{"id":474570,"date":"2026-06-13T00:27:08","date_gmt":"2026-06-13T00:27:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/474570\/"},"modified":"2026-06-13T00:27:08","modified_gmt":"2026-06-13T00:27:08","slug":"emily-ratajkowski-i-decided-to-fck-my-way-into-a-new-kind-of-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/474570\/","title":{"rendered":"Emily Ratajkowski: ‘I Decided to F*ck’ My Way Into a New Kind of Woman’"},"content":{"rendered":"

Emily Ratajkowski<\/a> has opened up about her sex life, explaining how she’s used sex to change who she is.<\/p>\n

In a new essay for The Cut,<\/a> the actor and model admitted that she stopped having sex with ex-husband Sebastian Bear McClard six months after the birth of their son, Sylvester.<\/p>\n

“Six months after my son was born, my husband and I stopped having sex,” Ratajkowski wrote. “Less than a year later, we separated.”<\/p>\n

Following their divorce, Ratajkowski wrote that she wanted to “fuck my way into a new kind of woman.”<\/p>\n

\u201cI wanted to destroy the Madonna, the special girl I\u2019d worked so hard to be before an eight-pound baby had torn my vagina in two, and replace her with the whore,” Ratajkowski penned, before providing details about subsequent dating efforts.<\/p>\n

“I wish I could say I\u2019d started to date slowly \u2026 but the truth is just a week after my split, I found myself in Brooklyn, a shell-shocked and sleepless version of myself,” she added “‘I just need a distraction,’ I\u2019d said, tasking my friends, who had giddily gotten to work by texting every unattached and (relatively) unembarrassing man they knew,” she wrote. <\/p>\n

“[A] DJ was the closest man in the vicinity and the lowest stakes [because] he lived only two blocks away from the apartment I’d shared with my ex and our son, had been sober for nearly a decade and was a friend of a friend of a friend.”<\/p>\n

Ratajkowski explained that she didn\u2019t actually sleep with the DJ, but it did help her get into a freeing dating phase.<\/p>\n

“The character I\u2019d learned to embody after my divorce, in my period of compulsive dating, was a villain: Poison Ivy. Catwoman,” she wrote. “Sexual but scary, and she drank gin martinis. Many, many gin martinis. She was not tragic. Nothing close to a victim. No one needed to feel sorry for her. In fact, they should all be jealous.”<\/p>\n

Ratajkowski was previously married to Bear-McLard from 2018 to 2022, before their split. In the time since, she got used to dating as a single mom,\u00a0which she brought up in her essay for The Cut.\u00a0<\/p>\n

“Being a New Yorker made being a single mom feel sexier [and] bohemian, or at least that’s what I told myself,” she explained, before revealing that she’d never had a one-night stand before her recent dating phase.<\/p>\n

Ratajkowski\u2019s essay about her dating follows previous comments about the importance of sex for her during a 2023 appearance on the Forbidden Fruits podcast<\/a>. <\/p>\n

“Sex is very relaxing to me. It\u2019s, like, an outlet. It’s an expression, and I like to have it in my life,” she said, before alleging that “you learn so much about people by having sex with them, it\u2019s crazy. I\u2019ve learned that from dating.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Emily Ratajkowski has opened up about her sex life, explaining how she’s used sex to change who she…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":474571,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[32],"tags":[430,156,111,139,69],"class_list":["post-474570","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-celebrities","tag-celebrities","tag-entertainment","tag-new-zealand","tag-newzealand","tag-nz"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/474570","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=474570"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/474570\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/474571"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=474570"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=474570"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=474570"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}