{"id":360738,"date":"2026-03-27T09:42:08","date_gmt":"2026-03-27T09:42:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/360738\/"},"modified":"2026-03-27T09:42:08","modified_gmt":"2026-03-27T09:42:08","slug":"i-hope-i-dont-mess-it-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/360738\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018I hope I don\u2019t mess it up\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Maureen\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Apparently I kept telling people that I was never going to get married again. I must be full of shit because I am now married. And it was me that proposed\u2005 on a train, coming back from the Edinburgh Festival in August 2024. David happened to notice that it was Tu B\u2019Av, a special day in the Jewish calendar when women can propose to men. As a gag I crawled under the little table, looked up at him and said, \u201cWill you marry me?\u201d He said, \u201cYes,\u201d and I immediately realised I was stuck under the table. He had to help me out.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019d only been together for just over a year, but it somehow felt like we\u2019d known each other for the whole of our lives. When I moved into his house in London \u2014 the house he\u2019d shared with his wife for 50 years \u2014 my heart kept telling me I was coming home. I wanted to be with him 24\/7. There were kids and grandkids, but David loved mine and I loved his. I tried not to stick my oar in where it wasn\u2019t wanted. Sorry if this sounds smug, but I wish any person who\u2019s on their own at my age could find this level of happiness.<\/p>\n<p>David and I first spoke when we were seated next to each other at a mutual friend\u2019s lunch. I must have liked him because, as I was leaving, I pulled the friend aside and said, \u201cIs he your chap?\u201d He is an unusual Jewish man; very funny, very dry and very quiet. He listens, which a lot of men aren\u2019t good at. It took me four months to pluck up the courage to call him, and even then I made an excuse so he didn\u2019t think I was inviting him on a date. I said I needed some help with a talk I was doing.<\/p>\n<p>Some of the people who knew we were seeing each other would give me a look and say, \u201cDavid Turner? Isn\u2019t he a bit frum?\u201d That means religious. Yes, David had a strong orthodox upbringing with a firm commitment to family and faith. He is extremely learned and erudite when it comes to the teachings of Judaism and, yes, I have had to up my game a bit, learn how to keep a kosher home again. He never pushes his faith at me \u2014 or anyone \u2014 but being with him makes me feel closer to the things I believe in.<\/p>\n<p>He is aware that I speak out on Jewish issues, but not once has he asked me to tone it down. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m particularly brave when it comes to making a stand. The day after I joined the protest last year against the BBC\u2019s Gaza documentary [which was narrated by the son of a senior Hamas figure], they offered me two jobs and I took them. When I was working on Corrie full time, they asked me if I wanted security to walk me home. I said yes. I dislike actors \u2014 and I include myself here \u2014 who make their speeches but don\u2019t do anything that actually makes a difference. They don\u2019t put their money where their mouth is.<\/p>\n<p>Has my stance had an effect on my career? Possibly. But I\u2019ve got no complaints. I met my all-time heroine Barbra Streisand when my late husband, Jack Rosenthal, was working on Yentl. My heart skipped a beat when Hugh Jackman started singing Oh, What a Beautiful Mornin\u2019 to me in the rehearsals for Oklahoma! in the 1990s. I\u2019m about to go out on an eight-week theatre tour. I remember working with Alec Guinness and him saying that as long as he could remember his lines, he\u2019d keep going. I\u2019m the same. I see no reason to retire when I can still make people laugh.<\/p>\n<p>Having said that, this tour is going to be difficult because it will be the first time David and I have been apart for any length of time. I have always been surprisingly tough when it comes to jobs \u2014 work has to come before everything else. But this time\u2005 Let\u2019s just say I don\u2019t want to rock the boat too much. I\u2019ve found someone to look after and someone who wants to look after me. What we have is rare and precious, and I hope I don\u2019t f*** it up.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" height=\"790\"   width=\"920\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/b8f54555-cb06-4628-83d8-9708ea6a5b8e.jpg\" alt=\"NINTCHDBPICT001067652597\" class=\"wp-image-21021028\"\/>On their first trip to Ascot in June 2024<\/p>\n<p>David<\/p>\n<p>Did I know the person sitting next to me at lunch? Of course! Thanks to the British Telecom ads on TV, most of the country knows <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/travel\/maureen-lipman-interview-bobby-charlton-told-me-to-put-brown-paper-inside-my-socks-to-avoid-jet-lag-and-it-worked-v6zkvv0p2\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Maureen Lipman<\/a>. We had a bit of shared history \u2014 our sons were in the same class at school \u2014 and chatted amiably, but that was as far as it went. At that time I\u2019d only recently lost my wife of 50 years to Alzheimer\u2019s, and had been her primary carer for the last five years. At 77, I was in no hurry to get back out into the world.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/topic\/alzheimers\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Alzheimer\u2019s<\/a> is like watching the person you know slowly slipping away, day by day. Poetry \u2014 especially the classic poem If I Could Catch a Rainbow \u2014 got me through those tough times. I could no longer catch the rainbow for her. I had to hold her hand and watch her disappear. The feeling of helplessness broke my heart.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0I spent most of my career in the health and fitness industry and co-founded the gym group LA Fitness. In the aftermath of losing my wife, I made sure I looked after myself mentally and physically. Along with getting on my exercise bike, reading poetry became a daily ritual and my granddaughter persuaded me to start a website, adding a new poem every week. Maureen must have spotted that and asked if I could help her put together a talk on the indomitability of the human spirit. I had no idea it was a date.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s no way I would have asked Maureen out. The last time I went on a date was in 1969. Harold Wilson was prime minister and the Beatles were still together. It was a strange feeling at first, going out to dinner with a new person. Yes, it\u2019s the same as when you date in your teens, but it\u2019s also different. You\u2019re not wondering if she wants to have kids. She doesn\u2019t want my money; I don\u2019t want hers. Neither of us had anything we needed to prove to ourselves or to the world. I could simply look at this person and ask, \u201cWould I like to spend time with her?\u201d Yes, I would.<\/p>\n<p>What did I like about Maureen? She speaks her mind, she is beautiful, she\u2019s funny and has none of that \u201cI\u2019m a big star\u201d attitude. There are times when we\u2019re meeting famous people \u2014 I was excited to be sitting next to the actor <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/culture\/theatre-dance\/article\/tom-courtenay-interview-king-and-country-gxsssq6lz\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Tom Courtenay<\/a> one evening \u2014 but Maureen is just the same when she\u2019s chatting to an Oscar winner or the lady in the shop. There\u2019s nothing remote about her.<\/p>\n<p>The thing that convinced me to marry was knowing that if anything happened to Maureen, I would want to take care of her. That\u2019s much easier when you\u2019re married. The other consideration was time. When you\u2019re young time stretches on for ever, but when you get to your seventies the second hand begins to pick up speed. We might have one year together, five years or 20 years, so let\u2019s make them the happiest they can be.<br \/>Allegra tours the UK from May 12; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.allegraplay.com\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">allegraplay.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Strange habits\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Maureen on David<br \/>He is an enabler. You have the idea and David will make it work<\/p>\n<p>David on Maureen\u00a0<br \/>She\u2019s like a human jukebox. She seems to know the lyrics to every song I\u2019ve ever liked<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Maureen\u00a0 Apparently I kept telling people that I was never going to get married again. 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