There are moments in history when emotional life cannot be understood at the level of the individual alone.<\/p>\n
We often ask, \u201cWhat\u2019s going on with me?\u201d but a more accurate question might be: \u201cWhat am I responding to?\u201d<\/p>\n
Because right now, many people are not just dealing with personal stress<\/a>. They are living inside a world that is moving faster, expanding further, and destabilizing at the same time. We are witnessing extraordinary advancements. Artificial intelligence<\/a> is transforming medicine, research, and daily life, accelerating discoveries that once took years into months. Weight-loss medications are reshaping how we understand the body, even as new and unexpected side effects continue to emerge. Space exploration is expanding rapidly, with technologies pushing the boundaries<\/a> of what is possible beyond Earth. We are building tools that can predict disease, simulate reality, and extend human reach far beyond what was imaginable just decades ago.<\/p>\n At the same time, we are living through political polarization, wars in multiple regions, economic instability, job uncertainty, and a constant stream of conflicting information. One day, something is healthy. The next, it is harmful. One moment, the future feels full of possibility. The next, it feels fragile and unpredictable. Hope and uncertainty are happening simultaneously.<\/p>\n In recent years, the concept of languishing, popularized by Adam Grant, has helped many people name a sense of emotional stagnation, a feeling of being stuck between depression<\/a> and flourishing. But what many people are experiencing feels not only like stagnation; it is movement, fluctuation, and the tension of holding multiple emotional realities at once.<\/p>\n In my recent work, I introduced the term oscillanguish to describe this experience. Oscillanguish is the ongoing movement between hope and distress, between engagement and withdrawal, between meaning and uncertainty. It reflects what happens when individuals are embedded in systems that are themselves rapidly evolving, often in contradictory ways. From a systemic perspective, emotional experiences do not emerge in isolation. They are shaped by relationships, cultural narratives, technological environments, and global conditions. And right now, those systems are not stable but accelerating.<\/p>\n Consider the paradox: We live in a time when information travels instantly across continents, artificial intelligence<\/a> can assist in diagnosing illness, and human beings are expanding their presence into space. At the same time, people are questioning their job security, struggling with rising costs of living, navigating shifting social norms, and trying to make sense of a constant flow of alarming or contradictory news.<\/p>\n The same systems that create possibility also generate uncertainty, and this creates a particular kind of psychological experience: oscillation.<\/p>\n People often describe feeling hopeful and overwhelmed within the same day, sometimes within the same hour. They may feel inspired by innovation<\/a> while also feeling uneasy about its implications. They may feel connected to the world and, at the same time, emotionally exhausted by it. From a clinical standpoint, this can look like inconsistency. From a systemic lens, it may be understood as attunement, as the mind and body respond to a world that is expanding and destabilizing at once. From an evolutionary perspective, the human nervous system<\/a> was not designed for this level of constant input, contradiction, and uncertainty. If you were to eat a stone, your body would not be able to digest it. It wouldn’t be a matter of effort or strength; the system was just never designed for that function.<\/p>\n Psychologically, something similar is happening: The human nervous system is not built to continuously process rapid technological change, global crises, economic pressure, and relational demands without impact. When pushed beyond its limits, it adapts in ways that prioritize survival over clarity. As Bessel van der Kolk reminds us, trauma<\/a> is not only what happens to us, but what becomes held in the body when overwhelming experiences cannot be fully processed.<\/p>\n Oscillanguish lives in this space. It is the body trying to regulate in an environment that does not settle, the mind trying to make meaning in constantly shifting realities, and the relational system trying to stay connected while everything around it changes.<\/p>\n And yet, there is something important to recognize: Oscillanguish is not only a sign of overwhelm. It is also a sign of connection. It reflects that you are engaged with the world, aware of its complexity, and responsive to its changes. The question, then, is not how to eliminate it, but how to move within it. <\/p>\n This begins with context. Instead of asking, \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong with me?\u201d you might ask, \u201cWhat am I responding to right now?\u201d<\/p>\n It continues with boundaries. In a world of constant information, choosing when and how you engage is not avoidance but regulation, and it deepens through relationships. When larger systems feel unstable, smaller relational systems\u2014conversations, shared moments, connections\u2014become essential anchors.<\/p>\n