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When you are starting a new career, part of learning the job is learning about the work culture in your new office. Every job is a little different, and that is fine.<\/p>\n
What would you do, however, if you found that your boss was always acting very weird around you and making what seemed to be inappropriate comments?<\/p>\n
That is what is happening to the woman in this story<\/a>, and she is wondering if the behavior is normal in certain industries.<\/p>\n In my opinion, whether it is common or not, it is inappropriate, and she needs to go to HR to get it stopped.<\/p>\n Keep reading for all the details..<\/p>\n I\u2019m looking for an outside perspective because I genuinely can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m overreacting or if my workplace is as strange as it feels.<\/p>\n I\u2019m autistic and currently working in a Civil Service AO role. I\u2019m normally very grounded, but my manager\u2019s behaviour has been making me feel constantly on edge and even weirdly huge in my own body, despite being fit and healthy.<\/p>\n I can\u2019t tell if this is a me\u2011problem or an environment problem.<\/p>\n Here are the things that are throwing me:<\/p>\n Ok, this is definitely weird. I can see how it would make you uncomfortable.<\/p>\n She regularly scans my body up and down silently when I walk in. Focuses on my stomach hips and my thighs. I\u2019ve seen her do this multiple times to me in 3 days now. It\u2019s got that bad that I\u2019m starting to see myself as bigger than I am. I\u2019ve always been told I\u2019m sporty\/athletic but I\u2019m starting to question myself now. The boss is definitely being inappropriate at work.<\/p>\n \u2060\u2060\u2060Verbalises a desire to be \u2018stick thin\u2019 and projects body insecurity onto me. Says she used to be a size 4 and wants to be thin again. Comes into the office first thing in the morning and brags about how many calories she burnt in the gym and how sore her arms are. \u2060\u2060\u2060She oscillates between forced friendliness and completely ignoring me for days while chatting normally to others especially other men.<\/p>\n Wow, this is awful.<\/p>\n \u2060\u2060\u2060On my very first day of work she said \u201cyou\u2019ve got beautiful eyes\u201d and asked \u201cdo you have a boyfriend?\u201d<\/p>\n \u2060\u2060\u2060A legal advisor said to me \u201cI think you\u2019d make a good court assistant\u201d and she interrupted him and said \u201cI could do that job what does it pay and how do I apply?\u201d<\/p>\n I\u2019ve worked in a lot of places and never experienced anything like this.<\/p>\n If it is only a problem with her boss, she should talk to HR about it.<\/p>\n The lack of boundaries is exhausting, and I\u2019m starting to question my own perception.<\/p>\n I\u2019m planning to leave in a month, but I\u2019d like to understand whether this behaviour is actually inappropriate or if I\u2019m somehow misreading it.<\/p>\n Is this normal management behaviour in the civil service, or is this as unprofessional as it feels?<\/p>\n No, it is not normal behavior in any field. Even if it was normal, it wouldn\u2019t be right. This person should really go talk to HR or another manager to try to get it to stop.<\/p>\n Trending and Popular If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a woman who gets in trouble at work for helping coworkers once she\u2019s finished her own tasks. Read The Drama\u2192<\/a><\/p>\n Read on to see what the people in the comments on Reddit have to say about the situation.<\/p>\n This person suggests just ignoring it until she moves to the new job.<\/p>\n Now this would be funny.<\/p>\n Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n I agree with this commenter.<\/p>\n Make her endure the awkwardness.<\/p>\n I think the boss is insecure as well.<\/p>\n She should not have to endure this type of behavior from her boss. Just because she is another woman does not make this type of harassment excusable.<\/p>\n Her next step should be to talk to HR about the situation and get it documented. If she doesn\u2019t do this, she won\u2019t have anything she can do if things continue or even escalate.<\/p>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a hotel guest who complained about noise from an event, then reported the employee who agreed with him.<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\t
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\n\u2060\u2060\u2060Questions my lunch (What are you having for lunch today?) and goes silent\/judging when I answer and then tells me she\u2019s eating a salad. Obsessively talks about her diet but then goes out to Tesco to buy crisps\/cakes. Slags off female celebrities appearances all the time and says \u201cthe only reason she\u2019s got a good body is because she can afford to go to the gym and has the time\u201d<\/p>\n
\n\u2060\u2060\u2060Threatened to slap a colleague across the face. When I intervened and questioned her she said \u201cyou\u2019re mad.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
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