{"id":305561,"date":"2026-02-27T23:03:13","date_gmt":"2026-02-27T23:03:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/305561\/"},"modified":"2026-02-27T23:03:13","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T23:03:13","slug":"arthur-brooks-stress-makes-life-meaningful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/305561\/","title":{"rendered":"Arthur Brooks: Stress Makes Life Meaningful"},"content":{"rendered":"

In Monday\u2019s column<\/a>, I argued that today\u2019s stress epidemic is largely driven by our screen use. I\u2019ll have a lot more to say on that topic in the next few weeks, because it\u2019s a central theme of my new book, The Meaning of Your Life<\/a>, which will be released on March 31.<\/p>\n

The column provoked reader feedback not only about screen use, but also about ways to lower stress in general. For example:<\/p>\n

For Lent I\u2019m putting my phone away at 5:00 pm and not looking at it til after I return from Mass the following morning. The same goes for my computer. I got my landline back and informed my kids to call if they need to reach me after 5:00. An alarm clock wakes me up to the sound of waves crashing along the shore.<\/p>\n

and\u2026<\/p>\n

I\u2019m closing down and reading a book.<\/p>\n

All good and solid advice. But I want to make the point that stress isn\u2019t necessarily a bad thing per se. It doesn\u2019t have to be the enemy.<\/p>\n

A lot of the stuff in life we hate is stressful, it\u2019s true. But many of the things we love most are also extremely stressful. This is illustrated in one of the most interesting recent papers<\/a> I\u2019ve come across. In 2023, researchers surveyed a representative population and ranked the 43 most stressful events in an average person\u2019s life. (Why 43? This study was inspired by a classic scale created in 1967, which originally included 42 stressful life events. The newer study added one extra variable: \u201csingle person, living alone.\u201d)<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be surprised by some of these rankings. The No. 1 most stressful life event is the death of a spouse or life partner. This is followed, in order of stressfulness, by detention in jail or other institution, the death of a close family member, getting divorced, and marital separation. Nothing very remarkable there\u2014except perhaps to note that one way to cut down on your stress is to get divorced before your spouse dies.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m kidding. Geez.<\/p>\n

Stress of this sad, tragic type is generally bad. We don\u2019t invite it into our lives on purpose, and when it comes, it\u2019s deeply unwelcome.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s where the plot thickens. Go down the list of stressors a bit further, and you will find that many of these supposedly stressful life events are actually good things in life. Consider that pregnancy ranks No. 6, just over 2 percentage points less stressful than marital separation. An \u201coutstanding personal achievement\u201d is more stressful than having trouble with your boss.<\/p>\n

In other words, stress isn\u2019t necessarily your enemy at all, and can even make life more meaningful. For example, parents simultaneously experience higher stress<\/a> and higher levels of transient well-being<\/a> when with their children. In the classroom, students who undergo \u201cacademic stressors<\/a>\u201d (such as challenging assignments) tend to enjoy greater meaning and well-being in the long run.<\/p>\n

In fact, a stress-free life might sound great, but it would mean not just avoiding the hard parts but forgoing many of the sweetest moments. A better approach is to learn to manage and accept the hard and the sweet together as parts of a normal life. In my upcoming book<\/a>, I go into lots of detail on how to practically do this, and I will share some of this in the newsletter in the upcoming weeks.<\/p>\n

Stressfully yours,<\/p>\n

Arthur<\/p>\n

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The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks will be back next week with a column on Monday. His newsletter returns next Friday.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"In Monday\u2019s column, I argued that today\u2019s stress epidemic is largely driven by our screen use. I\u2019ll have…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":305562,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[134,554,555,111,139,69],"class_list":{"0":"post-305561","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-health","8":"tag-health","9":"tag-mental-health","10":"tag-mentalhealth","11":"tag-new-zealand","12":"tag-newzealand","13":"tag-nz"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/305561","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=305561"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/305561\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/305562"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=305561"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=305561"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=305561"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}