Fill out the questionnaire here<\/a>.<\/p>\nAge: 26<\/p>\n
Gender: Woman<\/p>\n
Sexuality:\u00a0Lesbian<\/p>\n
Ethnicity:\u00a0M\u0101ori and P\u0101keh\u0101<\/p>\n
Religion:\u00a0Atheist<\/p>\n
Occupation:\u00a0Lawyer<\/p>\n
Length of relationship:\u00a0Six months<\/p>\n
Children: None<\/p>\n
How we met:\u00a0Hinge!<\/p>\n
The best thing about my relationship:\u00a0How kind we are to one another. We have both been in long-term relationships in our early twenties that were not good for us in the end, for various reasons, so I really cherish how gentle, patient and kind we are to one another. I really enjoy being able to communicate clearly and conscientiously and provide emotional support for them and know that they will give the same back.<\/p>\n
A problem we can\u2019t seem to resolve:\u00a0Bed temperature. I run incredibly hot and they run cold so we\u2019re always having to find blanket layering and ways to cuddle that enable us both to be the right temp. Tips welcome!<\/p>\n
This is how we share\/separate our finances:\u00a0We have completely split finances and tend to take turns paying for more expensive dates, otherwise it\u2019s a 50\/50 split each time.<\/p>\n
This is how we split chores and childcare: We don\u2019t live together so we tend to keep each of our spaces tidy and tidy up after the other when they\u2019re at our house. I have quite a _particular_ way of doing things and they\u2019re very patient about me telling them to (metaphorically and sometimes literally) stand in the corner while I do it.<\/p>\n
Our sex life in three words:\u00a0Thriving, comfortable, incredible.<\/p>\n
The thing that makes me a good partner:\u00a0I think that I am very direct with what I want and need at this point in my life, and I have been very clear with them about that. I think that means I am able to care for them in the deepest and most loving way possible because I do not feel like I am compromising big parts of myself to get the bare minimum back.<\/p>\n
The thing I need to work on to be a better partner:\u00a0I think I can be a bit short and impatient (see above about doing chores myself to do it right). I think I need to release control of a lot of the smaller things in my life so this is a general work on.<\/p>\n
What I most appreciate in my partner:\u00a0Their thoughtfulness. They are always going above and beyond and making me feel so seen, heard and cared for. Even just in the smallest things, like checking on my food with a waiter when I am waiting at a restaurant.<\/p>\n
What I most resent in my relationship:\u00a0I don\u2019t harbour any resentments! We\u2019re very good at talking it out and taking our own space and time.<\/p>\n
The thing that has changed the most about my relationship over time:\u00a0I think we started seeing one another in a way that we knew it was different to other dates\/dating we\u2019d done but maybe not wanting to immediately acknowledge we wanted to be in a relationship. We have become way more secure in that as we have gone on.<\/p>\n
It would surprise people to know this about my relationship:\u00a0That it has an end date. We have discussed openly and early that we do not want to be together forever and have our own independent goals in our careers and lives, including independent travel and moving overseas alone. We are really with each other for this season of our life and when it\u2019s time to move on, we will.<\/p>\n
Our last big fight was about:\u00a0We have never fought! I really feel so secure and balanced in this relationship. My last had a lot of friction towards the end, so it\u2019s so nice to be able to not feel anxious all the time about pissing them off and ending up in conflict. We talk! We\u2019re kind! It\u2019s great.<\/p>\n
If I hadn\u2019t met my partner:\u00a0I think I\u2019d be single, maybe still dating a little. I actually matched with them when I had hopped back on Hinge after a short time off and had planned to take a break from the very small Wellington lesbian dating pool.<\/p>\n
I expect my relationship to last until:\u00a0One of us wants to move overseas. Likely the end of next year.<\/p>\n
My relationship advice is:\u00a0Ten minutes of an uncomfortable conversation is way easier than months of pain. I wish I had been better at practising this in my last relationship, but it\u2019s something I am taking forward with me now!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u2018We have discussed openly and early that we do not want to be together forever and have our…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":544520,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[42,210684,43,2935,40,38,41,39],"class_list":["post-544519","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-headlines","tag-headlines","tag-love-actually-series","tag-news","tag-society","tag-top-news","tag-top-stories","tag-topnews","tag-topstories"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/544519","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=544519"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/544519\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/544520"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=544519"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=544519"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/nz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=544519"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}