{"id":65811,"date":"2025-08-14T06:52:08","date_gmt":"2025-08-14T06:52:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/65811\/"},"modified":"2025-08-14T06:52:08","modified_gmt":"2025-08-14T06:52:08","slug":"comatose-mans-secret-lovers-join-forces-to-keep-him-alive-after-only-finding-out-about-each-other-when-he-suffered-a-brain-bleed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/65811\/","title":{"rendered":"Comatose man&#8217;s secret lovers join forces to keep him alive &#8211; after only finding out about each other when he suffered a brain bleed"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">A comatose man&#8217;s secret lovers have joined forces to keep him alive, despite finding out about one another after he had suffered a bleed on the brain.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The two women, who had been with their partner for over two decades, were unaware of each other&#8217;s existence until the 60-year-old suffered a bleed to the brain last October.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">Due to the brain injury, he developed a prolonged disorder of consciousness (PDOC) &#8211; a term used for patients in a coma or a vegetative state (VS).<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">After being admitted to ICU, he was later transferred to a rehabilitation unit under the Hillingdon Hospitals <a style=\"font-weight: bold;\" target=\"_self\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/news\/nhs\/index.html\" id=\"mol-44190c60-78a3-11f0-9e97-dfc86da0e316\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">NHS<\/a> Foundation Trust, where he remains.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The Trust had requested permission from the court to withdraw his clinically\u00a0assisted hydration and nutrition, which would lead to his eventual death.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">However, the man&#8217;s lovers, referred to as JG and MB, argued against the proposal, saying the man would have wished to keep living despite his vegetative state.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The pair are also &#8216;his bedside each day, provide emotional and physical care for him&#8217; and are &#8216;very well attuned to his physical needs&#8217;, the court was told.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The Official Solicitor, who was present to represent YD&#8217;s interest, also argued the 60-year-old would feel &#8216;his life now is dignified because of the love and care provided to him by his partners&#8217;.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;He would wish to continue in this way until the life of his body was ended by a process such as a heart attack, further stroke, or infection,&#8217; they added.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">Mrs Justice Theis ruled it was in YD&#8217;s best interest to continue to receive the clinically assisted treatment after considering the matter &#8216;through a wide best interests lens&#8217;.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>   <img decoding=\"async\" id=\"i-50a248db7bb5fa6d\" src=\"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/101203749-14998517-image-a-36_1755131903254.jpg\" height=\"416\" width=\"634\" alt=\"A comatose man's secret lovers have joined forces to keep him alive, despite finding out about one another after he had suffered a bleed on the brain (File image of Hillingdon Hospital)\" class=\"blkBorder img-share\" style=\"max-width:100%\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>   <\/p>\n<p class=\"imageCaption\">A comatose man&#8217;s secret lovers have joined forces to keep him alive, despite finding out about one another after he had suffered a bleed on the brain (File image of Hillingdon Hospital)<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The judge acknowledged how &#8216;striking&#8217; it had been that even though the women had known YD for 20 and 24 years respectively, they had been unaware of one another.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">Yet, despite not having known one another until the incident, they were &#8216;able to independently confirm many common features&#8217; about his wishes and beliefs, the judge said.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;In particular, regarding the depth of his interest in the spiritual world and his limitless curiosity about such matters that he held strong beliefs about.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;YD has long held beliefs about the healing power of the mind, body and soul, and to understand and, if required, push established boundaries based on his learning and understanding.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;From their descriptions, YD was a compassionate, private person who was a fiercely independent thinker about a wide range of issues, in particular regarding the spiritual world and healing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;His long-standing interest in the healing power of the mind, spirit or soul would very likely be values that would inform his decision if he had capacity,&#8217; they added.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;The changes that have been observed he would regard as positive signs and that he had the potential to make further changes.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">Mrs Justice Theis also added how the 60-year-old&#8217;s beliefs in healing were &#8216;likely to be relevant&#8217; and would have informed his decision if he had the capacity.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">They continued that it would have been a factor in his &#8216;wishing&#8217; to continue to receive\u00a0clinically assisted nutrition and hydration.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">Noting his participation in spiritual healing, she said:\u00a0&#8216;YD would also likely factor in, due to his long-standing beliefs in such matters, that others believe they are in communication with him.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The judge concluded while there would be burdens for YD in continuing treatment, both long-term and short-term, it would, &#8216;most importantly&#8217;, preserve his life.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">And even though his awareness is &#8216;extremely limited&#8217; and that &#8216;there may be little or no further improvement&#8217;, they concluded: &#8216;It is far from clear that in the circumstances YD is in, he would regard his continued existence as a burden.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">&#8216;There is a strong presumption in favour of preserving life which, in my judgment, having carefully evaluated the evidence in this unusual case, the Trust has not discharged.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"mol-para-with-font\">The hospital&#8217;s application was refused.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A comatose man&#8217;s secret lovers have joined forces to keep him alive, despite finding out about one another&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":65812,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[97,59,102,50,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-65811","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-health","8":"tag-dailymail","9":"tag-gb","10":"tag-health","11":"tag-news","12":"tag-uk","13":"tag-united-kingdom","14":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65811","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65811"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65811\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/65812"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65811"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65811"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65811"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}