{"id":784120,"date":"2026-09-27T09:22:09","date_gmt":"2026-09-27T09:22:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/784120\/"},"modified":"2026-09-27T09:22:09","modified_gmt":"2026-09-27T09:22:09","slug":"i-was-angry-at-my-husband-i-didnt-know-he-had-dementia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/784120\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I was angry at my husband &#8211; I didn&#8217;t know he had dementia&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">Since Clive&#8217;s death in 1999, Helen has been working as a dementia researcher, raising awareness of his condition and continuing his legacy through her charity, The Clive Project. <\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">She continues to tell her story because there is still &#8220;more to be done&#8221; to help dementia patients and their families, she said. <\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">Helen described her late-husband as a calm, level-headed and &#8220;very active guy&#8221; who used to run marathons, even &#8220;before it was popular&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;Clive was unflappable,&#8221; she said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;He reckoned he failed if he lost his temper.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">But as Clive approached his 40s things began to change.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;You can&#8217;t really tell at what stage somebody&#8217;s behaviour changes,&#8221; she said. <\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;Younger people in particular are always going to be difficult to diagnose.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;And he covered up some things. He never admitted to me that he was having problems with reading and writing.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">While Helen had never before heard of dementia in younger people, she said she &#8220;knew there was something wrong&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;I would make plans and he would forget he was looking after the children,&#8221; she said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;We had very many arguments about it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ssrcss-1q0x1qg-Paragraph e1jhz7w10\">&#8220;He said, &#8216;I&#8217;m just growing old&#8217; &#8211; and he was early forties then.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Since Clive&#8217;s death in 1999, Helen has been working as a dementia researcher, raising awareness of his condition&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":784121,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[43],"tags":[102,2960,56,54,55],"class_list":["post-784120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-healthcare","tag-health","tag-healthcare","tag-uk","tag-united-kingdom","tag-unitedkingdom"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/784120","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=784120"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/784120\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/784121"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=784120"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=784120"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=784120"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}