edb2b9cf0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">AI burnout<\/a> is a newer phenomenon I&#8217;ve seen. AI enables us to do deep work on multiple projects at once and learn new skills, but it never stops working. You have to be the one to decide when it&#8217;s time to pause, and that&#8217;s where AI burnout can come in.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        I think the type of person who burns out is the type of person who would work more if they could, so it hasn&#8217;t been effective for me to simply tell them to work less. They&#8217;re not looking to work less; they&#8217;re looking to work smarter. I have to get their buy-in that, if they take breaks, they&#8217;ll actually be able to push harder and more effectively.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        That&#8217;s why I use <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/reference\/acrophobia\" id=\"7ec334e0-404c-4231-a4db-bbbb540d2a82\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">exposure therapy<\/a> techniques to help my clients heal from burnout and learn tools to manage it when it returns.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n        Burnout has varying levels of intensity&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;\n                                        <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        I&#8217;ve seen burnout play out in numerous ways as far as intensity, but I would describe it as similar to dysthymia, which is a low-grade depression. Burnout can make the things that used to bring us joy no longer bring us joy. Meanwhile, motivation and our desire to get through our to-do list can go out the window.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        Clients often come to me saying they&#8217;re no longer performing at the level they used to be. I had one client who drove to their office for work and couldn&#8217;t even get out of their car. They told me they physically couldn&#8217;t get themselves to go in and give any more of themself.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n        AI burnout is real  I&#8217;ve even felt it&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;\n                                        <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        In addition to being a therapist, I&#8217;m the founder and clinical director of Silicon Valley Therapy, where I manage and train associates on their paths to licensure. I&#8217;ve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ceo-burnout-took-30-days-off-what-i-learned-2023-8\" id=\"46c3b07e-3b42-4cd7-a4b7-0ce940ba3af3\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">personally experienced AI burnout<\/a> while growing my business, and I see it in my clients.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        AI has increased my capacity to produce higher-quality work and take on roles that I&#8217;d previously have to outsource, but it takes a lot of time and is easy to fall down a rabbit hole. I see similar types of things with clients where they&#8217;re taking too much on their plates.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        They also mention how <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/ai-making-us-dumber-research-2026-7\" id=\"72b94145-29e3-492e-a7ec-de17be437030\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">AI fractures their attention<\/a>. They&#8217;re trying to focus way too granularly on too many different projects. With so many different types of LLMs and agents available, it&#8217;s possible to be working deeply on four or five projects at a time, as opposed to being focused on one area at a time. That level of work requires a different muscle to develop in our brain.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        I don&#8217;t even know if we should be working like that.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n        It&#8217;s important to manage burnout, not just avoid it&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;\n                                        <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        If someone was terrified of dogs, I wouldn&#8217;t take them to a dog park on day one of therapy. The first rung on the exposure ladder would be something like looking at pictures of dogs.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        The same thing goes for burnout. I wouldn&#8217;t tell a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/how-business-leaders-avoid-burnout-work-life-balance-lilian-weng-2026-7\" id=\"7f16f11d-eda4-4b59-93e0-d977f561a1b4\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">burnt-out founder<\/a> to take two weeks off from working and not look at their phone. They&#8217;d find another therapist.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        Instead, I might ask what they think about taking an hour out of the day to go on a walk, and or eat lunch outside. Ideally, they&#8217;ll be off their phone, but it could even be something like watching a fun video.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        If they&#8217;re not open to it, I&#8217;ll go even shorter, like 30 minutes or 15 minutes. Usually, we&#8217;ll get to a point where they feel as though it&#8217;s doable. Once they start to notice the benefits, like their day going more smoothly when they take time to eat a proper, nourishing meal outside, their buy-in starts to work. Then we build a customized self-care routine or protocol over time. They&#8217;re learning the skills to manage burnout, not avoiding the cause.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        My advice for managing attention fragmentation is the same as managing burnout. If you&#8217;re running six different projects at once, what if you try working on only two and seeing how that goes, or chunking your day so it&#8217;s not all spent working on your projects?&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n                                                    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n        AI has become a tool in therapy&#13;<br \/>\n    &#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n&#13;<br \/>\n                                                &#13;<br \/>\n                                            &#13;\n                                        <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        From a therapy point of view, I have a lot of clients who use AI to ask for journal prompts or breathing exercises.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        It&#8217;s really awesome that there&#8217;s a place where people can get that information and work through more surface-level versions of therapy. When they come to the session, we&#8217;re able to have much deeper human-level conversations.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        Do you have a story to share about experiencing AI burnout? If so, please reach out to the reporter at tmartinelli@businessinsider.com.&#13;\n    <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"&#13; I would say 99% of my clients cite burnout as one of their biggest problems.&#13; &#13; As&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":583693,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[103,61,60,410,411],"class_list":["post-583692","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-mental-health","tag-health","tag-ie","tag-ireland","tag-mental-health","tag-mentalhealth"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583692","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=583692"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583692\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/583693"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=583692"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=583692"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=583692"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}