{"id":211464,"date":"2026-03-09T11:03:09","date_gmt":"2026-03-09T11:03:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/211464\/"},"modified":"2026-03-09T11:03:09","modified_gmt":"2026-03-09T11:03:09","slug":"with-iran-california-military-families-fear-another-forever-war","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/211464\/","title":{"rendered":"With Iran, California military families fear another ‘forever war’"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

TWENTYNINE PALMS, Calif. \u00a0\u2014\u00a0Brandi Jones and her boyfriend were both 22 when he first deployed to Iraq with a Twentynine Palms-based infantry Marine unit in 2004. <\/p>\n

The next year, they married and prepared a will, knowing another deployment could occur at any time. When her husband returned to Iraq in 2009, their children were 2 and 4. <\/p>\n

Seventeen years later, Jones\u2019 husband is still an active-duty Marine. And when she learned on Feb. 28 that the U.S. and Israel had attacked Iran, killing Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei, an old fear overwhelmed her: Could he be deployed again \u2014 and could her children lose their father \u2014 in yet another conflict in the Middle East? <\/p>\n

\u201cI thought, \u2018If their dad deploys again now and doesn\u2019t come home, at least they got to know him and he got to see them grow up,\u2019\u201d said Jones, who now lives in Monterey County and is the organizing director for the Secure Families Initiative, a nonprofit that advocates for military families and veterans. <\/p>\n

\"A <\/p>\n

Business at Apollo Depot Military Outlet, in downtown Oceanside, began picking up about two weeks ago, before news of the military action in Iran.<\/p>\n

(Allen J. Schaben \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p>\n

The escalating conflict has sent a chill through military communities across California, which is home to<\/a> more than 157,000 active-duty military personnel \u2014 more than<\/a> any other state. For some service families, the images of missile strikes and talk of deployment readiness have resurrected the fear and uncertainty of Iraq and Afghanistan \u2014 so-called forever wars.<\/p>\n

\u201cFamilies are saying, \u2018What is the mission?\u2019 They wonder, what is the timeline?\u201d Jones said. \u201cAnd, of course, everyone is fearful that it will be years and years.\u201d<\/p>\n

In fact, a Californian was among the first American service members<\/a> to die in the war.<\/p>\n

Chief Warrant Officer 3 Robert M. Marzan, 54, of Sacramento was killed in Kuwait on March 1 in a retaliatory drone strike by Iran, according to the Pentagon and his family. He was among six U.S. Army Reserve soldiers killed in the attack on Port Shuaiba. <\/p>\n

Marzan was assigned to the 103rd Sustainment Command in Des Moines \u2014 a unit tasked with supplying troops with food, fuel, ammunition and equipment \u2014 and deployed to Kuwait to support the war effort. After serving for more than 30 years in the military, he was in the final two months of his last deployment, according to his family<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Military bases across California have tightened security since the conflict began, requiring more stringent<\/a> visitor identification, checks at gates<\/a> and warning of traffic delays. Naval air stations in the Central Valley city of Lemoore and El Centro in Imperial County canceled public air shows<\/a> planned for this month out of safety concerns<\/a>. <\/p>\n

The San Diego-based USS Abraham Lincoln is one of two known U.S. aircraft carriers engaged in the conflict, along with the Virginia-based USS Gerald R. Ford. <\/p>\n

\"A <\/p>\n

A crewman directs an F-35C Lightning II on the flight deck of the USS Abraham Lincoln in support of the U.S. military campaign in Iran.<\/p>\n

(U.S. Navy \/ AP)<\/p>\n

One photo published by the Pentagon shows a fighter plane<\/a> preparing to launch from the flight deck of the Lincoln at an undisclosed location at sea. A crewman directing the aircraft wears a large Los Angeles Dodgers sticker on his yellow helmet. <\/p>\n

On March 1, the military\u2019s U.S. Central Command refuted Iranian claims that it had struck the carrier, writing in a social media post<\/a>: \u201cThe Lincoln was not hit. The missiles launched didn\u2019t even come close.\u201d<\/p>\n

In an interview Friday, U.S. Rep. Scott Peters (D-San Diego), whose district includes the Lincoln\u2019s home port, Naval Air Station North Island, said military families in San Diego are under \u201ca lot of stress.\u201d <\/p>\n

San Diego is home to one of the largest concentrations<\/a> of post-9\/11 veterans in the country, and many are uneasy about deploying troops to Iran after decades of war in the Middle East, he said.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not like they\u2019re calling us up and complaining. That\u2019s not what they do,\u201d Peters said. \u201cThey sign up for this mission. They know that sacrifice is part of it. But that doesn\u2019t make it easy.\u201d <\/p>\n

Peters said he was disturbed by social media videos posted by the White House, including one<\/a> that mixed airstrike footage from the Iran war with scenes from \u201cTop Gun,\u201d \u201cSuperman,\u201d \u201cIron Man,\u201d and the television show \u201cBreaking Bad.\u201d <\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s war. It\u2019s not a war game,\u201d he said. \u201cThe feeling you get is that this is very entertaining for them, that they\u2019re feeling very muscular. But this is a really costly thing for the country and the families that put their lives on the line and their spouses and their brothers and sisters. In San Diego, you won\u2019t see people making fun of this.\u201d <\/p>\n

\"A <\/p>\n

Shalena Critchlow, a regional organizer for Secure Families Initiative, has been speaking with young military spouses about the realities of deployment.<\/p>\n

(Allen J. Schaben \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p>\n

In Oceanside, home to Marine Corps Base Camp Pendleton, Shalena Critchlow, 42, said that when she first learned of the attack on Iran, she felt guilty because she was relieved that her 24-year-old son had recently completed his service with the Marines and would not be deployed. <\/p>\n

Her sons were born in 2002, 2003 and 2009. All they know is wartime, she said. <\/p>\n

Critchlow, a regional organizer for Secure Families Initiative, was 17 when she married her ex-husband, who joined the Marines right out of high school and was deployed multiple times to Iraq and Afghanistan. In the years after 9\/11, Oceanside was covered in yellow ribbons meant to support the troops. As a young mom with a husband overseas, she would drive onto base every day crying. <\/p>\n

In recent days, Critchlow has been speaking with young military spouses, preparing them for the realities of deployment.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat I\u2019m hearing is confusion, frustration, being scared, worried. … Everyone is kind of looking for comfort. People are looking for transparency,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

At the Apollo Depot Military Outlet in downtown Oceanside on Friday, Sam Esparza, 32, was stocking a display case with pins and checking inventory. He said he grew up watching his dad help service members at the store, which opened in 1972. <\/p>\n

Esparza said business started ramping up about two weeks ago, before news of the military action in Iran. His regular customers did not mention anything \u2014 not a surprise from clientele who know not to share classified information \u2014 but Esparza has been around long enough to sense that the Marines who were coming in to replace gear like sleeping bags and warm clothing were preparing to ship out. <\/p>\n

\u201cRight before everything was happening, I had buddies telling me, \u2018Hey, we\u2019re not gonna see you for a while,\u2019\u201d he said. \u201cThen you wake up and see the news and realize where they\u2019re going.\u201d<\/p>\n

Often, Marines stop by the shop after a meal and a few drinks at a bar nearby, he said. <\/p>\n

\u201cThey\u2019re happy, but you get a sense there\u2019s a seriousness behind it,\u201d he said. \u201cThey\u2019re just trying to enjoy the time they have here.\u201d<\/p>\n

In Twentynine Palms, City Manager Stone James said local leaders are working to understand the potential needs of the Inland Empire community and its military families in the event of a mass deployment.<\/p>\n

The mood, he said, is \u201cupbeat, given the fact that we have just eliminated a regime that has slaughtered tens of thousands of their own people and repressed women\u2019s rights and dignity and humanity.\u201d<\/p>\n

But around town, some locals said they were uneasy, and uncertain, about what the war could mean for their community and loved ones. <\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not just troop deployment to us. It\u2019s our neighbors and our families,\u201d said Mike Usher, an Air Force veteran who owns the gastropub Grnd Sqrl, which serves a lot of Marines and has seen a noticeable drop in customers the last few days.<\/p>\n

\"A <\/p>\n

Bob Jaureguy of Oceanside discusses the military attack on Iran at the Oceanside Pier.<\/p>\n

(Allen J. Schaben \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p>\n

On Thursday, Combat Barber II, a staple for Marines seeking high-and-tight haircuts, did not receive a single customer in the first six hours it was open. <\/p>\n

Business has been down over the past year, but the past week was especially slow, said barber Leena Nguyen, who has worked there for 26 years. The barbershop also saw a decline back in 2003, when Twentynine Palms Marines were first sent to Iraq, Nguyen said. <\/p>\n

\u201cWhen they get ready to go to war, we\u2019re slow,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n

At Eddie\u2019s Alterations, which specializes in tailoring military uniforms, owner Eddie Benitez believes customers may be reluctant to leave the sprawling Marine base because of stepped-up security measures. <\/p>\n

Still, he said, the war is in its early stages, and business has not declined as much as it did in 2009, when troops surged to Afghanistan and turned Twentynine Palms into a veritable ghost town.<\/p>\n

Benitez\u2019s concerns about the Iran conflict go far beyond his business. He was 1 when his father, a Navy sailor, went missing in action during the Vietnam War. Now, his daughter is stationed at Nellis Air Force Base near Las Vegas, and some of her colleagues have already been deployed. <\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m worried,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

Next door, at Caveman Kyle\u2019s American Art Tattoo Studio, artist Derrick Seymour said he expects business to increase if troops are mobilized. <\/p>\n

Twentynine Palms is the primary training base for Marines slated for deployment for the Middle East, with its harsh desert climate and mock villages meant to simulate combat conditions overseas. Ahead of any mobilization to the region, there tends to be an influx of Marines from across the country, said Seymour, who grew up there. <\/p>\n

\"Marine <\/p>\n

Marines often stop by Apollo Depot Military Outlet after a meal and a few drinks at a bar nearby.<\/p>\n

(Allen J. Schaben \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p>\n

Before a mass deployment, the shop tends to see an uptick in military motivational, or \u201cmoto,\u201d tattoos, which often feature unit numbers or slogans. And when troops return, artists are busy inking tributes to fallen comrades. <\/p>\n

\u201cI remember in the late 2000s, during the first Iraq invasion, we were doing a lot of the boots and Kevlar memorials,\u201d Seymour said.<\/p>\n

At the Virginian, a dimly lit dive bar with dollar bills plastered to the wall, bartender Joshua Roche was pouring beers Thursday for a rowdy group that included one active-duty and two retired Marines.<\/p>\n

He said he does not sense much anxiety among his clientele. <\/p>\n

\u201cThey\u2019re just like, we\u2019re f\u2014 ready to go,\u201d he said. <\/p>\n

Wigglesworth reported from Twentynine Palms, Branson-Potts reported from Los Angeles, and Fry reported from Oceanside. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"TWENTYNINE PALMS, Calif. \u00a0\u2014\u00a0Brandi Jones and her boyfriend were both 22 when he first deployed to Iraq with…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":211465,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[5298,387,7,9,97206,8,4005,7736,19378,33595,7341,5682,3282,3137,97205,4417,62519,2664],"class_list":{"0":"post-211464","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-california","8":"tag-afghanistan","9":"tag-business","10":"tag-california","11":"tag-california-headlines","12":"tag-california-military-family","13":"tag-california-news","14":"tag-conflict","15":"tag-deployment","16":"tag-iran","17":"tag-iraq","18":"tag-marines","19":"tag-next-year","20":"tag-oceanside","21":"tag-san","22":"tag-service-family","23":"tag-troop","24":"tag-twentynine-palms","25":"tag-war"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/211464","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=211464"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/211464\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/211465"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=211464"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=211464"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=211464"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}