{"id":364592,"date":"2026-04-05T07:57:21","date_gmt":"2026-04-05T07:57:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/364592\/"},"modified":"2026-04-05T07:57:21","modified_gmt":"2026-04-05T07:57:21","slug":"at-the-moment-life-and-death-feel-quite-close-together-the-irish-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/364592\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018At the moment, life and death feel quite close together\u2019 \u2013 The Irish Times"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How agreeable are you?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">It depends on the context. It can mean going along with things, but I\u2019m not naturally agreeable in that way. I am curious, however, and I\u2019m a very good listener, which makes me agreeable in other ways, like in dialogue, listening, asking questions and so on. With journalism, it\u2019s not your job to be agreeable, but I think being able to listen is important.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s your middle name and what do you think of it?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">My middle name is Elizabeth, but I wouldn\u2019t feel too connected to it. For my Confirmation name, I took Antonia, which was after my grandad Tony, because I thought it was as close as I could get to his name. As a 12-year-old, I thought it sounded like a woman version of Tony, so I went with it.<\/p>\n<p>Where is your favourite place in Ireland?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I wouldn\u2019t have a favourite, but I do have lots of special places. West <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/clare\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/clare\/\">Clare<\/a>, particularly Lahinch, is very special. My husband is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/australia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/australia\/\">Australian<\/a>, and before we met, he had been coming over to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/ireland\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/ireland\/\">Ireland<\/a> for years, surfing and stuff like that. We met through mutual friends in Clare, who I knew from college, and who he knew from surfing. We got married outside Lahinch in a seafood restaurant called Barrtr\u00e1. It wasn\u2019t a big wedding, but it was 27 degrees, with an amazing pink sunset over the ocean. It was just a very, very special day, so that area is magical for us.<\/p>\n<p>Describe yourself in three words.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I\u2019m definitely intense; I\u2019m a textbook Scorpio. I am curious and determined, although I do have some type-B tendencies when it comes to organising personal things, so my husband definitely takes the reins in terms of that.<\/p>\n<p>When did you last get angry?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">For me, anger tells me something is wrong, that a boundary has been crossed, or that there has been some kind of injustice. I tend to go quiet with it, internalise it, and then interrogate it by asking why I am angry and what\u2019s causing it. In that way, I would hope that I wouldn\u2019t misdirect it and blame the wrong people for it.<\/p>\n<p>What have you lost that you would like to have back?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I lost a suitcase. From the end of 2019, I had been living in Australia, and I moved back to Ireland in 2023, about three months before our wedding. My husband had gone ahead of me to start a job in Dublin, and I was finishing up work and moving around a bit. In this suitcase was my wedding outfit, wedding jewellery, all kinds of sentimental, valuable stuff, souvenirs and keepsakes that I had gathered over the time of being in Australia, lots of stuff that was totally irreplaceable, and it went missing in one of the moves. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I still think about it. Sometimes it will just pop into my mind: \u2018Where did it go?\u2019 I went on numerous websites to see if I could track it down, and I had different people looking for it in different areas. Like, was it in an old house or a new house or whatever? But nothing. It just disappeared, and to this day I\u2019ve no idea where it is.<\/p>\n<p>What is your strongest childhood memory?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I\u2019m very close to my siblings, especially my younger sister \u2013 we\u2019re only 18 months apart. When I was maybe four, and she was three, I dressed her up in my mum\u2019s clothes, with the lipstick on, high heels on, everything. We snuck out the back gate and got fairly close to the end of our road, and then a neighbour brought us back. We would very often take the opportunity to go out on adventures, much to my parents\u2019 dismay, and we still have that desire to go on adventures together.<\/p>\n<p>Where do you come in your family\u2019s birth order, and has this defined you?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I\u2019m the third of four. I have an older sister, an older brother and a younger sister, and yes, while it has definitely shaped me, I don\u2019t know if it totally defined me. I was always trying to keep up with the older two \u2013 whenever we went on holidays, I wanted to go on the same water slides or rides as they did. That said, it was great being an older sister to my younger sibling, even though she is now very wise and I look to her for advice a lot of the time. My mother is a family therapist, so she was very intentional about having a special relationship with all of us. We all felt unique and special and loved, and to this day, the four of us are all very close, which is great.<\/p>\n<p>What do you expect to happen when you die?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I don\u2019t have fixed beliefs, although I\u2019m thinking about it a bit more recently. I\u2019m about to have my first child, and at the same time, my amazing nan, who is 102, isn\u2019t very well, so at the moment, life and death feel quite close together. I have the experience of being pregnant after early miscarriage in the past, and it makes you realise that early life is fragile and that it\u2019s closely linked to death, almost inseparable. In terms of when I die? I love the idea of a fun-filled funeral, with people celebrating me by doing my favourite karaoke songs.<\/p>\n<p>When were you happiest?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I\u2019m pretty happy now. I feel really lucky to be back in Ireland and to be near my friends and family. I have a new job that I\u2019m passionate about, and I\u2019m excited for the next couple of months. Nervous, too, but mainly excited about becoming a mum as well. <\/p>\n<p>Which actor would play you in a biopic about your life?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I\u2019m laughing here, but for a very brief time in school, I was into weightlifting and my family, my siblings, started calling me Dwayne \u201cThe Rock\u201d Johnson. I don\u2019t know how or why, but that has grown into its own thing, with new iterations, and some of my friends still call me that. So, he would be my first choice, even though I know some elements aren\u2019t quite there.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s your biggest career\/personal regret?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I learned Russian in college, and for a year, went to Moscow, where I had a fairly high standard of the language. That standard has not remained very high, so that\u2019s a regret, because it was such a difficult language to learn. Personal regrets? I don\u2019t really have any. <\/p>\n<p>Have you any psychological quirks?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">It could be a feeling that I can fit a million things into one day, but I would over-plan and be unbelievably ambitious with my time. Occasionally, that works. That\u2019s why it gives me hope, and then I\u2019m like, yes, I\u2019d definitely be able to do all this in one day. However, most of the time that doesn\u2019t happen, yet I still have the belief it can happen, so I still plan that way. I would say it\u2019s not an issue, but it has certainly been commented on.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">In conversation with Tony Clayton-Lea<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"How agreeable are you? It depends on the context. 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