{"id":149708,"date":"2025-09-20T18:18:08","date_gmt":"2025-09-20T18:18:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/149708\/"},"modified":"2025-09-20T18:18:08","modified_gmt":"2025-09-20T18:18:08","slug":"her-mother-called-her-a-narcissist-when-she-tried-to-help-her-so-she-put-her-in-her-place-twistedsifter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/149708\/","title":{"rendered":"Her Mother Called Her A Narcissist When She Tried To Help Her, So She Put Her In Her Place \u00bb TwistedSifter"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Pexels\/Reddit<\/p>\n

Living as a differently abled person is hard enough as is, but trying to relate to others, even those with similar situations as you, can be even harder.<\/p>\n

How would you handle if your differently abled mother invalidated your experience? One girl asked for advice from Reddit on how she approached the very sensitive and difficult topic.<\/a><\/p>\n

Here are the details.<\/p>\n

I (35F) became disabled at 19 years old.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had over half a dozen surgeries over the last 16 years that have saved my life but also left me unable to work and with severe chronic pain.<\/p>\n

I spend a lot of my time with my mom (65F) because she is also disabled now and enjoys the company.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a good way to find a silver lining in two bad situations.<\/p>\n

Today while talking with her, she got stuck in a negative thought spiral and I tried to focus on some positive things that have happened lately instead.<\/p>\n

She started attacking me and saying it\u2019s easy for me to be positive because I\u2019m young and healthy and don\u2019t know what it\u2019s like.<\/p>\n

Yikes, not the right response Mom.<\/p>\n

So I told her it\u2019s not easy to live in my body, it doesn\u2019t matter if I\u2019m young, I\u2019m still disabled and have been for nearly half of my life.<\/p>\n

She said she felt just fine when she was 35 and she could\u2019ve done anything because her body was so young and things are just easier with a young body.<\/p>\n

So I told her we are not the same.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a massive false equivalency.<\/p>\n

When she was 35 she was married and raising 3 kids and the only surgery she had had was a c-section.<\/p>\n

She was still fully functional with no chronic illnesses, pain, or disabilities.<\/p>\n

She had just said minutes before she wished she could go back to 35 because she loved her body then.<\/p>\n

Yeah, she got her there.<\/p>\n

She doesn\u2019t know what it\u2019s like to be 35 in my body and my age does not determine how I feel.<\/p>\n

She then told me I\u2019m a narcissist and make everything about myself and think my life has been so much harder than hers and that she\u2019s never suffered, which I never said.<\/p>\n

Definitely not what the original poster was saying.<\/p>\n

I simply stated I\u2019ve gone through a lot more at 35 than she had at 35.<\/p>\n

Including brain and spinal surgeries that I\u2019m still recovering from.<\/p>\n

I only said what I said because it\u2019s not easy for me to stay positive.<\/p>\n

Completely valid response.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually extremely difficult and why I\u2019ve been in therapy the last 8 years. AITA?<\/p>\n

Oof, this is a tough one with extremely high emotional stakes. Let\u2019s see what Reddit had to say.<\/p>\n

Shockingly, there was a lot of nuance.
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There was some empathy for the original poster.
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Though there was a lot for the Mom as well.
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However, some thought all involved were in the wrong.
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But all ended on a good note.
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Hopefully both of them can find peace in their own way.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed that story, read this one about a mom who was forced to bring her three kids with her to apply for government benefits, but ended up getting the job of her dreams.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Pexels\/Reddit Living as a differently abled person is hard enough as is, but trying to relate to others,…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":149709,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[23625,33454,24508,4226,6830,102,1906,6623,43064,2370,621,2373,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-149708","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-health","8":"tag-aita","9":"tag-chronic-illness","10":"tag-daughter","11":"tag-disability","12":"tag-fight","13":"tag-health","14":"tag-mental-health","15":"tag-mentalhealth","16":"tag-mother","17":"tag-picture","18":"tag-reddit","19":"tag-top","20":"tag-uk","21":"tag-united-kingdom","22":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/149708","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=149708"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/149708\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/149709"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=149708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=149708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=149708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}