Let’s go girls: Meet-up clubs help women form community in adulthood | Lifestyles

SACRAMENTO, Calif. — On a summer Tuesday evening, a group of 18 young women gathered at Alma Wine Bar in downtown Sacramento — most of them complete strangers to one another.

By the end of the evening, fueled by a few glasses of wine and a handful of casual board games, new friendships were forged and potentially long-lasting connections made. That’s exactly what Carly Grider, the organizer who hosted the evening hangout event, hoped for.

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