{"id":141198,"date":"2025-11-18T12:53:15","date_gmt":"2025-11-18T12:53:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/141198\/"},"modified":"2025-11-18T12:53:15","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T12:53:15","slug":"sunlive-at-50-this-mum-isnt-sure-shell-see-christmas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/141198\/","title":{"rendered":"SunLive &#8211; At 50, this mum isn&#8217;t sure she&#8217;ll see Christmas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Time is running out for P\u0101p\u0101moa mother-of-three Kerry Bary.<\/p>\n<p>She does not know if she will live to see this Christmas.<\/p>\n<p>The 50-year-old was diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer last year. Her prognosis, initially one to five years, is now just \u201cmonths\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>She is focused on spending time with her husband Rusty, her three children, and her granddaughter &#8211; but also wants to share her story.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWith time running short, we live differently. We don\u2019t put things off any more. We take photos. We laugh loudly. We make memories.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBecause memories are what will remain when I no longer can.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She made these comments to Bowel Cancer New Zealand for its Never Too Young campaign, launched last week to raise awareness of bowel cancer in younger people and the importance of early detection.<\/p>\n<p>The organisation\u2019s new report found bowel cancer was the leading cause of cancer death among New Zealanders younger than 50. It called for the national screening age to be lowered to 45.<\/p>\n<p>Bary is an ambassador for the campaign, and believes her cancer could have been detected earlier if the screening age was lower.<\/p>\n<p>The Government has promised to\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/nz\/politics\/bowel-cancer-screening-eligibility-age-to-be-lowered-for-everyone\/DAL2S5WAIFFHNGGWHVI3HEJ46Y\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/nz\/politics\/bowel-cancer-screening-eligibility-age-to-be-lowered-for-everyone\/DAL2S5WAIFFHNGGWHVI3HEJ46Y\/\" target=\"_blank\">progressively lower the age of eligibility<\/a>\u00a0from 60 to 45 to eventually align with Australia.<\/p>\n<p>The first \u201csignificant\u201d step was lowering it to 58, \u201cas funding and access to additional colonoscopy resource becomes available,\u201d Health Minister Simeon Brown said in March.<\/p>\n<p>This change\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/entertainment\/bowel-cancer-screening-age-to-be-lowered-to-58-home-tests-to-be-made-available\/RQSHJORO2VBIDANDCS755RYRKQ\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_self\" title=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/entertainment\/bowel-cancer-screening-age-to-be-lowered-to-58-home-tests-to-be-made-available\/RQSHJORO2VBIDANDCS755RYRKQ\/\">came into effect in October<\/a>\u00a0for Northland, Auckland and the South Island, with the rest of the North Island to follow in March.<\/p>\n<p>A simple at-home test for those with bowel cancer symptoms is also being introduced.<\/p>\n<p>According to Bowel Cancer NZ, each year about 3300 New Zealanders are diagnosed with the disease, and 1200 die from it. Caught early, it is more than 90% curable.<\/p>\n<p>\u2018It has changed my life completely\u2019<\/p>\n<p>In February 2023, Bary told her doctor she had been having diarrhoea since Christmas, and noted other changes in her bowel movements, including going to the bathroom up to 20 times daily.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNothing much\u201d came from that appointment, but her symptoms kept getting worse, Bary told Bowel Cancer NZ.<\/p>\n<p>In March, she went to A&amp;E with severe diarrhoea and blood in her stool.<\/p>\n<p>A colonoscopy and CT scan followed in April.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Kerry Bary with her son, Bronson. Photo \/ Supplied\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/FRFIJILHFRHW5BYJBXUM7GPHBU.jpg\" style=\"width: 100%;\"\/>Kerry Bary with her son, Bronson. Photo \/ Supplied<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was told the words nobody ever expects to hear: \u2018You have bowel cancer\u2019.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bary had surgery at Grace Hospital. In May, she was told her cancer had spread and it was Stage 4.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe were devastated.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A PET CT scan later that month showed further spreading.<\/p>\n<p>She learned her cancer was considered \u201cuntreatable\u201d and her prognosis of one to five years was shortened to \u201cmonths\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt has changed my life completely. Physically, emotionally, and in all the ways it touches my family.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She started chemotherapy in June and is focused on making memories with family and friends.<\/p>\n<p>This year, they went to Rarotonga with friends, surprised her son with a trip to Thailand, and took a \u201cfinal\u201d trip to Fiji with extended family.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThese trips gave us so many laughs, tears and special memories, including seeing my daughter get engaged.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bary said bowel cancer was \u201cnot just an old person\u2019s disease\u201d and could strike younger adults.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf you notice changes \u2014 blood in stool, change in bowel habits, unexplained weight loss, fatigue, feeling [your] bowel doesn\u2019t empty \u2014 don\u2019t ignore it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGet checked. Push for a colonoscopy and seek a second opinion if you\u2019re not satisfied.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"P\u0101p\u0101moa mother Kerry Bary, third from right, was diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer last year. She is trying to spend as much quality time as she can with her family: Daughter Jessica's fianc\u00e9 Liam (left), daughter Jessica, two-year-old granddaughter, son Bronson, husband Russell (Rusty), and daughter Courtney. \" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/K4JSRWBU5FBINJ3CUZUEWC2DR4.jpg\" style=\"width: 100%;\"\/>P\u0101p\u0101moa mother Kerry Bary, third from right, was diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer last year. She is trying to spend as much quality time as she can with her family: Daughter Jessica&#8217;s fianc\u00e9 Liam (left), daughter Jessica, two-year-old granddaughter, son Bronson, husband Russell (Rusty), and daughter Courtney.<\/p>\n<p>Bowel Cancer NZ chief executive Peter Huskinson said the report showed \u201ctoo many\u201d people were told they were \u201ctoo young\u201d for bowel cancer.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBy the time they were diagnosed, it was advanced.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Huskinson said it showed major change was needed to raise awareness of symptoms and ensure people of all ages were taken seriously when seeking help.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOur clinically backed, costed plan to begin screening at 45,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/rotorua-daily-post\/news\/rotorua-bowel-cancer-survivor-matthew-keogan-calls-for-screening-age-to-be-lowered\/XT5R5DKEBBAZBPHTFPZ6JFCNTA\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_self\" title=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/rotorua-daily-post\/news\/rotorua-bowel-cancer-survivor-matthew-keogan-calls-for-screening-age-to-be-lowered\/XT5R5DKEBBAZBPHTFPZ6JFCNTA\/\">shared with the Government earlier this year,<\/a>\u00a0would detect six in 10 early-onset bowel cancers before symptoms develop \u2013 at an earlier, more treatable stage.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Brown said his thoughts were with Bary and her family during this incredibly difficult and distressing time.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEarly detection of bowel cancer is critical, which is why last month I announced the national rollout of the FIT for Symptomatic test, already under way in five districts.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The test allowed anyone of any age with symptoms to do a \u201cquick at-home assessment\u201d of their risk. The person would be referred for a colonoscopy if they were at \u201cpossible risk\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Discover more<\/p>\n<p>Brown said the Government was committed to lowering the bowel screening age to match Australia.<\/p>\n<p>Expanding colonoscopy capacity was essential to achieving that, and the new test was a \u201ccritical part of this approach\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Previously, anyone with symptoms would have been referred for a colonoscopy, \u201cputting pressure on the system\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cTesting people with symptoms first helps free up capacity.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Brown said the test was expected to reduce colonoscopy referrals by 30-60%, allowing faster diagnosis for those most at risk.<\/p>\n<p>He said the Government would also deliver 7100 additional colonoscopies through to mid-2026.<\/p>\n<p>Brown said he had received Bowel Cancer NZ\u2019s proposal and asked officials for advice.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nzherald.co.nz\/author\/megan-wilson\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Megan Wilson<\/a>\u00a0is a health and general news reporter for the Bay of Plenty Times and Rotorua Daily Post. 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