{"id":296922,"date":"2025-12-03T15:25:05","date_gmt":"2025-12-03T15:25:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/296922\/"},"modified":"2025-12-03T15:25:05","modified_gmt":"2025-12-03T15:25:05","slug":"experts-share-tips-on-how-to-keep-your-holiday-spending-in-line-with-your-budget","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/296922\/","title":{"rendered":"Experts share tips on how to keep your holiday spending in line with your budget"},"content":{"rendered":"

Your gift list<\/a> is long. Your checking account is short on cash. Things are about to get awkward. <\/p>\n

A recent Thrivent survey<\/a> of 2,279 people found that 37 percent of Americans feel pressure to spend beyond their means during the holidays<\/a>. That pressure can lead to a wave of emotions and decision paralysis. Do you keep your gift recipients happy, or do you submit to the better angels of sound financial advice and forego gifts in favor of frugality<\/a>? <\/p>\n

\u201cThis is very common,\u201d said Krista Walker, a licensed therapist and clinical director at Hawaii-based The Ohana Luxury Addiction Treatment Center. \u201cBesides stress, there is often guilt. A person may feel that they are not doing enough for their loved ones if they don\u2019t get them a perfect gift.\u201d <\/p>\n

Overcoming those emotions and making sound decisions can be difficult, but with the right mindset and boundaries, it can be done. <\/p>\n

Why the prospect of saying no to buying holiday gifts is so scary<\/p>\n

For many, the holidays are sacred not just because of religious or local traditions, but because it\u2019s one of the few times during the year that family from near and far gather to celebrate. <\/p>\n

\"Shame,<\/p>\n

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Shame, embarrassment, and anxiety can make it difficult to set financial boundaries on your gift giving. (Getty\/iStock)<\/p>\n

Imagining yourself arriving empty-handed in those moments of gathering can be painful, Walker told The Independent by email. <\/p>\n

\u201cMany people experience shame,\u201d she said. \u201cThey believe that they should be able to buy the gifts that their loved ones want. They feel embarrassed about their finances if they are not able to purchase the perfect gift.\u201d<\/p>\n

Anxiety also plays a role in the struggle over buying gifts while following your budget, Walker said. <\/p>\n

\u201cA person may feel afraid of disappointing others,\u201d she said. \u201cThey may worry that it might affect their relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n

Resentment and embarrassment also play a role, certified financial planner Andrew Latham told The Independent by email.<\/p>\n

\u201cResentment is another common feeling, particularly when extended family or cultural expectations seem to require more than someone can comfortably afford,\u201d Latham said. \u201cEmbarrassment can also arise in gift exchanges, especially in workplaces or among in-laws, where people may worry their gifts won’t measure up.\u201d<\/p>\n

Simple steps for balancing your gift list with your budget<\/p>\n

Successfully protecting your budget while keeping family and friends up-to-date on your gifting limitations involves the right mindset and practical steps that prepare you and others. <\/p>\n

Setting a gifting budget as early as you can in the season is something Walker and Latham recommended. <\/p>\n

Doing so gives you time, an important element in making sound financial decisions (when it\u2019s available).<\/p>\n

\u201cThink about what you are feeling in the moment before buying a gift,\u201d Walker said. \u201cDo you feel pressured? Relaxed about the decision? You can make calmer choices by pausing to think about what you are feeling.\u201d<\/p>\n

Communication is critical, too – it\u2019s okay to tell your family and friends that you won\u2019t give gifts this season because of your financial situation. <\/p>\n

Latham recommended the following \u201cwe\u201d statements: <\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019ve decided to make this a no-gift holiday and just enjoy time together.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m focusing my budget on the kids this year, so I won\u2019t be doing adult gifts – thanks for understanding.\u201d \u201cWe\u2019re doing Secret Santa with a $20 limit to keep things light.\u201d <\/p>\n

\u201cUsing \u2018we\u2019 language can help make the message feel more collaborative,\u201d Latham said. \u201cIt avoids making it sound like a personal issue and helps others feel included in the decision.\u201d<\/p>\n

Giving your gift recipients advanced notice of your situation will not only prepare them, but it also provides you with an added benefit, Weaver said. <\/p>\n

\u201cWhen a person finally sets boundaries around gift-giving, they may feel relief,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n

And if the response to your boundaries is negative, Latham pointed out that the push-back is less about your value and more about the other person\u2019s expectations.<\/p>\n

\u201cAt the end of the day, what people remember most is how you made them feel, not how much you spent,\u201d he said. \u201cYour presence really does matter more than your presents.\u201d<\/p>\n

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