Fill out the questionnaire here<\/a>.<\/p>\nAge:\u00a032<\/p>\n
Gender:\u00a0Male<\/p>\n
Sexuality:\u00a0Heterosexual<\/p>\n
Ethnicity:\u00a0P\u0101keh\u0101<\/p>\n
Religion:\u00a0Atheist<\/p>\n
Occupation:\u00a0Executive support and researcher<\/p>\n
Length of relationship:\u00a09.5 years<\/p>\n
Children:\u00a00<\/p>\n
How we met:\u00a0Tinder<\/p>\n
The best thing about my relationship:\u00a0The way we communicate, and continue to work on improving our communication.<\/p>\n
A problem we can\u2019t seem to resolve:\u00a0Trying to have our aspirational lifestyle as a couple while still flatting and navigating flatmates day-to-day.<\/p>\n
This is how we share\/separate our finances:\u00a0We have separate accounts but we share our bills, though it differs across them. Rent is split 50\/50. Power and internet are split equally too. Food costs we take turns with, though somewhat randomly. All the other significant things \u2013 like car maintenance and insurance \u2013 we split equitably based on our previous year of income. So if I earned 70% of our income as a couple, I pay 70% of the bill.<\/p>\n
This is how we split chores and childcare: We just make an effort to both contribute. My partner tends to cook more \u2019cause she loves it. I tend to do washing more, and put the bins out. We also have a flat cleaning roster, but my partner and I help each other with our chores.<\/p>\n
Our sex life in three words:\u00a0Non-penetrative. Loving. Developing.<\/p>\n
The thing that makes me a good partner:\u00a0I think I\u2019m kind and caring. I\u2019ve also read a lot of feminist literature, which I think genuinely really helps with resisting a lot of cultural thought problems that still try and get into my brain.<\/p>\n
The thing I need to work on to be a better partner:\u00a0Patience.<\/p>\n
What I most appreciate in my partner:\u00a0Her communication skills.<\/p>\n
What I most resent in my relationship:\u00a0I sometimes feel like there could be more desire in our sex life, and I miss penetrative sex at times. But we talk about these things so it never really becomes full-blown resentment\u2026<\/p>\n
The thing that has changed the most about my relationship over time:\u00a0Our communication just continues to improve. We can genuinely raise anything and everything. It doesn\u2019t mean we get what we want \u2013 but we can talk about anything we want without it becoming a disagreement.<\/p>\n
It would surprise people to know this about my relationship:\u00a0We don\u2019t really have penetrative sex. My partner is one of many women who doesn\u2019t really find it comfortable or enjoyable.<\/p>\n
Our last big fight was about:\u00a0We honestly don\u2019t really have big fights. We value communication too much to let it get that bad.<\/p>\n
If I hadn\u2019t met my partner:\u00a0I\u2019d be fine. We both would be. We\u2019d have met other people.<\/p>\n
I expect my relationship to last until:\u00a0Until neither of us want to be here any more. Hopefully that\u2019s a long time. But who knows.<\/p>\n
My relationship advice is: Communication is key.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"What it\u2019s really like to be in a nearly 10-year relationship while flatting. Want to be part of…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":453367,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[210684,111,43,139,69,2935],"class_list":["post-453366","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-new-zealand","tag-love-actually-series","tag-new-zealand","tag-news","tag-newzealand","tag-nz","tag-society"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/453366","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=453366"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/453366\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/453367"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=453366"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=453366"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=453366"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}