{"id":488809,"date":"2026-06-21T19:16:10","date_gmt":"2026-06-21T19:16:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/488809\/"},"modified":"2026-06-21T19:16:10","modified_gmt":"2026-06-21T19:16:10","slug":"why-tauranga-mum-turned-off-daughters-social-media-under-the-influence-episode-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/488809\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Tauranga mum turned off daughter\u2019s social media \u2013 Under the Influence, episode 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

Initially, Iyla was fuming. Like many Kiwi teens, she regarded social media as a core part of her life and identity.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen Mum turned off the Wi-Fi, I was furious,\u201d she remembers in the first episode of Under the Influence, a new six-part online video series outlining how social media is hurting our young people and how parents and teens can fight back.<\/p>\n

\"MotherMother Sophia Paskell and daughter Iyla Habib talk about the harm caused by social media for the online video series Under the Influence, produced by Overactive Imagination for the NZ Herald.<\/p>\n

\u201cI felt like that she didn\u2019t understand me, didn\u2019t understand my problems. I needed this Wi-Fi!\u201d<\/p>\n

In the episode, the Tauranga 19-year-old describes thinking about social media all the time, navigating a \u201cchaos of desire\u201d with endless scrolling of makeup brands and trendy fashion she could consume. <\/p>\n

Sophia reflects that it wasn\u2019t until the Wi-Fi was turned off that the influences began to wash away.<\/p>\n

\u201c[The online trends] just slowly started melting off her and I could finally [see], oh, there\u2019s my daughter, I can see you now.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"DrDr Samantha Marsh, a senior research fellow at the University of Auckland, talks about the harm caused by social media in Under the Influence.<\/p>\n

Dr Samantha Marsh, a senior research fellow at the University of Auckland, explains how the pressures of social media can affect identity formation for adolescents. <\/p>\n

\u201cWhat we want is children to go out into the community, to meet new people, be exposed to new ideas and then come home and have good relationships with their friends in person, with their parents, talk about what they\u2019ve learned and what they\u2019re thinking. But they also just need that time alone for self-reflection. <\/p>\n

\u201cWhat we now have is a situation where kids are exposed to other people constantly and have very little time to actually stop and think about whether it\u2019s what they actually want.\u201d<\/p>\n

Anna, a 21-year-old who struggled with an eating disorder amplified by inspirational weight-loss content, describes social media as feeling like \u201cTrauma Olympics\u201d. <\/p>\n

\u201cIf you are someone who feels like you have had some kind of trauma or you struggle with your own mental health, then you\u2019ll be pushed into algorithms that will not only encourage that, but also make you compete to prove that your pain is valid.\u201d<\/p>\n

The episode also covers the graphic, uncensored depiction of violence and death on social media \u2013 including videos of shootings and beheadings \u2013 and its traumatic effect on young people, as algorithms serve it up to them unrequested.<\/p>\n

Jackie Barron, principal at St Hilda\u2019s Collegiate in Dunedin, has noticed the harm filtering down among her students. <\/p>\n

Issues that used to be common among older teenagers now crop up frequently in young girls aged from 11 to 14, she says.<\/p>\n

\u201cThey\u2019re a very, very vulnerable group and they are hugely, hugely marketed to and those tech companies and the trillion-dollar beauty industry \u2013 they need those little girls.\u201d<\/p>\n

\"JackieJackie Barron, principal at St Hilda’s Collegiate in Dunedin, talks about how social media is harming students.<\/p>\n

She sees the runaway growth of social media and its consequences for young people\u2019s mental health as an experiment that went badly wrong.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t think we\u2019ll ever do that again. We gave our rangatahi unfettered access to the internet through the smartphone \u2013 and we did not know the monster we\u2019d unleashed.\u201d<\/p>\n

Under the Influence was made with support from NZ On Air and Screen Canterbury for the NZ Herald. You can watch the next episode, Boy v Manosphere, on Thursday, June 25, at nzherald.co.nz\/undertheinfluence <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Initially, Iyla was fuming. Like many Kiwi teens, she regarded social media as a core part of her…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":488810,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[13978,21039,11946,1073,2721,111,139,69,6662,1072,213,1227,223,19054,8238,4276],"class_list":["post-488809","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-sports","tag-daughters","tag-episode","tag-influence","tag-media","tag-mum","tag-new-zealand","tag-newzealand","tag-nz","tag-off","tag-social","tag-sports","tag-tauranga","tag-the","tag-turned","tag-under","tag-why"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/488809","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=488809"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/488809\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/488810"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=488809"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=488809"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=488809"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}