{"id":461005,"date":"2026-09-11T23:00:12","date_gmt":"2026-09-11T23:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/461005\/"},"modified":"2026-09-11T23:00:12","modified_gmt":"2026-09-11T23:00:12","slug":"caleb-kaufman-joins-the-los-angeles-blade-through-the-california-local-news-fellowship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/461005\/","title":{"rendered":"Caleb Kaufman joins the Los Angeles Blade through the California Local News Fellowship"},"content":{"rendered":"

In addition to the growing list of sexualities, we\u2019re expanding how we look at our relationships. Whether you\u2019re monogamous, open, or living in a pansexual polycule, love is love.\u00a0 Daniel, Will, and Caleb, the hosts of the A Little Throuple Tea<\/a> podcast, have invited the world into their unique relationship to show them the ins and outs of throuple life.\u00a0<\/p>\n

This tell-all podcast is one part of 3Dudes1Life Creative<\/a>, which also includes a romantic memoir series, Tres Amigos, Una Vida, and a budding lifestyle brand that\u2019s destigmatizing living and loving in a threesome.\u00a0<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve got Will, the HBIC with the clipboard and mastermind behind creating this whole enterprise. You\u2019ve got Caleb, the grounded, pragmatic one with a dry sense of humor. Then there\u2019s Daniel, the creative who brings humor, creativity, and spirituality into the mix.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The guys took some time to share their origin story and how they make it all work. They are also quick to dispel any fantastical fixations and morbid misconceptions about their romance. They\u2019re direct, plainspoken, and most importantly grounded in a relationship they\u2019ve built that works for them.\u00a0<\/p>\n

So how did you all meet?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: I moved to Southern California from South Dakota in 2006 for college and met Caleb later that year before going out to Rich\u2019s one night. He was in the Navy, and our friends set us up. We have been together ever since.\u00a0<\/p>\n

In 2010, we met Daniel through nightlife and started a friendship. We actually tried the \u201cthrouple\u201d thing back in 2011, but it didn\u2019t last long. We continued our friendship after that, but in 2016, after a trip to the Dominican Republic, our second attempt at a throuple began. Since then, we have been together for over a decade, enjoying this wild ride called life.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: I came from a small city in West Texas, Lubbock. I was 20 at the time, renting a cheap hotel in downtown, and drinking with shipmates was the usual. After seeing places like Australia, Hong Kong, Japan, Dubai, and Malaysia, I had a shipmate tell me about her friend who was single. By the time we got back to port, her single friend was no longer single, but they did introduce me to Will.<\/p>\n

He tried to seduce me by introducing himself in just a towel, which worked. After going out that night, we started to hang out every weekend. And then soon after that, I was moving in with him, and the rest is history.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel was an avid bar goer who spent at least 6 nights a week bar hopping. Will, being the hip-hop DJ that he is, would draw Daniel and his friends to his dance floor. Soon after, they started talking on Facebook and a friendship blossomed. One night, when Will was DJing, Daniel and his friends, of course, came out to dance. I came out later that night, and when I went to go say hi to Will, he told me that Daniel was there and pointed him out on the dance floor.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The night was mostly a blur after that from shots, drinks, Daniel backing it up on me, and ending with some greasy food. I\u2019m pretty sure they all crashed at our place that night cause pretty much every weekend after that, Daniel and his friends were crashing at our place.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: We all met in Hillcrest while Will was DJing back in 2010. I had always known who Will was from the local scene, but our actual introduction happened when he sent me a Facebook message offering to get me into the bar for free. That night, I met both Will and Caleb, and the rest is history.\u00a0<\/p>\n

What do you feel is the biggest misconception about being in a throuple?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: The biggest misconception is that a throuple is all about sex. In reality, our relationship is like any other.\u00a0 We have conversations, challenges, ups and downs, quality time together, and yes, intimacy too. It\u2019s all about balance.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: I think that the biggest misconception is that because we are a polyamorous relationship, we are open in our relationship. Now, yes, Will and I weren\u2019t open per-say but we did have some hot, heated times, and we always played together. I think if we didn\u2019t have some occasional fun together, the idea of being a throuple would have been out of the question. But as soon as we became an official throuple, we closed the door and are monogamous now.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: That someone must be a \u201chomewrecker\u201d or that the original couple must not have been happy together. It\u2019s almost as if people think adding a third person will somehow fix a struggling relationship. For us, the evolution from friendship to partners happened naturally. Adding a third personality and dynamic to a relationship doesn\u2019t fix problems\u2014if anything, it requires a lot more communication, trust, and work to make it successful.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Another misconception is that it\u2019s just a phase. Maybe for some people it is, but for us it definitely isn\u2019t. We\u2019ve built a life together, and in the end, it has made all three of us better men.\u00a0<\/p>\n

What inspired the podcast?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: This is a Will question, lol. After having a great success with an LGBTQ+ day at state and county fairs called \u201cOut at the Fair\u201d, current political views quickly turned what was a successful, family-friendly LGBTQ+ day into the \u201cred-headed stepchild\u201d no one wanted.\u00a0<\/p>\n

So Will did what any CEO would do; he pivoted! He saw how popular \u201cOut at the Fair\u201d was, along with a few side hustles; we had an Etsy that was gaining traction, and for some reason people wanted to know who we were. So he started a blog. Then the blog very quickly became the podcast.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: We have been told for years that we should record our life and share our story. Over the last year, I experienced some major changes in our business, and it gave us the opportunity to pivot in a new direction.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Instead of dwelling on things we couldn\u2019t control, we decided to turn that frustration and uncertainty into a creative project. That\u2019s how the podcast was born. It became a way for us to share our experiences, our relationship, and the ups and downs of life with the world.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When we first got together, there really weren\u2019t many examples of long-term throuples living normal lives. We wanted people to see that our life isn\u2019t all that different from anyone else\u2019s. We work, pay bills, argue about dinner, take care of our dogs, and try to build a future together.\u00a0<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, it\u2019s really just three guys talking about life, love, chaos, and everything in between\u2014and people seem to connect with that.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: The inspiration mainly came from our Instagram page. We get a lot of questions about how our relationship works, where we\u2019re from, and how we met. With the following we built on Instagram, Will had the idea of starting a podcast and sharing more of our lives through conversations on a mic and camera. The podcast gives people a chance to hear answers to their questions while also seeing our authentic personalities, how we communicate, and how much we tease each other. It\u2019s been a lot of fun to create.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Do you think anyone could be in a throuple, or do you feel you\u2019re uniquely suited for each other?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: I don\u2019t think being in a throuple is for everyone, and that\u2019s okay. We can tell by some of the reactions, facial expressions, and comments we receive that it isn\u2019t something everyone understands or would want for themselves.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But for the people it does work for, it can be amazing\u2014and really, that\u2019s all that matters. At the end of the day, every relationship is unique. Ours just happens to have three people instead of two.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: I think anyone could be in a throuple if the connection, communication, and mutual respect are there. That said, I\u2019ve had many people tell me they couldn\u2019t do it because they\u2019d be too jealous or wouldn\u2019t want to share their partner. I understand that feeling. In my experience, jealousy often shows up when someone doesn\u2019t feel secure, equal, or heard. Communication is what helps navigate those feelings. When everyone feels valued and understood, a throuple can be an incredibly loving and supportive relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: No, I don\u2019t think a throuple is for everyone. They are not for the weak-hearted. And I feel like you have to be emotionally mature. I say that because, like all relationships, jealousy can play a huge role, especially when there are more than 2 people in a relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

What do you think is the secret to your relationship success?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: I call it the \u201ctriangle of support.\u201d We\u2019re able to balance each other and lean on one another. If a misunderstanding or disagreement happens, the third person can often provide perspective and help us better understand each other. I also think our success comes from the fact that we were friends first. We know each other deeply, understand how each person communicates, and genuinely enjoy spending time together.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: Communication. I know most would say, \u2018Well, duh,\u2019 but when you add a third personality, family, career, schedule, and life into the mix, communication becomes even more important. If you aren\u2019t talking about everything and anything, it\u2019s easy for someone to feel left out or not included. Honestly, our group chat is ridiculous, but it\u2019s also one of the reasons we thrive. We stay connected throughout the day, work through issues as they come up, and make sure everyone feels heard. It may sound simple, but consistent communication has been the foundation of our relationship\u2019s success.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: I guess really there\u2019s nothing different than a traditional relationship. We try to make a monthly date night, we take vacations together, we give each other our space when we need it and support each other when it\u2019s too hard to stand. And of course we try to keep it spicy in the bedroom. It is easier to spice things up when you have 2 \u2018joysticks\u2019 to play with.\u00a0<\/p>\n

What would you say is the most important aspect of your relationship?\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

Daniel: Communication and the ability to be silly together. We joke with each other constantly, and that keeps life fun. Being able to laugh together makes even stressful situations feel a little lighter.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Will: The most important aspect of our relationship is knowing that none of us ever has to face life alone. No matter how bad the day is or how difficult a situation becomes, there is always someone there to lean on. We call it our \u201ctriangle of support.\u201d When one of us is struggling, the other two are there to help carry the load. At the end of the day, knowing you are loved, supported, and never alone is a pretty powerful thing.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Caleb: Us 3 are all totally different personalities! I think that\u2019s why we work so great together. Otherwise life would just be too boring.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Check out their 3Dudes1Life app<\/a> to access their podcast, their book, and more!<\/p>\n

And look for more of these guys on the Los Angeles Blade. Part 2 of our interview with them, answering relationship questions, is on the way, and we will be sharing the latest episodes of their podcast right here! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"In addition to the growing list of sexualities, we\u2019re expanding how we look at our relationships. Whether you\u2019re…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":461006,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[181776,181777,93,48,52,51,181778,181779,47,66843,50,49,181780,181781],"class_list":["post-461005","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-los-angeles","tag-caleb-kaufman","tag-california-local-news-fellowship","tag-featured","tag-la","tag-la-headlines","tag-la-news","tag-lgbtq-communities","tag-lgbtq-stories","tag-los-angeles","tag-los-angeles-blade","tag-los-angeles-headlines","tag-los-angeles-news","tag-queer-journalism","tag-uc-berkeleys-graduate-school-of-journalism"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/461005","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=461005"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/461005\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/461006"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=461005"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=461005"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newsbeep.com\/us-ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=461005"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}