{"id":519205,"date":"2026-04-08T08:43:10","date_gmt":"2026-04-08T08:43:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/519205\/"},"modified":"2026-04-08T08:43:10","modified_gmt":"2026-04-08T08:43:10","slug":"the-drama-zendaya-and-robert-pattisons-new-film-asks-one-important-question-if-youre-planning-a-wedding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/519205\/","title":{"rendered":"The Drama: Zendaya and Robert Pattison\u2019s new film asks one important question if you\u2019re planning a wedding"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Love is a concept often discussed<\/a> in relation to \u201cthe one\u201d. You might call it something else<\/a>, depending on your sociological and cultural diet. But the meaning is usually the same, whether you\u2019re discussing your \u201csoulmate<\/a>\u201d, \u201cother half\u201d, \u201cperson\u201d, or, for all the Friends fiends, your \u201clobster\u201d. According to the ancient tradition of monogamy<\/a>, this is the person you will marry and potentially start a family with. <\/p>\n

But what if you find that person and then discover they did \u2013 or almost did \u2013 something terrible? That\u2019s the central question at the heart of the film of the moment, The Drama<\/a>, which stars Zendaya and Robert Pattinson. Released last week, A24\u2019s latest flick revolves around a young couple planning a wedding<\/a> that could quite possibly be ruined by something rather terrible that I can\u2019t divulge without spoiling the entire plot. <\/p>\n

The point is that the question of whether or not this engaged couple has found \u201cthe one\u201d in each other is suddenly in doubt<\/a>. And while their particular circumstances might be rather unique, this is not an uncommon dilemma. According to research, getting cold feet in the run-up to a wedding is normal \u2013 one academic study<\/a> found that doubts were reported by at least one partner<\/a> in two-thirds of couples. <\/p>\n

The idea of finding \u201cthe one\u201d is also at the heart of the new Netflix TV show Something Very Bad Is Going To Happen, which starts with Camila Morrone\u2019s character on her way to fianc\u00e9 Adam DiMarco\u2019s family home to get married in a week\u2019s time. But over that week, without giving away any spoilers, some very bad things happen that prompt Camila to question whether she\u2019s marrying her soulmate or someone else entirely. Amid the horror elements of the show, that\u2019s the central question that stands out: how is she meant to know if he is the one?<\/p>\n

This dilemma is taken to extremes in both The Drama and Something Very Bad Is Going To Happen. But it\u2019s something people in relationships face every day. In today\u2019s saturated dating app culture, where a new potential spouse is only ever just a few swipes away, it can feel like we have more choices for a romantic partner than ever before. Is there any way of knowing if we\u2019ve made the right one? The infinite options can be paralysing, too, steering us away from commitment altogether \u2013 just ask anyone who\u2019s been on the apps for more than a few months.<\/p>\n

But how seriously are we supposed to take those doubts? And how do we know if what we\u2019re experiencing is normal, or whether it\u2019s a sign we should take action and reconsider the person we\u2019re about to marry? Are certain red flags forgivable? And which ones are not?<\/p>\n

First off, it might be worth reconsidering the entire idea of \u201cthe one\u201d, which psychologists have long discounted, given how much it can blind our rationale. \u201cI think the concept of \u2018the one\u2019 should be treated with caution,\u201d says Dr Tara Quinn-Cirillo, HCPC registered psychologist. \u201cIt can act like a cognitive bias against our observations and decision making and gut instinct around the individual and their behaviour<\/a>.\u201d In other words, it can remove your capabilities to see someone for who they really are, giving room for your opinions of a person to change and grow, as is normal in any long-term relationship. This can lead people to stay in unhappy relationships.<\/p>\n

Still, there are certain telltale signs that the person you\u2019re in a relationship with is right for you. Mostly, these revolve around asking yourself how being around that person makes you feel. Do you feel as if you can be yourself, for example? Or like your nervous system settles around them? Does this person make you feel seen and understood? If the answer is \u201cyes\u201d, then experts would say you\u2019ve got a good thing that\u2019s worth holding on to.<\/p>\n

\"ResearchResearch shows that healthy relationships lead to positive changes in both partners (A24)<\/p>\n

\u201cEvidence shows that healthy long-term relationships are about thriving, not just surviving moment to moment or living in moments,\u201d adds Dr Quinn-Cirillo. \u201cResearch has shown that secure romantic relationships lead to positive changes in both an individual\u2019s physical and emotional health and personal development, outlook and hope and a healthy sense of self.\u201d So, if you notice positive changes within yourself that directly correlate to the timeframe of your relationship, it could also be a sign that you\u2019re in the right relationship. <\/p>\n

\u201cThe clearest signal is total inner clarity about your choice to be together, to build a life together,\u201d says relationship coach Lorin Krenn. \u201cYou can have crystal clarity about the partner you choose and still experience fears of being fully seen, of losing independence, of choosing one life and closing others. This is not only normal, but expected. If the mind is endlessly ruminating, though, if there is persistent pain and confusion around the relationship, that is a sign something needs to be examined.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also worth remembering that just because someone is right for you right now, it doesn\u2019t mean they always will be. People change. Life hurdles challenge us all. And sometimes, things might happen that fracture even the strongest of bonds. Just as it might be important to recognise when you\u2019ve found something good, it\u2019s arguably even more important to acknowledge when it might be time to let it go. \u201cThere can be more than one great love in a life for many,\u201d says Dr Candice O\u2019Neil of Ontic Psychology. \u201cTypically, we evolve and grow through [our] life span, so there\u2019s potential to find true love more than once as people and relationships change.\u201d Denying this very obvious fact can hold us back. <\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean anyone should rush to redownload the apps as soon as issues arise. Because many relationships will withstand even the toughest of challenges. But that\u2019s not to say it will be easy. As Dr O\u2019Neill puts it: \u201cYou can of course have one love (many do) but it requires you to grow together, to consciously recommit to each other, maintaining the connection and making the love a priority for the duration of the relationship; for some this comes easily, and for others this is challenging.\u201d<\/p>\n

Typically, we evolve and grow through life span, so there\u2019s potential to find true love more than once as people and relationships change<\/p>\n

Dr Candice O\u2019Neil<\/p>\n

If you happen to find yourself in a situation like R Patz and Zendaya\u2019s characters in The Drama, whereby you discover something that makes you question everything about your soon-to-be spouse, it\u2019s best to take a step back and look at the situation as an outsider would. \u201cIt can be helpful to think about what you would think if a friend told you and how you would respond to them telling you they had found something out about their partner,\u201d suggests Dr Quinn-Cirillo. <\/p>\n

And don\u2019t get sucked into thinking you have to be loyal to someone against all odds \u2013 saying you\u2019d help someone bury a body might be romantic in theory, but in practice it\u2019s an entirely different moral and ethical ballgame. \u201cDon\u2019t confuse loyalty with \u2018must do\u2019 behaviour,\u201d advises Dr Quinn-Cirillo. \u201cYou can be a loyal partner and also use critical thinking skills about your partner and their behaviour. Ultimately, it comes down to safety and risk. Is the revelation something risky that has or can cause harm to us or others?\u201d<\/p>\n

Hopefully, none of us will ever have to be in a position like the couple in The Drama. But it can still be helpful to approach the matter of \u201cthe one\u201d with caution. After all, how much can we ever truly know and understand another person? They might be your \u201cone\u201d. Or they might just be one of many. Maybe, murder and other criminal behaviour aside, the point is not to know all the answers. It\u2019s to dive in headfirst anyway, to take the risk and hope for the best till death \u2013 or miscellaneous dramatic revelations \u2013 do us part. That sounds pretty romantic to me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Your support helps us to tell the story From reproductive rights to climate change to Big Tech, The…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":505129,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[96,2839,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-519205","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-movies","8":"tag-entertainment","9":"tag-movies","10":"tag-uk","11":"tag-united-kingdom","12":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/519205","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=519205"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/519205\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/505129"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=519205"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=519205"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=519205"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}