DEAR ANNIE: I’ve worked at a boutique interior design firm for four years, and until recently, I loved my job. But two months ago, the owner hired her niece, “Claire,” fresh out of college, with zero experience. Since then, I’ve been sidelined on projects I used to lead, and Claire — who doesn’t know the first thing about client management — is suddenly being introduced as a “rising star.”
I’ve spent years building relationships with clients and vendors, often working late and covering when we were short-staffed. Now I’m watching Claire get praise for things I quietly handled behind the scenes. When I brought it up to my boss, she said Claire brings “fresh energy” and that I shouldn’t feel threatened.
But I do feel threatened. I’m starting to wonder if there’s even room for me to grow here anymore, or if I’m just a stepping stone for family favorites. I don’t want to stick around if I’m being pushed aside.
How do I know if it’s time to move on — or if I just need a thicker skin? — Fading Into the Wallpaper
DEAR FADING: There’s nothing more demoralizing than watching someone else get credit for your work.
Identify some concrete asks — projects you want to lead, clients you want to work with, even salary goals — and then share your ideas with your boss. Make it clear you care about growing with the company and want to build a path forward together.
This shows you’re cooperative but also focused — and unwilling to sit on the sidelines. If she brushes off your asks, then you might have your answer.
Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.
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