{"id":98980,"date":"2025-08-28T15:53:30","date_gmt":"2025-08-28T15:53:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/98980\/"},"modified":"2025-08-28T15:53:30","modified_gmt":"2025-08-28T15:53:30","slug":"partner-centered-personal-finance-white-coat-investor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/98980\/","title":{"rendered":"Partner-Centered Personal Finance | White Coat Investor"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"By Francis Bayes<\/a>, WCI Columnist<\/p>\n

Before we married, my partner and I were in contrasting financial situations. My partner had more income and savings than me, a high savings rate, and a \u201cset-it-and-forget-it\u201d approach that was invested in a target date fund. Meanwhile, I was scraping by on an MD\/PhD<\/a> stipend, and I had to get up to speed on DIY personal finance.<\/p>\n

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When my partner and I married, we merged our finances and created a financial plan\u2014for spending, saving, investing, and giving\u2014that reflects our shared financial and non-financial goals<\/a>. We have successfully worked together on various aspects of our financial plan: maximizing investing in our tax-protected accounts, refinancing my partner\u2019s student loans, adjusting our spending, and saving to prepare for our child. Just as we have household chores that we prefer to do or avoid, I \u201cenjoy\u201d comparing student loan refinancing companies or learning about financial products that are better than Vanguard\u2019s<\/a>, so I have been responsible for implementing our decisions.<\/p>\n

But more recently, when I try to improve any elements of our financial plan, I realize that I am tinkering. The Oxford Dictionary defines tinkering as: \u201cto make small changes to something in order to repair or improve it, especially in a way that may not be helpful\u201d (emphasis added). Our financial plan has been good enough for two bear markets, a job change, a cross-country move, and a new child. Yet, I still think about marginal, cumbersome ways to save money or boost investment returns.<\/p>\n

I would save time and effort for myself and my partner if I consistently practiced partner-centered personal finance<\/a>. This is inspired by patient-centered care, which focuses on the patient\u2019s needs and desired outcomes. It is integral to all medical specialties, but especially so in psychiatry. Its applications range from using language such as \u201cnonadherence\u201d rather than \u201cnoncompliance\u201d (thereby implying our shared responsibility) to helping the patient decide their treatment option via motivational interviewing.<\/p>\n

In this column, I want to share how we have adopted a partner-centered approach to implementing our financial plan.<\/p>\n

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Use \u2018Teach-Back’ with Your Partner<\/p>\n

Every year, we review our financial plan and progress toward financial independence, and we determine our spending, saving, and giving goals for the upcoming year. Some concepts, like savings rate and monthly cash flow, are familiar to both of us, so I provide summary updates. More esoteric concepts that would come out of a financial advisor\u2019s mouth (e.g., how we calculate our annualized real return<\/a>) require a refresher before we compare our annualized real return to benchmarks such as a target date fund (TL; DR: it is good enough).<\/p>\n

At the end of our meeting, I use the \u201cteach-back method<\/a>\u201d to assess how well I explain concepts that are unfamiliar to my partner. I borrow teach-back from my clinical practice in which I tell my patients or their family: \u201cI want to make sure that I explained things clearly by asking you questions about what we have discussed. This is a way to test myself. Could you tell me about x-y-z?\u201d<\/p>\n

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Teach-back elicits not only my partner\u2019s understanding but also allows us to share each other\u2019s thoughts and emotions about our financial plan and progress. It engages us in discussing important topics\u2014such as the rationale for our asset allocation<\/a>\u2014that are not as interesting to my partner as knowing how much we spend and save every year. In some years, like 2022, teach-back helps reassess our ability to \u201cstay the course\u201d based on our shared understanding of stocks\u2019 volatility and our investing timeframe. We can appreciate that we are on the same page emotionally and intellectually about our financial plan, and we can reinforce our positive progress.<\/p>\n

More information here:<\/p>\n

7 Ways to Get Your Partner on Board Financially<\/a><\/p>\n

Actual Money Fights We\u2019ve Had (and How We Solved Them)<\/a><\/p>\n

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Consolidate Brokerages and Accounts Where Possible<\/p>\n

Myriad articles have been written about people losing track of their old 401(k) plans<\/a> or making mistakes in the rollover process<\/a>. When my partner switched jobs, I rolled over the old employer\u2019s 401(k) into the new employer\u2019s 401(k) right away. The process is so archaic, risky, and time-consuming\u2014it requires a physical check to be mailed\u2014that I would not wish it on my worst enemy.<\/p>\n

I stopped dabbling in different financial products so that my partner can find most of our accounts with the brokerage where we already have our Roth IRA and HSA. Even with other banks and brokerages offering bonuses for new accounts, I have opened new accounts only with the same brokerage for various cash funds (e.g., emergency fund, baby fund) and investing goals (e.g., retirement, college). One exception is that I have wanted to use our brokerage\u2019s cash management account as our checking account so that our cash would earn yield in their money market fund; however, my partner preferred to stay with our brick-and-mortar bank\u2019s checking account for the sake of convenience and familiarity.<\/p>\n

So, that\u2019s what we did.<\/p>\n

These consolidations are similar to how we changed my partner\u2019s credit card strategy<\/a>. I still \u201cchurn and burn\u201d by opening new credit cards when their signup bonus is at or near an all-time high. I use 3-4 cards at any given time to maximize the return for each spending category, although it is like muscle memory at this point. Meanwhile, my partner only uses two credit cards to not bother with the complexity. The two cards provide a \u201cgood enough\u201d strategy with points diversification and good earning rates.<\/p>\n

Which one\u2019s credit card strategy is better? On this site, many readers would side with my partner.<\/p>\n

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Include a Contingency Plan in the Financial Plan<\/p>\n

I am only in my 30s, but it only takes one call shift to remind me that anything can happen to anyone at any time. If something were to happen to me, can my partner take over and follow our financial plan? Will they want to follow the plan alone?<\/p>\n

My partner would very likely not care about investing in small-cap value. They would very likely not want to frequently rebalance crypto<\/a>. They would likely not want to deal with (1) managing tax forms from different banks and brokerages or (2) consolidating those accounts.<\/p>\n

Our financial plan includes the following contingency plan<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Collect benefits from term life insurance policies.
\nFollow up on beneficiary dispersion or account transfer for the deceased\u2019s accounts.
\nContinue to max out tax-deferred and tax-free accounts in the following order: 1) 401(k) employer match, 2) Roth IRA, 3) HSA, 4) 401(k). Every year, make sure to check the maximum contribution limits<\/a> for the Roth IRA and HSA.
\nAsset allocation. Buy US total stock market index funds (e.g., FXAIX, VTI) each time you contribute to the Roth IRA or HSA. For existing assets that are not US total stock market index funds, either: leave it as is OR sell all and buy VTI.
\nCredit cards (what happens to points<\/a> when one of us dies?). Transfer the deceased\u2019s transferable credit card points to your account. Request Airline X, Airline Y, Hotel A, and Hotel B to transfer points.
\nIf this plan is too challenging or confusing, share this with our friend ABC and ask for help.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, my partner will have the financial power of attorney so that they would not have to go through hoops to access my accounts and manage our finances if I am incapacitated.<\/p>\n

More information here:<\/p>\n

Preparing for Tragedy: Ensuring Your Partner Can Manage Without You<\/a><\/p>\n

The Perspectives of an Older Investor vs. a Younger Investor<\/a><\/p>\n

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\u2018Make the Unbearable Bearable’<\/p>\n

In some relationships, one partner\u2014regardless of gender\u2014approaches personal finance as a DIY hobby, while the other is less enthusiastic about the nuts and bolts<\/a> of pursuing financial independence. Talking about anything finance-related can even be unbearable for the latter. If patient-centered care made Ken Schwartz\u2019s experience with lung cancer<\/a> more bearable, then surely a partner-centered approach to personal finance can help the more aversive partner be more involved in their shared journey to financial independence\u2014and to be more prepared for any unexpected setbacks in their partnership.<\/p>\n

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Physicians train for years to learn about medicine. But financial literacy was not part of the curriculum. That\u2019s where The White Coat Investor comes in\u2014by offering tons of entry-level information to get you started on the right path. We have a FREE email series<\/a> called WCI 101 that reviews the basics in bite-sized chunks. You can check out our Start Here page<\/a> to learn all about personal finance for doctors. And you can peruse our Frequently Asked Questions<\/a> to get even more info. It\u2019s easy to feel overwhelmed when learning about finance. WCI is here to help!<\/p>\n

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What do you think? Would partner-centered personal finance help in your own relationship? Would you do anything different?\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"By Francis Bayes, WCI Columnist Before we married, my partner and I were in contrasting financial situations. My…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":98981,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[48499,84,3268,4176,9599,48500,4174,4175,48501,48502,56,54,55],"class_list":{"0":"post-98980","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-personal-finance","8":"tag-attending-physician","9":"tag-business","10":"tag-family-life","11":"tag-finance","12":"tag-financial-literacy","13":"tag-new-attending-physician","14":"tag-personal-finance","15":"tag-personalfinance","16":"tag-post-residency-planning","17":"tag-resident-physician","18":"tag-uk","19":"tag-united-kingdom","20":"tag-unitedkingdom"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/98980","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=98980"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/98980\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/98981"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=98980"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=98980"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=98980"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}