have conversations<\/a> about will, money, and especially about people passing away.<\/p>\nBut it\u2019s part of life, folks!<\/p>\n
Check out this story from Reddit and see if you think this woman is doing anything wrong in regard to how she wants to handle future assets with her boyfriend.<\/p>\n
Start now!<\/p>\n
\u201cBF (33) and I (30) have been together for 13 years, we met at an international summer camp.<\/p>\n
Once we returned to our respective countries we started a LDR and 2 years later BF moved to my country. 6 years ago we had enough money saved for a deposit and we bought a small 1 BR flat \u2013 nothing fancy nor new, but better to pay your own mortgage than someone else\u2019s.<\/p>\n
They have their differences\u2026<\/p>\n
As a side note \u2013 BF and I come from completely opposite family-friends situation. In his country and society, very few people divorce, even if the marriage is very very bad.<\/p>\n
In mine (where we live), only about 40% of couples get married and half of those marriages are with people who have already been married once. Hence, we are not married and at this moment and do not plan to be.<\/p>\n
We have mixed finances \u2013 we save for common goals, but there is no shared account or cards, each has their own account and we both pay equally for expenses but the expenses are divided (he pays mortgage and car, I pay for everything else food and flat related).<\/p>\n
In the eyes of the law, we are nothing. We are not married and common law relationships only matter if you have documents related to it. Our flat is owned 50\/50, BUT (important distinction) the mortgage is on MY NAME because he is a non-citizen and wouldn\u2019t have been given a loan (even as a co-loaner with me).<\/p>\n
It\u2019s all on her\u2026<\/p>\n
Therefore \u2013 I have the 100% responsibility in the eyes of the law, while I only have 50% ownership.<\/p>\n
I have wanted to go and make wills for both of us that in the event of the unimaginable happening, he gets my 50% (would revert to my parents otherwise) and I get his 50%.<\/p>\n
I have seen SO MANY women kicked out of their homes because they only have joint ownership and lose their housing because they have to sell due to other familial obligations and I do not want that.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a problem\u2026<\/p>\n
He flipped out.<\/p>\n
Doesn\u2019t want to talk about \u201cthings that will most likely never happen\u201d, doesn\u2019t want to \u201ccurse the faith\u201d, asks why do I think his parents (closest relative to inherit) would not give me the 50%. I do not because grief does things to people and I want the certainty \u2013 right now I don\u2019t have it.<\/p>\n
He is sleeping over at a friend\u2019s place, while I\u2019ve been trying to make him see things from my perspective as well. He thinks I am very much wrong, I think he is far too idealistic about the world if he thinks bad things cannot happen to people like us.<\/p>\n
AITA for wanting security?\u201d<\/p>\n
Reddit users shared their thoughts.<\/p>\n
This person said she\u2019s NTA.<\/p>\n
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Another individual agreed.<\/p>\n
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And this Reddit user shared their thoughts.<\/p>\n
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Well, these this couple is in a real pickle in this situation\u2026<\/p>\n
If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Shutterstock\/Reddit It\u2019s never easy to have conversations about will, money, and especially about people passing away. But it\u2019s…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":334620,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[84,27761,4176,4174,4175,2370,2295,621,2373,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-334619","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-personal-finance","8":"tag-business","9":"tag-entity","10":"tag-finance","11":"tag-personal-finance","12":"tag-personalfinance","13":"tag-picture","14":"tag-property","15":"tag-reddit","16":"tag-top","17":"tag-uk","18":"tag-united-kingdom","19":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334619","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=334619"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334619\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/334620"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=334619"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=334619"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=334619"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}