{"id":380582,"date":"2026-01-20T16:21:12","date_gmt":"2026-01-20T16:21:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/380582\/"},"modified":"2026-01-20T16:21:12","modified_gmt":"2026-01-20T16:21:12","slug":"they-hear-but-do-they-care-what-ai-can-teach-us-about-listening-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/380582\/","title":{"rendered":"They hear, but do they care? What AI can teach us about listening better"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">More like this:<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">\u2022\u00a0<a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/future\/article\/20240613-how-to-apologise-so-you-can-be-forgiven\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">How we tested AI&#8217;s ability to apologise<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\"\/>\u2022\u00a0<a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/future\/article\/20251223-why-indian-cinema-is-awash-with-ai\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Why Indian cinema is awash with AI<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\"\/>\u2022\u00a0<a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/future\/article\/20240912-what-riddles-teach-us-about-the-human-mind\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The riddles that computers can&#8217;t solve<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/michaelinzlicht.com\/#lab-view\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Michael Inzlicht<\/a>, a psychologist at the University of Toronto in Canada researching AI and empathy, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.htworld.co.uk\/news\/ai\/ai-judged-to-be-more-compassionate-than-expert-crisis-responders\/\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">warns<\/a> of the power of AI companies to potentially manipulate vulnerable people. AI can give <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.technologyreview.com\/2025\/02\/06\/1111077\/nomi-ai-chatbot-told-user-to-kill-himself\/\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">dangerous advice<\/a>, leading in some cases to individuals <a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/news\/articles\/cgerwp7rdlvo\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">taking their own lives<\/a>.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">They can also cause a person to prioritise a relationship with a bot rather than fostering a more meaningful connection with another human being, becoming accustomed to boundless empathy and 24\/7 positive interest in them regardless of what they say.<\/p>\n<p>AI can certainly inspire us to become better listeners and even help train us in greater compassion<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">People interacting with a large language model may also become deskilled and unable or less motivated to pursue human interactions \u2013 with a host of challenging implications for our broader societies. Inzlicht suggests, as a first step, large language models could be fine-tuned to introduce appropriate friction in conversations helping users develop greater awareness of others&#8217; needs.<\/p>\n<p>The irreplaceable human connection<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">There remains something uniquely meaningful about a fellow human sacrificing their time and other competing desires to simply listen and let someone else unfold their story. The conscious choice to be present for another person enacts a form of connection, compassion and companionship fundamentally different from interactions with lines of code programmed to please without the capacity for genuine care.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">AI can certainly inspire us to become better listeners and even help train us in greater compassion. It can serve a <a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/news\/articles\/ced2ywg7246o\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">valuable resource<\/a>, if there are appropriate safeguards in place, for those who have no one to turn to. However, the experience of deeply listening to another human with curiosity to understand their full humanity \u2013 and being listened to in return \u2013 has a transformative potential that <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/arxiv.org\/abs\/2409.15550\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">AI interactions cannot yet<\/a> match.<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">And, as anyone who has ever experienced the transformative impact of feeling truly heard by another human being will realise, it may never do so.<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">* Emily Kasriel is the author of <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/harpercollins.co.uk\/products\/deep-listening-transform-your-relationships-with-family-friends-and-foes-emily-kasriel?variant=41459770884174\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Deep Listening: Transform your Relationships with Family, Friends and Foes<\/a> and a Senior Visiting Research Fellow at King&#8217;s College London.<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">&#8212;<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">For more technology news and insights, sign up to our <a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/cloud.email.bbc.com\/techdecoded-newsletter-signup\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Tech Decoded newsletter<\/a>, while <a target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/cloud.email.bbc.com\/SignUp10_08?&amp;at_bbc_team=studios&amp;at_medium=Onsite&amp;at_objective=acquisition&amp;at_ptr_name=bbc.com&amp;at_link_origin=featuresarticle&amp;at_campaign=essentiallist&amp;at_campaign_type=owned\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The Essential List<\/a> delivers a handpicked selection of features and insights to your inbox twice a week.<\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-9a00e533-0 eZyhnA\">For more science, technology, environment and health stories from the BBC, follow us on\u00a0<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/BBCFuture\/\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Facebook<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/bbcfuture_official\/\" class=\"sc-f9178328-0 iCaRzc\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Instagram<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"More like this: \u2022\u00a0How we tested AI&#8217;s ability to apologise \u2022\u00a0Why Indian cinema is awash with AI \u2022\u00a0The&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":380583,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[554,733,4308,86,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-380582","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-artificial-intelligence","8":"tag-ai","9":"tag-artificial-intelligence","10":"tag-artificialintelligence","11":"tag-technology","12":"tag-uk","13":"tag-united-kingdom","14":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/380582","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=380582"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/380582\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/380583"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=380582"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=380582"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=380582"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}