\u201cEveryone sees the money, the security,\u201d he said, alongside his wife on social media. \u201cI worked my way up from the bottom and built a life I thought my family really needed because as a man you\u2019re taught your job is to provide, so you just keep going.\u201d<\/p>\n
Jasmine and Damian Ngati are sharing their story to help others manage the strain of fly-in, fly-out work. Photo \/ Jasmine and Damian Ngati<\/p>\n
The Ngatis say they didn\u2019t fully grasp the weight of that pressure until their relationship was on the verge of collapse.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe moment that cemented it was a FaceTime call,\u201d Jasmine Ngati said, the Daily Mail reported.<\/p>\n
\u201cDamian could hear it in my voice before he could even see my face. When he saw me, he knew. I looked empty. Lost. Like I had nothing left in me. Without me saying a single word, he understood he was losing his wife.\u201d<\/p>\n
That evening, Damian Ngati decided he would quit his job.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt wasn\u2019t an easy decision and not just because of the money,\u201d he said, the Daily Mail reported.<\/p>\n
\u201cWalking away from a trade and a career I spent 15 years building from the ground up. That work was tied to who I am, my sense of worth, purpose. Giving that up took courage.\u201d<\/p>\n
Since stepping away from fly-in, fly-out work, the couple, who have four children, have been redefining what wealth really means.<\/p>\n
\u201cA little girl who had known dad leaving every two weeks for her entire life, who had cried at fly-outs for as long as she could remember, was transformed,\u201d Jasmine Ngati told the Daily Mail.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe day he walked in for school pick-up and she realised he wasn\u2019t leaving again, the look on her face was something no pay cheque could ever match.\u201d<\/p>\n
The Ngatis are now sharing their experience on social media, offering other couples advice, including a 48-hour relationship reset guide to help partners reconnect after time apart.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u201cEveryone sees the money, the security,\u201d he said, alongside his wife on social media. \u201cI worked my way…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":390302,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[93640,62509,201903,201902,9852,11586,4187,8414,69827,201900,201901,4241,42,78,3112,194,4188,636,11692,43,134127,14152,106487,520,11590,165,2846,61,42032,40,38,41,39,4576,12767],"class_list":{"0":"post-390301","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-headlines","8":"tag-300k","9":"tag-62509","10":"tag-201903","11":"tag-a300000","12":"tag-based","13":"tag-coast","14":"tag-cost","15":"tag-couple","16":"tag-damian","17":"tag-flyin","18":"tag-flyout","19":"tag-gold","20":"tag-headlines","21":"tag-in","22":"tag-job","23":"tag-kiwi","24":"tag-living","25":"tag-marriage","26":"tag-nearly","27":"tag-news","28":"tag-ngati","29":"tag-quit","30":"tag-quits","31":"tag-relationship","32":"tag-save","33":"tag-their","34":"tag-them","35":"tag-to","36":"tag-toll","37":"tag-top-news","38":"tag-top-stories","39":"tag-topnews","40":"tag-topstories","41":"tag-work","42":"tag-worker"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/390301","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=390301"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/390301\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/390302"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=390301"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=390301"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=390301"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}