For years, I have been caught in a tiresome, expensive cycle: when I\u2019m bored (or sad, or insecure) I scroll through my phone, looking for stuff to buy. In those moments, it feels like the right purchase will relieve me of ennui or unpleasantness. These shoes will make my life more glamorous! This face wash will make me feel forever beautiful!<\/p>\n
Sometimes this rush lasts up to two days after I receive my item. But the excitement fades \u2013 sometimes as soon as I click \u201cconfirm purchase\u201d \u2013 and I inevitably think: \u201cWhy did I do that?\u201d<\/p>\n
So how does one start shopping less? We asked experts and people who have pared down their own spending.<\/p>\n
Why do we overconsume?<\/p>\n
Struggling with some degree of impulse shopping is common in this day and age, says Alexa Brown, a musician with the Omaha Symphony who also runs the YouTube channel Conscious Consumerism.<\/p>\n
\u201cI really think society has been optimized to fuel consumerism at every turn,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n
Between insidious marketing that preys on our most vulnerable insecurities, data tracking that produces ultra-personalized ads, and online influencers hawking every product one can imagine, overconsumption is not just a norm, it\u2019s an aspiration, Brown argues.<\/p>\n
Shopping can be an effective way to distract ourselves from stress, anxiety and boredom, says Nicholas Garofola, a content creator who posts about minimalism and frugal living.<\/p>\n
Spending is \u201cexciting\u201d, Garofola says. \u201cThere\u2019s a tangible novelty to having something new.\u201d<\/p>\n
And sometimes we might not know what else to do.<\/p>\n
\u201cMany people don\u2019t know how to function outside of consumption,\u201d says Shelby Orme, a sustainability expert and content creator. Orme says adults in her family didn\u2019t have hobbies<\/a>, so shopping became a major activity. It becomes a hobby for a lot of people, she argues, so choosing not to participate in the consumerist hamster wheel \u201ccan feel isolating\u201d.<\/p>\n What is the problem with overconsumption?<\/p>\n Firstly, it can get expensive. Consumer debt is rising in the UK and US. The average adult in the UK carries \u00a31,425 ($1,900) in credit card debt<\/a>; in the US<\/a>, the number is a whopping $6,715 (\u00a35,030).<\/p>\n Debt can take a toll<\/a> on one\u2019s physical and emotional health. Studies<\/a> have<\/a> shown that those with consumer debt who are in financial distress are more likely to report higher anxiety<\/a>, lower life satisfaction, drug and alcohol abuse, as well as physical symptoms such as migraines<\/a> and digestive tract problems.<\/p>\n Garofola says that in his own experience, owning a lot of things that he didn\u2019t use felt \u201cheavy\u201d. He ultimately realized that shopping was an avoidance technique: \u201cThere\u2019s probably some other problems that need to be addressed if I\u2019m spending to feel happy.\u201d<\/p>\n You also risk damaging your future and your family\u2019s future, says Dr James Grubman, a psychologist and the owner of Family Wealth Consulting in Boston. Besides preventing you from building up financial safety and security, overspending can also hurt relationships, either as a result of acute stress or asking for money from those around you.<\/p>\n Graphic with three lines of text that say, in bold, \u2018Well Actually\u2019, then \u2018Read more on living a good life in a complex world,\u2019 then a pinkish-lavender pill-shaped button with white letters that say \u2018More from this section\u2019\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n The harms also go beyond the individual. Brown points to the severe environmental impacts of producing and consuming so much.<\/p>\n \u201cSo many of the cheap, trendy goods, including clothing, are made from plastic<\/a>,\u201d she says. \u201cIt\u2019s disheartening to face the truth that so much of this stuff ends up trashed, sometimes really quickly after it is purchased.\u201d<\/p>\n High demand has also resulted in companies overproducing goods. For clothing alone, statistics show that between 10% and 40% of garments produced every year are not sold<\/a>. Many of these castoffs end up in places including Ghana and India, where they do harm to the environment and to people\u2019s health<\/a>.<\/p>\n It can be helpful to keep these things in mind when you\u2019re tempted to order a new throw pillow.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not helpful to blame people for living according to what has been normalized by society. \u201cThis is not an exercise in morals or being holier-than-thou,\u201d says Brown. \u201cBut it is productive to make every small effort toward less wasteful ways of buying and using stuff. We\u2019re all in this together.\u201d<\/p>\n More from How to start:<\/p>\n How do you shop less?<\/p>\n Terms such as \u201cminimalism\u201d and \u201cconscious consumerism\u201d may evoke images of a drab, ascetic life devoid of indulgence. But experts say that by not wasting your time, money and energy on stuff you don\u2019t need, you\u2019re more able to focus on what truly brings you joy.<\/p>\n Sleep on it. Many online platforms are designed to make shopping fast and easy; see something you like, and it can be yours with a few taps. But forcing yourself to pause \u2013 sleeping on it or asking ourselves a few questions first \u2013 can make us realize we might not really want that fancy lamp.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re about to buy something, Garofola suggests taking a second to ask yourself why exactly you want to buy this thing, and what you think you will get from it. \u201cI guarantee that will take you from \u2018100%, I\u2019m buying this\u2019 to 50\/50.\u201d<\/p>\n Start small. A common mistake people make when trying to change their habits is taking on too much at once. Brown says that when she started rethinking her shopping habits, she tried to do a full \u201cno<\/a>–buy<\/a> year<\/a>\u201d \u2013 a challenge several other YouTubers have undertaken<\/a>.<\/p>\n Having unrealistic expectations can make it harder to get back on track when we slip up, which we probably will.<\/p>\n \u201cA constant state of \u2018low-buy\u2019 is what I\u2019m striving for, rather than a set period of \u2018no-buy,\u2019\u201d Brown says.<\/p>\n If you do relapse, don\u2019t despair. \u201cThat\u2019s a normal and necessary part of changing a habit,\u201d says Grubman. Each slip-up also contains valuable information: if you can begin to recognize your patterns and notice what leads you to spend mindlessly, it will be easier to disrupt those patterns in the future.<\/p>\n Keep what you love. Decluttering can be a helpful step when trying to shop less, because you can see how much of what you buy ends up going unused. But this doesn\u2019t mean you need to get rid of everything you own.<\/p>\n \u201cPeople should focus on what they love,\u201d says Garofola. If you have a collection of mugs or books that brings you joy and you use it a lot, keep it. \u201cIdentify what brings you value, and then you\u2019re not buying it for the wrong reasons.\u201d<\/p>\n And don\u2019t fall into the trap of spending money to downsize, he warns. You probably don\u2019t need a new set of acrylic shelves to get organized. As you\u2019re getting rid of things you don\u2019t need, \u201clet yourself be messy\u201d, Garofola says.<\/p>\n Work toward something. \u201cGritting your teeth and saying \u2018don\u2019t spend\u2019 just keeps the focus on spending,\u201d says Grubman. Instead, figure out what you do want \u2013 is it to save a certain amount, or to teach your kids good money management? \u201cGo toward a goal, not away from a habit,\u201d Grubman says.<\/p>\n Get a hobby. Shopping can consume a great deal of one\u2019s time, energy and finances, and can feel like its own form of entertainment at times. This is what makes it easy to trade one form of consumerism for another: you tell yourself you won\u2019t buy so many clothes, and you start buying more homewares instead.<\/p>\n \u201cThat\u2019s why I emphasize trading shopping for creativity,\u201d says Orme.<\/p>\n If you start shopping less, a new activity can fill the void. Orme suggests \u201cgrandma<\/a> hobbies<\/a>\u201d such as birding<\/a>, sewing<\/a>, mending<\/a> and gardening<\/a>. \u201cWe traded those pastimes for consumerism,\u201d she says. \u201cI think it\u2019s time we take them back.\u201d<\/p>\n Find community. \u201cOverconsumption isolates us,\u201d says Orme. \u201cIf you want to consume less, start by finding community.\u201d<\/p>\n Orme says she joined a crafting group at her local library, and her partner sought out a regular pickup soccer group at a nearby park. Finding groups and activities that support what you really want for yourself allows for more confidence, self-expression and joy, and makes the shift away from shopping more fulfilling.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"For years, I have been caught in a tiresome, expensive cycle: when I\u2019m bored (or sad, or insecure)…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":482787,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[242,85,46,141],"class_list":["post-482786","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-environment","tag-environment","tag-il","tag-israel","tag-science"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/482786","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=482786"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/482786\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/482787"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=482786"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=482786"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/il\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=482786"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}