When the remains of the last Israeli hostage in Gaza returned to Israel last week, Scott Spindel, a lawyer in Encino, California, finally took off the thick steel dog tag he had put on after the Hamas attack of Oct. 7, 2023.\n<\/p>\n
His friend Lauren Krieger, an orthopedic surgeon, did the same. And he pulled down the last of the names of the hostages remaining in Gaza that his wife, Jenn Roth Krieger, had placed in the window of their Santa Monica home.\n <\/p>\n
During the nearly 28 months that Israeli hostages remained in captivity in Gaza, Krieger, 61, and Spindel, 55, consistently argued over Israel\u2019s war in the strip.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n
\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t \u201cLauren would say that we probably were a little too extreme,\u201d Spindel, whose daughter serves in the IDF, told me in a telephone interview. \u201cI don\u2019t think we blew up enough buildings.\u201d<\/p>\n But those differences paled beside their mutual concern over the fate of the hostages.<\/p>\n \u201cUnfortunately,\u201d said Spindel, \u201cit took tragedy to pull us together.\u201d<\/p>\n So it was across the American Jewish landscape. Then, the body of Staff Sergeant Ran Gvili, the 24-year-old Israeli police officer killed on Oct. 7 and taken by Hamas terrorists back into the enclave, was returned to Israel \u2014 the last of the hostages to come home.<\/p>\n Jews from across the political spectrum unpinned yellow ribbon buttons from their lapels, removed the hostage posters from their synagogues, and folded up and put away the blue-and-white flags displayed as a symbol of the missing Israelis.<\/p>\n The marches and vigils American Jews held on behalf of the hostages \u2014 small but meaningful echoes of the mass rallies that roiled Israel \u2014 came to a quiet halt.<\/p>\n Jewish unity is forged in adversity. Without it, we are apt to find enemies among ourselves. And as painful as the hostage saga was, it unified an otherwise fractious American Jewish community in a time of crisis.<\/p>\n Without that common concern, are even deeper rifts our future?<\/p>\n \u201cAs committed and connected as we were,\u201d said Spindel, \u201cit doesn\u2019t change the fact that we also were still divided about solutions.\u201d<\/p>\n A family in distress \u201cOur family, the whole house of Israel, who are in distress,\u201d the prayer begins \u2014 a wholly accurate summation of the totality of Jewish concern.<\/p>\n Surveys showed that the hostages unified American Jews even when Israel\u2019s Gaza campaign divided them. An October 2025 Washington Post poll found that a plurality of American Jews disapproved of Israel\u2019s military actions in Gaza \u2014 but a whopping 79% said they were \u201cvery concerned\u201d about the hostages.<\/p>\n There have been other moments in recent Jewish history when calamity created unity. The 1995 assassination of Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin, for instance, brought together the vast majority of American Jews in mourning, even those who opposed And, of course the brutal Oct. 7 attack, which claimed almost 1,200 lives, created a near-universal sense of shock and sorrow.<\/p>\n But the hostage crisis may have had an even deeper emotional \u2014 and perhaps political \u2014 impact.<\/p>\n \u201cEven for people who were not affiliated Jewishly, those hostages struck a deep, deep chord,\u201d Krieger told me. \u201cIt felt And a family divided In the U.S., as in Israel, there were sharp disagreements over Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu\u2019s conduct of the war and whether he was even prioritizing the hostages\u2019 safety.<\/p>\n And the encampments and protests against the war at college campuses \u2014 in which many Jewish students participated, and to which many others objected \u2014 created even deeper divisions over support for the Jewish state.<\/p>\n But if the hostage issue didn\u2019t erase such differences, it muted them. Krieger and Spindel could frustrate each other in conversations about the conduct of the war, or American support for it. But in the end, they were both in that 79% that the Washington Post poll identified.<\/p>\n What will hold them \u2014 and the rest of us \u2014 together, now?<\/p>\n The hostage crisis provided something history unfortunately bestows upon Jews with regularity: an external enemy that transcended ideological differences. With it gone, American Jews return to what they\u2019ve always been \u2014 a community bound by Krieger and Spindel have already resumed their arguments. But even though the dog tags are gone, they\u2019re both still wearing Jewish stars on silver chains around their necks. When someone admires Krieger\u2019s, he takes it off and gives it to them. He buys his metal stars in bulk on Amazon, and has given away dozens since Oct. 7.<\/p>\n \u201cI want people to feel like I do,\u201d he said, \u201clike we\u2019re a peoplehood worth cherishing.\u201d<\/p>\n Worth cherishing \u2014 even though we can\u2019t agree on much else.\u2002PJC<\/p>\n Rob Eshman is a senior columnist for the Forward, where this article was first published. 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Across the United States, synagogues of all religious and political bents regularly joined in the same Acheinu prayer for the release and return of the hostages.<\/p>\n
his policies.<\/p>\n
personal. I don\u2019t think we\u2019ve had that level of collective trauma in our lifetimes in that same way.\u201d<\/p>\n
The hostage crisis bonded American Jews to one another, and to their Israeli counterparts, at a time when enormous political rifts were opening within their communities.<\/p>\n
tradition, and riven by politics.<\/p>\n