{"id":394595,"date":"2026-04-16T03:56:09","date_gmt":"2026-04-16T03:56:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/394595\/"},"modified":"2026-04-16T03:56:09","modified_gmt":"2026-04-16T03:56:09","slug":"nicole-kidman-is-training-to-be-a-death-doula-what-is-a-death-doula","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/394595\/","title":{"rendered":"Nicole Kidman is training to be a \u2018death doula\u2019. What is a death doula?"},"content":{"rendered":"

This week, Nicole Kidman revealed she is training to become a death doula<\/a>. She told an audience at the University of San Francisco it \u201cmay sound a little weird\u201d, but she was inspired after her mother died in 2024.<\/p>\n

Observing how her family wasn\u2019t able to provide the support they hoped they could, Kidman wished there were \u201cpeople in the world that were there to sit impartially and just provide solace and care\u201d. This is how she came to explore the field of death doulaship.<\/p>\n

The concept of a doula is often familiar: you might have heard of a birth doula<\/a>, who supports a family through pregnancy. A death doula works in a similar capacity, as a community partner offering support to the dying. <\/p>\n

There is no singular definition for doulas, but those within the field often describe their work as \u201cholding space\u201d for their client. They act as a neutral third-party, working between<\/a> the family, end-of-life care professionals and funeral professionals. <\/p>\n

Though there are training programs<\/a> that offer certifications for death doulas, their work varies widely depending on the preferences of the doula and the type of assistance sought by the client.<\/p>\n

You may have even acted as a death doula within your own community, aiding the dying or their loved ones without the official title. <\/p>\n

A new model for dying<\/p>\n

Dying, death and funerals<\/a> were once a sacred communal process taken care of by family in the comfort of their home. As death became institutionalised, medicalised and professionalised<\/a> over the late 19th and early 20th centuries, loved ones were pushed to the wayside as they did not have the proper training to care for the dead in the eyes of the industry. <\/p>\n

By the mid 1900s<\/a>, the family parlor was no longer the central meeting spot to lament over mortality, and the funeral industry as we understand it today was in full swing.<\/p>\n

This shift slowly gave way to a host of paraprofessionals. Death doulas and death midwives, an ancient practice, reemerged in the early 2000s<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Stemming from the Greek term \u03b4\u03bf\u03cd\u03bb\u03b1<\/a>, meaning female servant, doulas serve as community helpers in liminal periods, most commonly birth and death. They seek to fill the gaps medical and funeral personnel are unable to attend. <\/p>\n

\"Clasping<\/a><\/p>\n

Death doulas seek to fill the gaps medical and funeral personnel are unable to attend.
\n National Cancer Institute\/Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\n

Not everyone who acts in this role calls themselves a \u201cdeath doula\u201d. They are also known as<\/a> soul guides, compassionate companions and vigilers, among other titles.<\/p>\n

I volunteered, researched and worked in thanatology<\/a> \u2013 the study of death and dying \u2013 for over a decade before completing my death doula training. The hands-on experience I gained working with death before my training program was crucial in shaping my ability to communicate about mortality. <\/p>\n

Most people want to talk about death, but they\u2019re faced with the conversation too late. In their most vulnerable hour, the dying and their loved ones are expected to make impossible decisions with little guidance. That\u2019s where death doulas come in. <\/p>\n

Easing the burden<\/p>\n

Kidman said<\/a> \u201cas my mother was passing, she was lonely, and there was only so much the family could provide\u201d.<\/p>\n

While many family members are elected as surrogate decision-makers<\/a> throughout the end-of-life process, it is common they feel highly uncertain<\/a> about the choices<\/a> they\u2019re making. <\/p>\n

The assistance and support of third-party advocates, like death doulas, helps ease the burden on family members and offers a neutral perspective during a vulnerable period. <\/p>\n

I came into this work because I experienced deaths at a young age, and I understood my capacity to deal with death. Similarly to Kidman, many doulas I have interviewed<\/a> came to the work after a loss of their own, with a newfound desire to share what they learned through their experience to help others in an inevitable time of need. <\/p>\n

Death doulas can specialise their work<\/a>, electing to work with pets, stillbirths, children, cognitive decline and many other types of loss. <\/p>\n

Some doulas<\/a> may enter work with a client years before a death, working on more administrative tasks like advanced care planning. Others may join right before a death occurs, focusing on sitting bedside. A third doula may specialise their work around funeral planning, coming in to help facilitate an at-home funeral. <\/p>\n

No two doula practices are identical, just like no two deaths are identical. <\/p>\n

If you are wondering if you should join a death doula training program, my response would be that increasing your death literacy<\/a> is always beneficial, but there are many ways to get a death education. <\/p>\n

Before diving in, explore what is drawing you to the profession and if you want to do this work for others or if you are seeking the knowledge for yourself. Both are wonderful motivations, but they could lead to different outcomes in the type of program you choose to attend or the kind of death education you seek. <\/p>\n

We\u2019re all going to die, and it\u2019s never too soon to start talking about it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"This week, Nicole Kidman revealed she is training to become a death doula. She told an audience at…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":394596,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[146,85,46],"class_list":{"0":"post-394595","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-entertainment","8":"tag-entertainment","9":"tag-il","10":"tag-israel"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394595","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=394595"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394595\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/394596"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=394595"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=394595"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=394595"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}