A bride and groom have been criticised after the email they allegedly sent to their guests ahead of the wedding was shared online.

One of those invited to the anonymous couple’s big day was so outraged by the message that they took to the Reddit group Wedding Shaming to unveil the American pair’s ‘gross’ request. 

Sharing a screenshot of the note, which has since been deleted, the person wrote: ‘Just got this email and mad enough to make a Reddit account.’

In the message, the bride and groom revealed how they were about to offer ‘some guidance for gifts so that nothing goes to waste’.

They explained how they ‘already have everything we “need” for our home’ – so instead, urged guests to contribute to their ‘honeymoon fund, spa days, and our “future home upgrades” (think bigger TV, wine fridge, etc)’.

The couple suggested the ‘minimum gift’ from each guest should be $250, but insisted their friends and family should ‘feel free to be more generous if you feel so inspired’, adding that the ‘experience we’re offering is worth it’.

‘We know this is unconventional, but we’ve worked hard on making our day special for you, so we hope you can return the favour,’ concluded the pair.

However, the email left many people outraged in the comment section of the post, with one person writing: ‘This is gross.’

A bride and groom have been criticised after the email (pictured) they allegedly sent to their guests ahead of the wedding was shared online

A bride and groom have been criticised after the email (pictured) they allegedly sent to their guests ahead of the wedding was shared online

Another said: ‘The reception should be for the guests. But that’s called hosting. This reeks of narcissist – “I did all this work for you (that you didn’t ask for), so what are you going to do for me?”‘

A third added: ‘Completely delusional. I’m sitting here counting out pennies to buy groceries and this lady thinks people should at minimum spend $500 on a wedding gift?’

For their guests who are more ‘traditional’, the bride and groom did link two gifts in their email, one seemingly a designer bag. 

‘If I had sent an email like that before my wedding, my parents would have probably disowned me,’ wrote one person in the comments.

Another said: ‘I would send a reply stating that it is extremely tacky to send an email detailing how much a person must spend on a “gift” for a wedding. Therefore, I will not attend, saving you at least $250 for the cost of my attendance.’

The bride and groom’s email read: ‘Hello friends and family! As we approach the big day, we wanted to give you some guidance for gifts so that nothing goes to waste. 

‘We are not registered anywhere, as we already have everything we “need” for our home.

‘Instead, we would love if you could contribute to our honeymoon fund, spa days, and our “future home upgrades” (think bigger TV, wine fridge, etc). 

One of those invited to the anonymous couple's big day was so outraged by the message that they took to the Reddit group Wedding Shaming to unveil the American pair's 'gross' request (stock photo)

One of those invited to the anonymous couple’s big day was so outraged by the message that they took to the Reddit group Wedding Shaming to unveil the American pair’s ‘gross’ request (stock photo)

‘We kindly ask that all contributions be in cash or venmo (no cheques please!). Minimum suggested gift is $250 per guest, but feel free to be more generous if you feel so inspired. The experience we’re offering is worth it.

‘If you’re traditional and HAVE to get a gift these are some things we want… (two Amazon links were included).

‘We know this is unconventional, but we’ve worked hard on making our day special for you, so we hope you can return the favour!’

The email comes after another bride-to-be was ‘torn apart’ over a ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’ note she sent out to guests who declined her wedding invitation or failed to RSVP on time. 

The bride and groom decided to send out a ‘you will be missed’ card to prevent guests who forgot to RSVP from showing up unannounced on the wedding day expecting a seat.

‘We are so sorry you cannot make it,’ the card read.  ‘You are receiving this to let you know that your name will not be among those attending the wedding. 

‘This is either because you declined the invitation or you did not RSVP on time. Either way you will be missed.’

But it was the next detail on the card that got everyone talking.   If you still want to send the couple a gift, there is still time,’ the couple said, which was printed in a larger font size. 

Meanwhile, another bride-to-be was 'torn apart' over a 'tacky' and 'cringe' card (pictured) she sent out to guests who declined her wedding invitation or failed to RSVP on time

Meanwhile, another bride-to-be was ‘torn apart’ over a ‘tacky’ and ‘cringe’ card (pictured) she sent out to guests who declined her wedding invitation or failed to RSVP on time

The card ended with a link to the couple’s online wedding gift registry. The bride pointed out the card had a medieval design because they were having a Lord of the Rings themed wedding.

‘So I am sending this to people who did not RSVP (or declined the invite)… Should I word it differently/add anything? It feels pretty empty,’ she explained. 

‘I added the gifts part because I was trying to fill space. We have a good number of people who have not RSVPed and multiple reminder texts have been sent out.  I just don’t want people showing up expecting a spot.’

Her post was re-shared on Reddit – with many taking particular issue with the bride and groom for still trying to get gifts from guests who can’t make the wedding. 

‘This was just a horrible idea. Terrible. I’m getting a sinking ick feeling just seeing it,’ one said.  ‘Nice try, but there’s no way to make this less tacky,’ another shared. 

However, some defended the bride and groom’s card.

‘To be fair she clearly states that multiple reminders have been sent. At that point it’s entirely on the guest and it’s reasonable to take their silence as a no and clarify that,’ one explained.