{"id":365417,"date":"2026-01-12T02:14:12","date_gmt":"2026-01-12T02:14:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/365417\/"},"modified":"2026-01-12T02:14:12","modified_gmt":"2026-01-12T02:14:12","slug":"we-had-days-where-we-couldnt-cope-with-each-others-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/365417\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018We had days where we couldn\u2019t cope with each other\u2019s grief\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Two years ago Sarah Parish seemed to be in everything, from Netflix\u2019s Geek Girl, in which she was an imperious model agency chief, to Paramount+\u2019s dystopian Curfew, where she was (as so often) a veteran cop. The scene seared into me, however, is from BBC1\u2019s Industry. As the predatory financial client Nicole Craig, Parish had sex with an investment banker 30 years her junior but the morning after woke up dead \u2014 a bad outcome but, you know, good for Nicole anyway.<\/p>\n<p>So I am alarmed to see who Parish portrays in ITV\u2019s frenetic police academy sitcom Piglets, which returns this week for a widely unexpected second series. In a savage grey wig and tombstone fake gnashers, she is Superintendent Julie Spry, a lesbian who admits to having been called a \u201cbarren, withered hag\u201d. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cI\u2019d forgotten about that line,\u201d Parish says when we meet in her exceptionally large house in Hampshire, which she shares with her actor husband, James Murray (today out fishing), their 15-year-old daughter, and workers for their charity, whose origins and aims Parish will later explain. \u201cJulie did find that a step too far. She could probably handle \u2018barren\u2019, but \u2018withered\u2019? I think she thinks she\u2019s still got a good few years in her yet. I think she thinks she\u2019s fairly attractive.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">In any case, I say, Parish, who is 57, looks about 20 years younger than Spry. Is she that rare thing, an actor without vanity? <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cBut I think there can\u2019t really be vanity in acting. I mean, I understand that there is. I know there is because whenever I do want to play a part with no make-up, the first thing the make-up lady says is, \u2018Don\u2019t worry, we can stick on some false lashes\u2026\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">As she had done for lonesome Anna Rampton, the BBC\u2019s \u201cdirector of better\u201d, in W1A, to play Nicole in Industry she worked up the character\u2019s backstory. \u201cWho am I? Why would I do that? So when you go into a scene like that, you know why you\u2019re doing it. It\u2019s not just, \u2018Now we\u2019ve got to simulate hard sex in front of an entire crew and it\u2019s going to be awkward.\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">And for Spry, how much hinterland was necessary? \u201cNot a lot really. It\u2019s all about the wig and the teeth.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">So, what does she think of critics these days, I ask. The first season of Piglets was ITVX\u2019s biggest comedy yet and attracted an average of 1.6 million viewers a week, but it received astonishingly bad notices \u2014 even the Police Federation, which found its title offensive, piled in. \u201cWell, it is the Marmite of sitcoms, isn\u2019t it, really?\u201d Parish says.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Supt. Bob Weekes (Mark Heap) and Insp. Julie Spry (Sarah Parish) from &quot;Piglets&quot; point directly forward with wide, shocked eyes.\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/\/a865fb8f-e22f-44db-9f94-73c0da8a63fc.jpg\" class=\"responsive-sc-1nnon4d-0 bAbKns\"\/><\/p>\n<p>With Mark Heap in the new season of Piglets<\/p>\n<p>MONIKER PICTURES<\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">I say <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/culture\/tv-radio\/article\/piglets-review-green-wing-for-cops-n9l7xmmph\" class=\"link__RespLink-sc-1ocvixa-0 csWvlP\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">The Times gave it four stars<\/a>. \u201cGood grief,\u201d she says with a gasp. \u201cComedy is a very personal thing. If you don\u2019t like slapstick, stupid, in-your-face, on-crack comedy, this isn\u2019t for you. If you want to watch W1A, which is very naturalistic and almost a mockumentary, then Piglets is not going to be for you. But as actors, we want to do everything.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">I gamely suggest that Piglets is about hormonally charged youngsters and antediluvian oldsters trying to navigate woke. \u201cI do think there is a time and a place for political correctness,\u201d she says. \u201cAnd I\u2019m all for political correctness. There\u2019s a place for Les Dawson. There\u2019s not a place for Bernard Manning, because one was funny in a loving way and one wasn\u2019t funny, in a hateful way.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">But our discussion misses the defiant pointlessness of Piglets. The two 22-year-old charity workers who live above her garage love it, she says, \u201cbut I haven\u2019t even let my husband watch it because I know he\u2019ll just go, \u2018This is so stupid.\u2019\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">The two of them (Murray plays Prince Andrew in The Crown) sometimes discuss their careers. Would it have been better had they been bigger stars, or would fame have intruded upon their own hinterlands? In truth it was not really a choice. There were rumours 25 years ago that Parish had signed a \u201cgolden handcuffs\u201d exclusivity deal with ITV, but she says that was never true and the overexposure would probably have been unwise in any case. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Did she ever feel on the cusp of true stardom? After, perhaps, playing the head stylist in the hairdressing drama Cutting It at the turn of the century, or the randy GP Katie in Mistresses a little later? \u201cI don\u2019t think I ever was on the cusp of it. I was always like a C student at school and I\u2019ve always just been a working actor, just a jobbing actor. And sometimes that\u2019s really frustrating and sometimes it\u2019s a real gift because it means you can go for all sorts of different parts. I don\u2019t get great big huge leads in amazing things, but I get really good parts.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">She was the title character, a psychopathic senior cop, in ITV\u2019s compelling thriller Bancroft but it was cancelled after two seasons. The first, in the winter of 2017, had huge viewing figures because, she says modestly, Britain was snowed in. Come season two, the weather and ratings were less kind. \u201cIt\u2019s not about the show a lot of the time: it\u2019s just about the luck.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Parish may be the least egotistical, most grounded actor I have interviewed. Perhaps she was always like this, the Somerset girl who wanted to be a dancer but was judged by the Royal Ballet School to be growing too tall so joined instead Yeovil Youth Theatre, which was more fun and less commitment. After drama school, she worked in \u201cvery odd pub and physical\u201d theatre until her first television job: \u201cI thought, \u2018Oh, hello. This money is great.\u2019\u201d Filming Cutting It in Manchester, she partied hard. \u201cWe were of an age where we could do a whole day\u2019s filming and then go out and get drunk and get up the next day and still look good. Which, of course, can\u2019t happen now.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Yet mothers on ITV dramas begin every evening with a \u201cwell-earned\u201d glass of wine? \u201cI noticed that the other day. Like, every time I see this woman \u2014 I won\u2019t say the show \u2014 she\u2019s got a massive glass in her hand. I\u2019d be absolutely shit-faced.\u201d <\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Sarah Parish and James Murray at the press night performance of &quot;A View From The Bridge.&quot;\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/\/4af66fa9-7f22-4bdc-8b57-abdcca8e25bd.jpg\" class=\"responsive-sc-1nnon4d-0 bAbKns\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Parish and her husband James Murray have raised millions for children\u2019s charities<\/p>\n<p>GETTY IMAGES<\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Or perhaps her wisdom was hard-won. In 2008, the year after marrying Murray, her first daughter, Ella-Jayne, was born with the rare genetic disorder Rubinstein-Taybi syndrome. It is highly debilitating but not in itself life-limiting. Three days after Ella-Jayne\u2019s birth, however, the baby needed her first heart surgery. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cIt would have meant a hoist. It would have been maybe non-verbal. It would have been a very, very different life for us. But we got better at it. We were like, \u2018OK, we can do it. We\u2019ll manage. We\u2019ll do it.\u2019 And you start to look forward to that life: \u2018This is going to be great. This is a real challenge but we can do it.\u2019 And then for it to be snatched away so quickly\u2026\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u2022 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/life-style\/celebrity\/article\/sarah-parish-james-murrary-daughter-ggk5rld5z\" class=\"link__RespLink-sc-1ocvixa-0 csWvlP\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Sarah Parish: \u2018We lived with the blind hope our daughter would survive\u2019<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">In January 2009 Ella-Jayne died. \u201cIn that very short time we had gone through so many different emotions. The highs and lows of waiting for operations. Is she going to live? So many times being rushed to the hospital because she\u2019s about to die and then she doesn\u2019t. For nine months basically you are living by your fingernails. And then it\u2019s over.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Someone told them they needed to go to the Maldives or somewhere and recover. \u201cAnd Jim and I thought about it and went, \u2018God, you know, I think that sounds like possibly the worst thing we could ever do.\u2019 To sit in silence on a hot beach with nothing to do apart from think about our dead daughter. What is the opposite of that? Let\u2019s do the opposite of that. And the opposite of that was to surround ourselves with children and surround ourselves with grief and despair and tragedy.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">So for two months they volunteered in orphanages in Vietnam and Cambodia. Not long after their return, she discovered she was pregnant again. At 32 weeks, however, came another crisis. She was losing amniotic fluid. In November Nell, at just 3lb 10oz, was born by emergency caesarean and placed in neonatal care. Parish had post-traumatic stress disorder and post-natal depression after this birth. Therapy and \u201cbrilliant\u201d antidepressants helped. After five weeks Nell was home, and she is now enduring her mock GCSEs. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u2022 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.com\/life-style\/celebrity\/article\/james-murray-child-death-fly-fishing-sarah-parish-m8lxd83kh\" class=\"link__RespLink-sc-1ocvixa-0 csWvlP\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">James Murray: The pain of losing our baby was unbearable. Fishing was how I coped<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cSometimes I didn\u2019t cope. Sometimes you listen to people who have been through it and they sound like these two incredible stoic people, but we both had terrible days where we fell apart. We both had days where we couldn\u2019t cope with each other\u2019s grief, couldn\u2019t cope with our own.<\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cI\u2019d been very lucky in life. Jim and I were rolling along, having a lovely time. Moved out to the country to start a family. Ticked every box, as they say. We were both working, both leading shows. And then suddenly something puts a spanner in the works and it\u2019s quite unbelievable. But in hindsight, everything happens for a reason and it\u2019s often those terrible, terrible things that lead you in the direction that you were always supposed to go. I think if Jim and I had just carried on\u2026 I don\u2019t know if we\u2019d still be\u2026 I don\u2019t\u2026 We would just be very different people. Maybe not as patient, maybe not as nice.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">The literal bottom line is that they have since raised millions for child charities. The Murray Parish Trust, now renamed Imagine This, supports the mental health of seriously ill children and their families (its HQ is Parish\u2019s kitchen). In addition, as patrons of Friends of Southampton Children\u2019s Hospital\u2019s paediatric intensive care unit, Murray and Parish raised funds to buy it an MRI scanner. Last year the King presented them with MBEs for their efforts. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Next to this, it seems trivial to ask her about older women in TV drama, but Parish has views on this, mainly that there are too few. People tell her it would be a good idea to revive Mistresses 15 years on. She heartily agrees, but it does not have to be Mistresses. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cWhat I\u2019d like to see on TV is more programmes about people like me. That\u2019s why we watch TV, isn\u2019t it? We want to see a slightly heightened version of ourselves. And because the biggest demographic of people watching TV is women between the ages of 50 and 70, I would hope that there would be more on TV for us to watch. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cI want to see women of my age having sex. I want to see them thinking about things that we\u2019re not allowed to talk about. As you come into your fifties, a big part of ageing is, especially for a woman, you become slightly invisible. <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">\u201cI think there is definitely a place out there at the moment, a place for something like Mistresses, just something that\u2019s quite fun, a little bit glossy but still based in reality, looking at all of those different difficulties women have in their fifties and sixties when they\u2019re still working, still attractive, still want to be attractive, still want romance, still want adventure. But a lot of the time they\u2019re put out to pasture.\u201d <\/p>\n<p class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">Well, I say, 50 is not old and it comes with experience. \u201cAnd it\u2019s sexy. I think 50 and 60 is sexy. It\u2019s great. And we need to embrace it as a human race. We\u2019re so obsessed with youth.\u201d <\/p>\n<p id=\"last-paragraph\" class=\"responsive__Paragraph-sc-1pktst5-0 gaEeqC\">The young bloke on Industry thought 50 was sexy. Parish clearly believes Superintendent Spry would agree. Parish\u2019s availability in 2026 is good. 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